Ive been with him 3 yrs and its getting shaky- too many things I am not happy with- and Im really considering breaking with him- yet I hate to do it right before X-mas.... should I retain the relationship throughout the holidays- yet not be overly fake- and do the deed come January?
This isn't about a present either- because due to finances- we agreed to keep it very simple.
2007-12-17 06:06:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The holidays should not be a factor in your relationship.
Tell him how you feel and end the charade.
2007-12-17 06:09:45 · answer #1 · answered by GluedHands 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say you should let him go...It may break his heart, but he'll get over it. Plus, the longer you keep the relationship going, the more akward things will be between you. If you let him go in a nice way--yes I know there is no nice way, just something like a letter that says things aren't working out. Think of what could happen if you stay with him, he might get you a surprise birthday present that you love, and how guilty would you feel breaking up with him after that? Just get it over with, it will be better for both of you...
2007-12-17 06:13:05 · answer #2 · answered by pstwoorbust 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
holding out if your heart isn't truly in it anymore is worse for the both of you. It sucks that is right before the holidays, but really, when is a good time to break up with someone? The outcome is still going to be the same, you will be upset. But you will feel the same maybe worse if you wait it out because you are holding feelings in and leading him on. Allowing yourself to move on is the biggest step in getting over someone... by delaying breaking up you are delaying the getting over process.
2007-12-17 06:11:52 · answer #3 · answered by sprkldlite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree...start out the new year fresh. You never know he may be feeling the same way. If your miserable and think the realationship is shakey he may feel the same way. Don't drag it on for the sake of the holidays. Who knows...you still could remain friends afterwards. Depending on how bad/good things are, maybe you guys will decided to spend time together over the holidays regardless if you split up or not? My advice...don't drag it out! Good luck :)
2007-12-17 06:12:30 · answer #4 · answered by Maggi M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will make Christmas a definite bummer, but will free you both up to hook-up with someone else on New Years.
If you're getting along okay, I'd break up with him between Christmas and New Years.
If you're at the point that you're fighting and stuff and it's likely to make Christmas bad anyway, break up with him right away.
2007-12-17 06:11:17 · answer #5 · answered by Greywolf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you dont really want to be with him you should go ahead and end it because christmas is an happy holiday and a special one and you shouldnt pretend to be happy just for a holiday,
2007-12-17 06:10:33 · answer #6 · answered by Chelly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
many people make that decision but I don't think it's really fair to him. I mean what if he might meet the love of his life at a different xmas eve party that he goes to without you. you are holding his life back by staying with someone you don't want. it's not really nice, it's more cruel. That's if you are sure you want to break up. If you are not sure then you need to do more communicating with him.
2007-12-17 06:10:22 · answer #7 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I was in the same situation, but we both knew it was coming. Unfortunately we lived together and there was a lot of tension, he threw me out on my butt two days ago. So I would do what you need to do, because that is one more stress you don't need at Christmas!
2007-12-17 06:08:59 · answer #8 · answered by *baby*2008* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get it over with. You wanna have a happy holiday too right? It sounds like you won't be able to do that with him.
2007-12-17 06:09:37 · answer #9 · answered by sgreene1130 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start the new year fresh. and let him do the same. just let it go now. dont set up a schedule thats mean
2007-12-17 06:08:00 · answer #10 · answered by Incredible 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋