about virginity?

Question

i don't know why i feel this way, but is it natural to feel hurt to find out that my girl is not a virgin anymore? this is a serious question so i would really appreciate serious answers, thank you

Answer 1

No, it's not unnatural at all.... But don't make her feel bad about it.. Of course we all wish that the one we love could have been our "first" but it often doesn't end up that way..

Answer 2

It is an interesting question. No one has the right to tell you that you aren't entitled to your feelings. I'm curious however. How do you know what you know? Did she tell you or do you suspect this is the case for some reason? Are you a member of a particular spiritual group that places more value on pre-marital abstinence than most groups in this country do? If that isn't the case, why do you feel the way you do?

How would you answer this if someone else asked you?

What do you hold as criteria that are important in finding the right girl to marry? Is virginity important? If it is, that is just fine. You have the right to feel it is important to you. There are many other people in the USA who feel exactly like you do.

What you do not have the right to do however, is have a double standard. That means, that if you insist that your future wife be a virgin, then you must insist on the same for yourself. If you can't do that, then accept that your girlfriend is a special person to you now, and give her the "space" to have had prior relationships. She chooses you now. That is what is important about your relationship. The fact that she experimented sexually has no bearing on how she feels about you.

Answer 3

did she lose her virginity to someone when she was with you? that would hurt worse. but if she lost it to someone before you then, you have to either accept it or break up with her and find a girl that you like who is a virgin. I was a virgin when my current bf and I started dating and he wasn't. He lost it when he was 15 to his jr high/lil bit of high school gf, not because he loved her just cause everyone was doing it, they broke up, he had another gf for 3 years but never went all the way cause he realized it's not something that you just do for the hell of it, so when we got together at first I was upset about it, but he didn't know me at the time and ya know, he had a life before me so I can't hold that against him, although I wish I was his first, I don't think our relationship would be so good if he hadn't had any experience at all, now sex and everything is much more meaningful to him.

Answer 4

i dont really no but if i found out that my girlfriend ( who use to go out with my best friend) was a virgin anymore i wouldnt be very happy. hope that helps u out.

Answer 5

nah its not abnormal

i felt hurt when i found out my gf wasnt a virgin
so no you can feel that way

Answer 6

Personally id feel kindawierd if i was dating a girl that had sex already, its not the fact that i would want to do it, its just that my morals are that i can wait atleast till im like 25 to have sex.

Answer 7

Well, did she cheat on you and lose it to someone else? Or was she not when you met her? If the latter, I don't think it's natural. I think it's a little possessive and immature.

Answer 8

it is natural
u want to take her V away by yourself
guys get upset if they fnd out someone beat them to the puinch

dont worry about it- if you love her than dont be too upset, just love her more

** if she had stayed with that guy, she wouldnt be with you know so be grateful

Answer 9

Thats not cool.
If i was a virgin, i'd want my first time to be with a virgin too.
Which it was, still happily in love now
xx

Answer 10

only if you are a virgin. Otherwise you have no right to be disappointed that she is not a virgin.