i really need to get over this guy!?! but i am still not sure how, i mean he seems so charming and sweet on the outside, but he has hurt me in so many ways, but im so stupid i just want to talk to him more then anything, and just hang with him or something, and that is totally messed up, because i need to get over him! any good suggestions on how to get over losers, i want some subtle stuff if you know what i mean? thanks in advance
2007-12-17 07:13:01 · 29 answers · asked by charlie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
stop all contact with him.
dont look at him.
dont talk to him.
dont sms him.
dont msn him.
dont write his name anywhere.
stop looking at his myspace/friendster/profile
stop looking at his photo
and stop talking about him to anyone.
tada!
2007-12-17 07:18:53 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica Dior 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Because you sound like you are still in high school or in early twenties. Not that it is bad or anything, that is some what normal until you start to stalk him..JK...
But if you are late twenties or thirties and you are doing this you are a head case. But seriously, do you really want a guy to manipulate you and cause you pain??? Think it over on this. Because if he beat you or even yell at you for no reason, that is a bad sign.
But you need to grow out of that "subtle stuff". That means you "don't want to hurt your feeling" kind of chick, and if you expect that, you beleive in fairy tales and Santa Clause.
Just drop him like a hot potatoe, there are a lot more guys out there. Just like guys always says "there is a lot more fish in the sea", well, that goes for women too.
You have a dependant issue.
2007-12-17 07:23:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this world, there are many fishes in the sea, many flowers in the fields, a lot of blouses in that Macy's store. So there's gonna be a time when you'll find another love. A TrUe LoVe.. <3 hehe You know what I mean? Like there isn't only one soul mate for everyone, right? So I would say, you don't have to be over him, but eventually you will be, and you'll be happy. So just go with the flow of what your heart desires. And you'll get over him in a blink. Hang out with your (girl)friends a lot too. And talk/ gossip with them, and keep your mind of of him. That REALLY helps..!! [: I hope this answer helps you out a little..!
2007-12-17 07:19:42 · answer #3 · answered by x3Mimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey the only way I get over a guy is to find another one. Being completely honest that would be a good thing for you to do. Im the exact same way though when i know i need to get over a guy it just makes me want to hang out with him more but I stopped talking to the guy in my case and started hanging out with a good guy friend and we went to the movies and held hands and sstuff so really I think a friend with benefits is a good way to go. Hope this helps :]
2007-12-17 07:19:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard when feelings are involved, but it's all a mental game. You need to do things that make you laugh and keep your mind entertained. For example listen to music motivating song like "to the left" seriously you have to make him realize that you are the only person who matters at this point b/c he is not that important. You have to talk to your friends and watch movies, write do activities that can keep your mind busy so that you don't waste time wondering and thinking of him. You have to realized that your are responsible for your own happiness so if this guy does not make you as happy as you deserve don't waste your time even thinking of him. The hell with him. With time my dear all these feels fade away and trust me you'll realize that your happiness depends on you and only you. If anyone ever hurts you is because you allowed them to do so. Go take a look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself it's the last time this person makes you sad!. Good luck.
2007-12-17 07:28:45 · answer #5 · answered by Diva1980 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are the hardest to get over, I think because connections with people are rare so when we find something we want to hold onto it.. no matter how much it hurts us. For me, the best way to get over a guy i'm sorry to say was time. I had to distance myself from him, go out with my girlfriends, took up a hobby to keep busy and just knew that I wanted to be with someone who treated me they way I deserved to be treated.That dream guy wasn't around then so it was hard being lonely, but the hope for him in the future stopped me from thinking in the past and helped me move on. Good Luck!!!
2007-12-17 07:20:31 · answer #6 · answered by mobes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you think women are easy to get over? No way! Wars have been fought for the love of a woman (read the Illiad), men have killed other men, fortunes lost and lives squandered away over you gals. So join the club and what ever you do, don't start any world wars.
2007-12-17 07:20:55 · answer #7 · answered by bikinkawboy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i've been slowly getting over my ex fiance who i broke up with cuz he kept hurting me over and over....and what i did, was just kept myself busy doin stuff so i wouldnt have time to think about him or call him or see him. Like i went out with my girl friends all the time....drinkin doesnt help though, that just makes you drunk and wanna call him, and you do cuz your drunk......so try not to go that rout, it don't work! trust me..lol You know what else helped, a bunch of different guys started hitting on me when i'm out with my girl friends, cuz i would get allready and make myself look pretty, and even though i don't like them, it still just boosts your eago and makes you feel good about youself, so you dont keep thinking "well maybe he's the best i could do" or crazy shitt like that. :-)....good luck it gets alot better with time! it really does..........it takes time! alot! dont get me wrong, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel....every day i miss him less and less!
2007-12-17 07:19:58 · answer #8 · answered by Lek 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahhh, i know how you feel! i've had stupid boyfriends, there were mean, jerky, rude and cheated on me before...
i think it's something you have to get over on your own time, just try to fill your time with other things, hobbies, sports, drawing, etc.
if he's a good enough guy, maybe you guys could still be friends? but sometimes it's better to not talk to him for a while, get over it, then become friends later on...
hope i helped in some way! =S
2007-12-17 07:19:03 · answer #9 · answered by Kristin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear you! I am in the exact same situation & all that everyone is telling me is to move on & not think about him. I have tried but it doesn't seem to work.
Still I can give you the same advice.
Good Luck
I think Jessica Dior is right. I didn't do that though.
2007-12-17 07:18:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on yourself an d the changes you want to make in life... and when you start to wander off thinking about remember he's a loser... if your still thinking about him you have too much time on your hands.
2007-12-17 07:17:02 · answer #11 · answered by Toogood 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋