This is a folow-up.My wife cheated on me before with a good friend of ours, or was.That was about 6 years ago. They used to live next to or home but move shortly after. I also walked in on her kissing another man at a party about 10 years ago. The first man she was seeing for about 5 months.What are the chances that she is still seeing the man or e-mailing the man that lived next to our home with his wife and kids. I know she liek him ALOT, maybe even fell in love, or lust with him. When she was seeing him, she was very sexual with me, that is kind of how i knew. I got the left over FIRE!! I still to this day walk in on her mostly early morning on her work computer but dont get close enough to see what she is reading or typing because she will click to another screen or click off and lock the computer. She says she is working but this has been going on a long long time and I think she is maybe Emailing him at his home too. She is not much sexual with me too this day ither.
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2007-12-17 06:18:54 · 13 answers · asked by danomanfishing 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I believe once a cheater...always a cheater. If you can gain access to her computer go into her history...that is at the top where http is, just go over to the blue down arrow and click it, this will show every place she has been on her computer so you can at least get a fairly good idea what she doing on there.If she isn't gettin from you shes gettin it somewhere else. As Red Foxx used to say," show me a wife who wont and I'll show you a neighbor who will", its meant to be a joke but its so very true.Sorry but its been through alot of years,tears& heartaches that I know for a fact they dont change...sometimes even when they want to, its just something in their genetic makeup and try not to take it personal because it isn't you who has the problem...its her.
2007-12-17 06:33:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I hate that theory. It's not because I'm a man, but I base it off science and actual theories that make more sense. Once a cheater always a cheater is like saying the sun shines and it will always be like that. It's also like saying, you can't teach an old dog new tricks. Once a cheater always a cheater Theory does not tackle the issue. It only gives it an answer with out breaking the issue and finding the cause. It has been researched, studied and confirm that people who cheat on their spouse do it cause of psychological trauma. Psychiatrist, marriage counselors, find the root to the problem in many cases. Once the root to the problem has been identified, the problem could be addressed.
2016-05-24 09:10:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't say that once a cheater, always a cheater. Could be true I guess, but I'm sure there are people that do change.
As far as your wife; she sounds pretty untrusting considering her past. To me, and it's only me and not the gospel; if she isn't hiding anything why does she cover up with clicking off screen, locking the computer out. I guess, if I were you, I would confront her about it. Ask her direct. The only real way you would find out is if you caught her red handed or if she confessed.
Really need to get trust into your relationship. I know it seems hard or impossible, but you really need it.
Good Luck
2007-12-17 06:27:17 · answer #3 · answered by Keeper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cheaters can change if they want to. But first they have to own up and apologize for the past behavior. Tell why it will never happen again. Live their life in an open manner. And not repeat the offending action.
If your wife hasn't done any of the these things, then she's probably still a cheater.
You have to now ask yourself why you think you deserve a partner who lies to you and cheats on you? I'd ask a woman this same question. Why have you put up with 10+ years of a cheating spouse? And don't tell me "I love her", because she doesn't love you. You can't make her change, she has to want to change. What you get to decide is if you are going to stay with her for another 10+ years.
2007-12-17 06:29:10 · answer #4 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her exactly that u think she's cheating, and if she loves u she should let u read the stuff on her computer. just tell her your feelings. tell her that it's time to see other people even though she already is. but still tell her u want a divorce because you cant trust her anymore
2007-12-18 00:46:54 · answer #5 · answered by stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not too hard to figure out if she is. Get an inexpensive click recorder... link below. Attach it to her computer and use it find out her passwords and get into her accounts and read her emails, etc... BUT remember this.. you may not like what you find out. Be prepared emotionally for the fallout and consequences.
2007-12-17 06:26:27 · answer #6 · answered by tgrx 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but she is definitely hiding something from you. I won't say what but there is something going on and you need to confront her.
2007-12-17 06:28:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhh. if she's hiding stuff. she's probably cheating. but once a cheater always a cheater..NO not ALWAYS. ppl can change. but i wouldnt doubt it if she is hiding stuff from u.
2007-12-17 06:25:20 · answer #8 · answered by steph. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of her... goshhhhh ewwwwwwwwww grossed... hahahah it be funny when she was on a bed with u she called out someone elses name.. .hahahah loser! get a new wife... and make sure shes faithfun lol
2007-12-17 06:23:16 · answer #9 · answered by Tracee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Once a cheater, allways a cheater....Once a cheater, allways a cheater...........Once a cheater, allways a cheater....................Once a cheater, allways a cheater
can't say it enough!
2007-12-17 06:24:32 · answer #10 · answered by richard t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋