Was your transition into motherhood traumatizing?

Answer 1

ha ha yes it was i was 18 (married 1 yr. before child was born) when my son was born i had the impresion that he would be the most addorable baby, perfect in every way. i assumned he would only cry when hungry, or needed a diaper change. how wrong i was . when my son was born he cried constantly the first 3 weeks of his life, me cryin right along with him, on top of that he was born with alot of health problems. he was a twin but twin died during last month infection set in. i swore i would never have sex again because i did not want to go through that again. lol
my husband was very supportive . although he did not agree.

my son is now 15 and i wouldn't change a thing, but needless to say my vow did not last long i have 3 other children.
thet are all 3 years apart. but i am glad now that i had that to deal with with my first child. i learned alot and growed up alot with him. i wouldn't change a thing.

Answer 2

The motherhood part wasn't traumatizing. What was traumatizing to me was the destruction of my body and my obsessive worry about my new baby! I say destruction because I gained a TON of weight (despite exercise and good diet), I had crazy stretch marks all over my belly to the point where it looked like a second skin, and I retained so much water that even my nose doubled in size. However, all that cleared up and now my weight is finally going down again. It's the oddest things that get you when you are pregnant and about to be a parent but it so worth it.

Answer 3

Yes, I love being a mother, but it was a huge adjustment. I have heard motherhood described as going from being the picture to being the picture's frame. I have also heard that it is like deciding to let your heart walk around outside your body. I think those are both true statements.

You are exactly the same person you are before children but suddenly the world is a lot scarier because you have so much more to lose. And all of a sudden, you time, your body and your needs are no long what comes first. Everything is completely altered forever. I remember praying for some time to myself and then when we finally got a sitter and went out to dinner I missed my daughter so badly I couldn't enjoy the meal.

But it is wonderful. I wouldn't trade my kids for anything.

Answer 4

Yes! I remember at my 37 week appointment, the doc said, "Well, there's no progress yet, but at this point, that doesn't mean much. You could have the baby in your arms by this time tomorrow."

All of a sudden it hit me - I wasn't just pregnant, I was going to have a baby. (And yes, the pregnancy was very much planned.)

I've always been highly competent at a series of intellectually demanding jobs, but bored to tears by repetitive, domestic tasks. Parenting a newborn was the most bizarre thing to me. It didn't come naturally, and instead of feeling overwhelmed with mother love, I was mostly confused, tired and surprised.

Now that my kiddo is three - and I've been a reluctant SAHM for nearly a year - I must say that I adore him. But let's face - he can talk. We can do things together. As we try for #2, I realize that I probably won't be charmed by a helpless infant the second time around, either.

What can I say? I'm a loving and dedicated parent, but I am neither Donna Reed nor the Virgin Mary. It took me a while to be okay with that.

Answer 5

NO. Your maternal instincts will kick in, it might take sometime to get used to. Always wondering if you're doing everything right or might think it's all wrong, but experiencing motherhood is far from traumatizing. It's not perfect either but it's all worth it when you see the sweet smile on your child's face.

Answer 6

I started to see a therapist after my daughter was born. I just felt sooooo overwhelmed and had "super mom" complex. I thought I could do EVERYTHING on my own. Turns out I cant. My daughter is 6 months old and I am still in therapy. I am realizing that if I take care of myself that it will not only benefit me but the baby as well. I can not be the best mom I can be without taking care of myself also. I am not talking about doing anything wild or crazy but just something simple like going out without her every once in a while... even if its just grocery shopping lol. Your feelings are very NORMAL. But yes, I do suggest therapy. Just getting some adult feedback is reason enough to go. Good luck with everything and remember you are NOT ALONE. Sometimes just knowing that will make you feel a little better : )

Answer 7

I love being a mom from day one. Yes it is tireing at times and emotional the first few months but never traumatizing! If you think it will tramatize you you may not want to put the poor baby or yourself through that. People should make sure they really want a baby B4 doing it. But if you are already preg and worried about it then have no fear it is instant unconditional love to and from this baby the minute you hold him/her! And if you just had a baby and feel this way, it will pass your hormones are still raging and make sure you tell your friends and fam how you feel so you can get a break! Good luck!

Answer 8

Not gonna lie - the birth really stunk. It was all worth it - but I luckily took the advice of my family and took the meds and they helped. I went on to have a total of three kids so it wasn't too bad.

Motherhood is wonderful. Best thing I ever did. I have three great kids who are all teens now and I still like them.

Answer 9

Traumatizing? No, Surreal is more like it. My son is going to be 1 in a couple of weeks and I still can't believe that I am a mother. I'm 28, feel 21 in my mind, 45 psychically, and still wonder how it is that I'm someones mom. There are days were I feel like I am babysitting.. not that I don't care about my son, just that it doesn't feel like he's mine.

Answer 10

It can be. And don't listen to people who tell you your maternal instincts will kick in. If you have not taken care of smaller siblings or neighbors children, you may have no idea what maternal instincts are. Talk to supportive family members or join a support group. There are many "down" things about being a parent, especially if you are a single parent - sleepless nights, kids can't go to day care because they are sick, financial strain, crying, etc.