Flower Girl? Jr. Bridesmaid? Bridesmaid? Maid of Honner?

Question

I have a cousin who will be between 11 and 12 when I get married. She is a little immature and i am not sure if she is right for a jr bridesmaid but I think it might look a little odd if i have her as a flower girl. Also I have another cousin that will be 15 by the time I get married and I am very close to her is that to young to be a bridesmaid? Should she be a jr bridesmaid? I would love to have her as my maid of honner but again im not sure...any thoughts anyone has I would love to hear! thanks!

I do not have any sisters. I have one other cousin who will be 20 yrs old when we get married. I was closest to her growing up but we drifted and i am on the fence about asking her to be the maid of honner though i definitly want her as a bridesmaid. I really dont have a "best friend" i do have 2 friends who i would like to be bridesmaids and also my 2 "sister in laws to be" {neither of whom i am extremley close with}.

Answer 1

I would ask the11/12 yr old to be a Jr bridesmaid

Traditionally flower girls about 4 to 8yrs old & scatters rose petals down the aisle & wears dress thats a mini verson of the bride!

You could have her hand a flower to your mom & mil

As for the 15 year old there no reason she can't be your Moh

As Your Moh throws the bachette party if she wanted to and you wanted one you could get her to throw you her a slumber bachelorette party?

signing as the witness on the marriage license some states require witnesses to be 18 other states just the bride groom & priest(or whoever is marrying them) sign it check with the court house if they have to be signed by someone over 18 you could get someone else to sign it for her maybe even in another room!

Answer 2

15 is plenty old enough to be a bridesmaid. I'd worry more about the style of the dress though. If you have a cleavage showing dress and are worried that she might not have enough to hold it up, perhaps the junior dress is the way to go. However if you are picking a modest dress or one with straps, have her a bridesmaid. At 15, you are pretty much an adult.

As for the 11-12 yo, I'd discuss that with her mother. I know when I was that age, being called a flowergirl would have been the WORST thing imaginable! But my flowergirl was 10 at my wedding. She is very immature--still loves winnie the pooh and looks like she is more like 6 yo. I wasn't sure what she would rather be so I asked her mother. She decided she'd rather be a flower girl, but she made her own dress out of the fabric. My flowergirl wanted something more like a ballet tutu and her mother wanted something more like a junior bridesmaid. As she was my only flower girl, and it was going to be made out of the same material as the others--I didn't care what pattern they picked. They compromised but she was listed as the flowergirl. Ask the mother on this one though b/c technically 11-12 is a bit too old.

As for your Maid of Honor--are those cousins the people you are closest to? No sisters or best friends that you'd rather have? I wouldn't pick a young cousin if you are having a sister or best friend but it's your wedding. Especially b/c the MOH has several duties that might be difficult for her to organize at such a young age. However, as everyone always says--it's your wedding. You can do whatever you wish.

Answer 3

My dear Christina. You really don't need flower girls at the wedding. You can get married without a flower girl, and the wedding will still be legal. Don't worry about that. Now, I would ask the two little girls if either of them would like the honor of being a flower girl. But, you know, if I were an 11 year old girl, participating in my big cousins wedding, I would want to be a junior bridesmaid. I would think I was too old for a flower girl. So, leave it to them, but don't worry. If both choose to be junior bridesmaids, and you don't have a flower girl, you will still be Mrs. Bob Smith. I have seen it before, and it still is legal.

Answer 4

I'm 12 And And Am Goign TO be a Jr. Brides Maid In a few Days, I think the 11-12 your old would be a good jr. brides maid, and The 15 year old I think Would Be good For a bridesmaid.

Answer 5

How about the 11 year old being a junior bridesmaid? Here dress can be a little different, and a variation of the bridesmaids. The 15 year old might be able to be a good maid of honor, but she would need to be mature enough to handle the grown up situation. You and your parents are the ones who know her best and know whether or not she is suffocated enough for the role.

Answer 6

You can ask the 11-year-old to do something else, like a reading or host the guest book as people walk in. 15 is fine for a bridesmaid, I was 16 and a bridesmaid in my father's wedding.
You don't have to have EVERYONE of your female family members in your wedding! Just choose the ones you're closest to, and remember this is YOUR wedding and you can do things your way!!! Nobody is going to punish you or laugh at you for having an 11-year-old as a Jr. Bridesmaid, if that's what you choose to do.

Answer 7

Have the 20 year old as maid of honor because that person has to be over 18 to sign the marriage license as a witness. The other two can be Jr. bridesmaids.

Answer 8

My 12 year old sister will be a jr. bridesmaid in my wedding. I think that shes too old to be a flower girl but too young to be a bridesmaid. However as far as your 15 year old cousin goes if you really want her as your MOH go for it. I think she would be honored and you should give the position to someone who is very important to you and just ask you older bridesmaids to help her out with tasks that you need her for. I hope this helps. :0)

Answer 9

For the younger cousin: When I was about 10 or 11, my sister and I were in my Uncle's wedding. We were sort of flower girls, sort of honor attendants. Before the ceremony, we handed a lily to each guest. Then, during the ceremony, we walked in and then stood next to the maid of honor and best man. I stood next to my uncle and the best man; my sister stood next to my aunt and the maid of honor. It was a nice bridge position because we felt important to be standing on either side like the attendants, but we were also separate and had a different role from the other two.

For the older cousin: 15 is a little young...it depends on what you expect from your maid of honor. Is she going to be able to throw you a bachelorette party? Are you going to be comfortable with that? If you aren't planning on having one or you have another friend who will throw it, then it's a non-issue, but since it is typically the role of the maid of honor, it's something to consider. Ultimately, it's up to you. I would consult with her parents and then talk to her about responsibilities, etc.

Good luck!

Answer 10

11 is too old for a flower girl and a good age for a jr bridesmaid. 15 is kind of borderline for jr bridesmaid or bridesmaid. either will go. i wouldn't have her as your maid of honor because they are supposed to organize and throw a shower and bachelorette party (usually) and that's probably too much for her and will be a burden on her parents.