Me and my g/f have been going out for 8, close to 9, months and she's a really great girl. We have a lot in common and we care about each other alot. However, she has been having thoughts about whether or not we should be together (if i'm her Mr. Right) and its causing her great deals of sadness/guilt to where she cries or becomes stressed out...should i take this as a sign to just end it for her sake or keep trying to explain why she shouldn't worry herself about it?
2007-12-17 06:28:18 · 28 answers · asked by Dillan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends on you how much are you willing to put up with her stress will cause you stress. If shes having doubts give her her space, and if the space turns into more and more space then end it. If the space allows her to sort out her feelings and it helps then good luck with your future together.
2007-12-17 06:31:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
8-9 months is long enough to know if you want to take your relationship to the next level. Sounds like she's having second thoughts about the relationship.
I think she's taking the wussy's way out to break up with you. She cries over whether or not you're Mr. Right, you reassure her, she cries some more because she's not sure you should be together, and the cycle repeats until you get so sick of her YOU break up with her. (She's under 18 isn't she? If she isn't, then she's very immature and not ready for a grown up relationship).
2007-12-17 06:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just end it. You never know, she may come back to you and say she made a big mistake. Either way you can not change the way someone feels and you will not be able to stop these thoughts in her head. Since there is no hatred between the two of you, there is no reason you two cannot be friends. But breaking up sounds like the right thing to do. And you do not want to be with someone who is doubting you because if she is doubting you now it will only get worse as time goes on.
2007-12-17 06:34:00 · answer #3 · answered by LoLo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all are you two in the same state or town. If so then try to assure her that (you) are the one. Sometimes wording in a relationship bears a lot of weight. What you say. And not say can have a major impact on a person feeling and the doubt that it brings. So if she's loves you and is that emotional about it don't just let her go. try to find out what (you) are not saying or doing that gives her that reason and feeling of insecurity. Because when she stop crying it may be to late. So if you love her take care of it. And if not you know what to do.
2007-12-17 06:35:56 · answer #4 · answered by James M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me your girlfriend is insecure about the relationship and is causing this unnecessary drama so you can make her feel better. Don't break up with her or it'll just prove her right. Instead ask her if she needs a break during which you'll give her a few days to clear her head. And when asking her this reinstate your feelings for her and let her know that you are not breaking up but instead giving her some space for her to help sort things out. She'll appreciate it.
If she says no, tell her enough is enough and that her attitude needs to change. If she doesn't change maybe it is time to break up because she apparently can't make up her mind and you don't want to waste anymore time on someone like that.
Good luck and I hope everything works out.
2007-12-17 06:32:46 · answer #5 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's not taking it too seriously, then neither should you. don't ever beg anyone to be with you, and explaining or making excuses is the same as begging. No girl will ever respect you after they watch another girl run all over you. She doesn't respect your feelings or she would have already broke up with you. dump her, but do it with integrity and poise. Tell her you'd like to stay friends forever, and you'll always be there for her. You never know, I good break up may be just what she needs to see that you ARE Mr. right.
2007-12-17 06:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by Emily Rugburn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she does not feel like you might be "Mr. Right", then you should move on. As hard as that may be to do, why would you want to continue to be with someone that just does not know. Next thing you know, she starts to have a wandering eye, or is open to the advances of some new guy.
When it is meant to be, you just know it. There is never a question as to IF, it just IS.
Good luck, and I hope you make the right choice for you.
2007-12-17 06:36:20 · answer #7 · answered by cigarking305 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a b/f who did the same thing after almost a year of dating (started asking if we were meant to be, and becoming all stressed out....which in turn really hurt me and stressed me out) I can look back now and be thankful that we did break up. I think that you just know whether you are supposed to be with someone, and if there's doubts, than they probably aren't "the one". well, that's my thoughts on it anyways, I wish you the best of luck!
2007-12-17 06:33:10 · answer #8 · answered by shaksy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just leave the subject alone. If you focus too much on whether or not you should be together, you don't get to enjoy the time you are together. I say just relax. Let the relationship olay it's self out and who knows... you may end up together or you may not. Just go about your business and she will hopefully mellow out.
2007-12-17 06:33:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's stressing breaking up with you, it's because she wants to break up, but doesn't want to hurt you. Do her a favor and end the relationship. You'll be doing both of yourselves a big favor. The situation can only get worse, not better, the way it is now.
2007-12-17 06:32:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋