should i dump him??
well i have been dating my bf for a year and i just found out that during one of our fights he got really drunk and cheated on me, he says it was a mistake and that he loves me...but what should i do?
2007-12-17 05:50:08 · 17 answers · asked by [[jackie]] 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it was recently like a month ago......
2007-12-17 05:55:10 · update #1
I think you need to take some time apart. Find out what you really want. Sorry but if he is in love with you he would of kept it in his pants. Drinking is no excuse to cheat.♥♥
2007-12-17 05:54:42 · answer #1 · answered by ♥LS♥ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Kind of depends...how long into the relationship was it when he cheated? Has he been faithful since then? And are you willing to give him a chance?
I would think if it was at the beginning of the relationship and you guys got into a fight...maybe he thought things were truly over and you got back together....If so, I might forgive him...If it was well into the relationship and he knew that you guys were fighting only and not breaking up, then get rid of him...Once a cheater always a cheater...
If it was recently get rid of him......Go check out the song "Should of Said No" by Taylor Swift....Its all right there...
Sorry sweetie, you deserve better!!!
2007-12-17 05:56:47 · answer #2 · answered by sweet tourettes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating is not a mistake... it's a pattern. Some men follow the pattern, some don't. Find someone who is not a cheater, but be careful... This person may not be as attractive and may not have a flashy personality.
This is a paradox... More outgoing and more attractive men cheat more often because they have more opportunity to engage in sexual relations.
Time to re-evaluate yourself and find something you truly want or suffer the consequence of repeated troubling relationships. And never... ever leave it to someone else's opinion to make a life decision for yourself... You will have no one else to blame, but yourself.
2007-12-17 06:01:20 · answer #3 · answered by Ilya S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Toughie....Your in a hard spot sweetie and I feel for ya! Just keep this in mind. Your boyfriend may really truly love you, but if all that happend was a fight it seems like he may have been a little quick to act on impulse? I'm not trying to bash men, because not every guy cheats-just like not every woman cheats. Getting in a fight is only natural. We all do it, but we don't all go out and get wasted and put ourselves in bad situations. Anger, alchohol and men/women don't mix! A I wish we could tell you what to do, but you have to listen to your heart! Can you truly move past him cheating on you? Which means you can't use it as amunition in a fight later, we've all done it :) Or, are you too hurt to put it behind you?? Listen to your heart-Good luck :)
2007-12-17 06:00:51 · answer #4 · answered by Maggi M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how strong your relationship is, and if it is worth saving. If it happened when he was drunk and during one of your fights than its a possibility that it truly was a mistake that he regrets. Talk to him about it, and ask yourself. "Do I really love this guy enough to stay with him after he cheated on me?" Hope this helped ^_^
2007-12-17 05:54:08 · answer #5 · answered by ~!(3B()X~ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to figure out whether you can trust him, given the cheating. Blaming his behavior on getting drunk is just a poor excuse for something he probably was going to eventually do anyway. Do you honestly believe he will never cheat on you again? What happens the next time he gets drunk...will it be "OK" to blame the alcohol on him cheating again?
2007-12-17 05:53:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That sucks! I would def. take some time off and think things through very carefully and make a decision whether I would want him in my life or move on. If you think he is really sorry then maybe you can try and give him another chance, cuz everyuone deserves a second chance. Good luck!!
2007-12-17 05:56:35 · answer #7 · answered by Baby Blue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you have to ask yourself a couple of question. How long ago was the fight? Was it significant enough to make him think that you wouldn't be able to reconcile? Do you think alcohol prohibited from thinking clearly? Do you still trust him? I think if you honestly answer these questions, you will find your answer. Everyone does make mistakes, but only you know how you feel, and if you can accept it.
2007-12-17 05:54:14 · answer #8 · answered by *baby*2008* 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dump him period. There is nothing that is going to be good that comes from this as you will never let him live it down as well you should not. If you dont he will do it again I promise as he will believe you basically gave him permission by not leaving him!!!!
2007-12-17 05:56:00 · answer #9 · answered by belbiv1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cheated once..........and he was drunk? I think I would give him another chance. But not unless you can put it behind you and never bring it up again.
2007-12-17 05:54:25 · answer #10 · answered by misselie1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋