My sister got married in August in Virginia, where she and her husband met and live. The groom's family is from New York and many people did not come to the wedding in Virginia. So, my sister's new mother-in-law is throwing them a big reception in New York on New Year's Eve (the timing was his mom's idea!), AND she seems to expect my sister to wear the wedding dress for this shindig....sweet or tacky?
2007-12-17 07:38:52 · 20 answers · asked by Tiffany E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Of course, it is my sister's decision--she thinks it's a little weird, but wondered if the potential tackiness outweighed offending her mother-in-law. My personal opinion is that if someone wants to see you in your wedding dress, they come to the wedding. New York is not light years away from Virginia, and some people did make the drive down.
2007-12-17 08:55:08 · update #1
I wouldn't wear the dress again - its a wedding dress - you wear it on the day of your wedding.
2007-12-17 07:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by Dawn 4 · 4⤊ 4⤋
Is her husband going to wear a tux? Will she have to clean it again before and after? Will she be expected to wear it all night? I think it would be great to have a chance to wear my wedding dress again. Of course if she doesn't want to, no one can make her wear it, but since her MIL is throwing them a party maybe she could find a really cute white dress/shirt/outfit to wear.
EDIT: If she doesn't wear the dress, maybe she or the MIL could use some pictures from the actual wedding in the decoration somehow. That way people will get to see how everyone looked.
2007-12-17 07:59:47 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs S 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't wear the wedding dress that long after the wedding. It sounds like a lovely party, and very generous of her mother-in-law, but you sister should wear a very nice dress appropriate for a party, not a wedding dress.
2007-12-17 08:07:20 · answer #3 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ultamitly it should be the brides decision, but i think she should just wear a nice dress. Or maybe to make everyone happy she could wear her wedding dress at the beging of the party so people could take pictures then she could change into a nice dress for the rest of the evening.
2007-12-17 08:02:35 · answer #4 · answered by LimeGreen84 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is really up to your sister. But if it was me....no. The wedding dress is reserved for that one special day. Anything after the fact I would be buying a pretty cocktail dress for. I would feel stupid getting all dolled up and trotting out in the wedding dress, like I was being shown off.
2007-12-17 08:00:26 · answer #5 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she should wear an elegant cocktail dress, but not the wedding dress. She could even get away with wearing white- but assuming that she had a big traditional ballgown, she is going to look very out of place. Even more so if her husband does not plan to wear a tux.
2007-12-17 09:15:54 · answer #6 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What ever you choose - don't eat in it. Too much risk :) Personally I'd never want to take that dress of, and I have worked as a front desk clerk and seen tons of brides still dressed up. I know tons of brides who change before they leave the church: easier to get in the get-a-way car and plus your GF's are all there to tackle the monster. (rather then the groom attempting - doubtful he'll even know what a bustle is) Perhaps your mom or friend can take it to a safe location while you enjoy the honey moon. Congrats! :)
2016-05-24 09:31:13 · answer #7 · answered by desirae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tacky... its weird enough wearing the same outfit twice anywhere (even though it has to be done) so wearing your wedding dress will feel really weird.. I'm sure she could find a nice one for a good price... or maybe she could use the one she has and change it up a little.. take it to a seems tress since she will only wear it once make it into a whole new dress...
2007-12-17 07:53:40 · answer #8 · answered by cdlc 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think it is sweet. They didn't get to see her all dressed up for the wedding day and now this is their chance. A lot of people get redressed if they have destination weddings and then a big reception when they come home. I think its perfectly all right. Plus who doesn't want to get back in their wedding dress and get all dressed up. Those things are expensive might as well get your moneys worth. haha. :0)
2007-12-17 07:51:14 · answer #9 · answered by Kmott 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would bring the dress along just to show special people that didnt get to see it, but want to, that is what I am doing, getting married in March, reception at my family farm in July. That way nobody feels left out.
2007-12-17 08:11:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go with a more casual white or ivory dress, just so she still has that bride feel, but no, I wouldn't wear the actual wedding dress.
2007-12-17 09:38:23 · answer #11 · answered by LuckyLola 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋