Should I tell her? I feel crazy! What should i do? How will she react? What next?

Question

I ask this in fashion on a whim. Answers in relationships suck, and my gf is into clothes and style, so maybe somebody here can relate to her

Me and my gf went out for half a year, broke up, and then got back together. we only broke up for two months, and that was cause of a mix up. when we were getting back together she admitted that basically, she'd been the type of girl that had a one nighter hear or there. not excessive. like once every six months. but she said she would get the urge for a make out or more with the wrong type of guy about once a month, usually right before her period, and about every six months she'd cave. i asked her if she ever cheated, and she said not on me.

Compared to me, she is a realy sexual person. sounds unusual that the girl would be more sex driven then a guy, but in this case its true. I’m busy and tired a lot, and just more easily satisfied I guese.

now - i never told her this, and it sounds sick, but the thought of her hook up is intense for me. In fact, the though of her being the wrong type of a girl is intense. Like being with a sexual rockstar. like a turn on. i fantasize about it. what happened. etc.

I’ve breached the topic, and talked about the possibilities, but when we were fooling around - and I act like its dirty talk I’m doing for her benefit - like to make sure we take of her itch before or after she goes out with her freinds.

i realy realy want to give her the go ahead to do it again. call me crazy, and i'll admit it. i want to give her a rubber, and say use at your pleasure. Like, she’s not a ho, so it won’t be like she’ll be doing it every time she goes out, but in the rare time when she really feels it, I want her to feel like she can without ruining our relationship. For me, I think the risk, and not knowing, and the cahcne something is hoppening is HOT!!!!!

I want to tell her but I’m worried about her reaction.

Answer 1

i dont think shell mind totally if she does this anyway. shell probably be relieved that you are basically giving her the go ahead.

Answer 2

WHOAAAAAAAA... You may htink this is okay with you but have you really imagined this beautiful creature you love f@#@%#% some other guy... I don't think you have. By the way a relationship can work out like this (you being less sexual than her) My husband and I are like that. He has learned that I need it more often than he and he has also learned when it is important for me to have it. She should not mess with anyone else if she wants you. This will hurt your relationship if she is allowed to mess around. She will take the inch and then the mile. She should be just satisfied w/ you and that is it. This may not be the girl for you

Answer 3

I wouldnt tell her, its like telling her it is okay to cheat. it is going to commence with a hook-upevery couple months then it is going to develop right into a hollow diffrent project. i should be incorrect. in simple terms stay out your fanasizes and make confident u save her chuffed and she or he wont opt to ascertain different adult men. good success

Answer 4

Tell her how you really feel, I told my bf what I really liked, it was difficult to do but ever since we have had so much more "fun" and I agree it is exciting, so tell her how you feel about it and what you like and she will understand and, probably try to accommodate your wishes!

Answer 5

you sound masochistic in a way wrap up a square box of condoms if you really mean it and put a pretty bow on top and say on a card that it's cool with you, you'll love her no matter what...when she reads it and looks at you say i really mean it.

Answer 6

wtf???????? are you crazy no you don't tell her that if you tell her she can cheat she isn't going to do it it is more.........enjoyable if it is behind your back now how do you feel about that and if you don't satisfy her she will leave so you should just give her the ride of her life every now and then

Answer 7

if you want your chick to *** another dude there is something very wrong and deranged about your relationship!

Answer 8

i would not do that for the world. that would be incredibly
degrading to her and you saying to her you do not care.

Answer 9

whatever
you are strange?

Answer 10

you hun are wierd.