I tend to rate men more in bed than their personality. if a guy is not good in bed i lose interest in him. i have a high sex drive where i can go for hours. i don't know if that is because i was sexually molested when i was 6 yo then drew up ashamed of myself. until i started dating at 23 yo. i had an old bf who i used to fool around a bit after we broke up 3 years ago. we call each other now and then for sex. i realize that he was not as good as he used to be in bed. i started to lose interest in him again. i did not want to date him because we had a rocky relationship. i used to remembe sex used to be great until we went at it again. it was more than one time and it was terrible i was disappointed and ask him why. he told me it was because he used to have sex with his ex gf without a condom because she was on a birth control ( one of the many he dated after we broke up). i stopped talking to him since then because there is no way i am going to sleep with him without condom. NO WAY!!
2007-12-17 07:23:30 · 10 answers · asked by singlegirl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are equating sex with affection. To you sex means some one likes you. It means that you are seriously scr*wed up. You may be a wonderful person and you should enjoy sex. It is supposed to be fun. But when you determine a relationship strictly because of sex then you have a serious problem. Look for some good counselling.
2007-12-17 07:29:16 · answer #1 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your view of sex and the way you relate to men in exclusively that fashion makes sense given what you've been through. It's amazing how predictably we can all respond under the right sets of stimuli...for example, based on what you've said, I'm tempted to defensively describe for you how much I differ from what you've experienced with this guy, but that really isn't the point, is it? Your position is predictable because that's one of the main two ways people respond when they've endured abuses early in life. That brings us to right about here...So, I have a question for you:Do you enjoy the sex you're having? I figure you're going to say "yeah...that's why I'm DOING it.." (or something to that effect); but then, you're only 26, and there's a world of levels to "enjoyment", that even at your most creative (read "freaky"), it's unlikely you've even scratched the surface on many of them, yet. Want to know why? You can't connect with the whole guy, just his parts to your parts; and while that's certainly what's up, the physical can only take you so far. That personality...trust, and "connection"...that's where the real s h i t happens, and you're not trying to have that now. Not a complaint; just an observation.
The condom decision was extremely wise, which means you've got your head together Since that's the case, I'm suggesting you deserve a fuller experience of "everything" than you're willing to give yourself right now. You owe it to yourself to change that whenever you feel you can. Good luck to you.
2007-12-17 08:11:33 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are right that you should look at a guys personality first - and stay outta his bed until you know him much better. Just knowing him intimately will spice things up more than you're probably used to and you'll be very happy you waited once you do hook up. I'm sorry to hear that you were molested when you were young. Maybe talking to a counselor will help you figure out if that terrible time in your life is affecting your ability to find happiness now.
2007-12-17 07:40:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is the difference between affection and sex? They are not the same thing. Rating someone based on sex, means that you dont know how to have feelings for someone.
If you are going to just have sex with people then it is a good thing to use a condom.
2007-12-17 07:41:42 · answer #4 · answered by sammy3256 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you need an older man who will spank you, treat you like a little kid and molest you.
2007-12-17 07:33:11 · answer #5 · answered by mikey_fiveoh 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I lost track of what the question was.
2007-12-17 07:33:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anthonylikes2...☺ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow nice rant
this should be on craigslist not yahoo answers
2007-12-17 07:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe you just have not met the right guy for you yet
2007-12-17 07:55:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
want to go out, i peform very well
2007-12-17 07:35:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no question
2007-12-17 07:32:31 · answer #10 · answered by Alex H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋