I have been w/my BF for almost 4 years now. A relationship is suppoe to be about compromise so I understood that he doesn't like to go out and party/club w/me bcus thats not what he likes so I go w/my sis & friends time to time. But there have been a several times he went to Kickbacks/club w/his cousin & friends w/out inviting me. Why would he not do things to make me happy and invite me places to hang out with his friends but he can do it with them and disrespect me? Am i over reacting? Or isn't that not Fair to me? i do everything to make him happy but he doesnt do that with me. I dont want to do this anymore......is it time to let go?
2007-12-17 05:33:07 · 20 answers · asked by sexyexotik 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he doesn't want to do things with you then he goes right back behind your back and does the exact same things with his other friends...then he doesn't care about your feelings...so, yes, maybe you should let the relationship go. but sit him down and try to talk it out first....so you don't just drop a big bomb on him..like 'yeah..ummm...it's over"
2007-12-17 05:38:46 · answer #1 · answered by kendra (: 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same kind of relationship a year ago. We were together for 5 years and he did not under compromise. We had a very hard time letting go but in the end I am so happy for it. It is very seldom that a girls and "change" a guy, if you think he can he won't. If he does it will be for a short time and then go back to his old ways. Talk to him first about the situation that you are in and what you are contimplating.
good luck
2007-12-17 13:37:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to do it anymore, then yes, it is time to let it go.
Have you tried talking to him about him not inviting you? If you have and he doesn't make changes then that is another sign it's time. It's okay for him to go out without you, but if he knows that is something you are into then he should, at least some of the time, invite you with.
2007-12-17 13:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by blackirish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl let the man be...move on. A man that goes to a club has no interest in a girlfriend (or just one for that matter). Find a man that makes time for you and wants to spend time with you. In a relationship after four years if he wants to go to a club along, LEAVE HIM!
2007-12-17 13:37:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's probably looking for some alone time with his friends and thats where they go. Also clubbing is maybe something he wants to do with friends not with a gf. I doubt this is something that will change much. This is how ur life would be with him. If you aren't happy, move on, lifes toooo short. If you can adjust then stay.
2007-12-17 13:40:18 · answer #5 · answered by Elvira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked about the double standard that he has? I can tell you that he is doing this because when he is out with the guys that he doesnt want to be tied down. He thinks that in order to have fun with them that you would be a hinderance to it. The big thing about relationships is that you have to communicate and do it well. No one can read minds and the simplest things can have the wrong meaning if you dont clarify your intentions.
2007-12-17 13:38:08 · answer #6 · answered by eyecue_two 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend was in the same exact situation as you with her ex. Whenever she goes to the club, she'll invite her bf along, but he refuses to go because he doesn't want her to be going to clubs. But, my friend's ex actually likes going to clubs. When he goes to the club, he brings his friends along, but not his gf. My friend gets really mad and argues with him and wants to know why he doesn't want to spend time with her.
I think guys just need their space and time with their own friends and family at times. They can't spend all of their life with their gfs only. You need to respect that because I'm sure you need your own time for yourself as well. If your bf does spend enough time with your usually, then it's good enough. But, if you feel he's always with his friends more than with you, you should just let him go and do his thing.
2007-12-17 13:47:28 · answer #7 · answered by =P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going places without him, do you think that is fair? He is probably seeing that you don't really care to do things WITH HIM, so he does things without you to show you what it is like. Most men do this out of their nature. Look at the whole picture and see for yourself. Tell him how you feel and really listen to what he says.
2007-12-17 13:39:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably time to get the relationship go. It's not overreacting because your boyfriend does not want to go with you so he can maybe find another girl to be with. It's probbaly not fair to you because he should have told you where he went unless he no longer wants to have a relationship with you anymore.
2007-12-17 13:38:12 · answer #9 · answered by Darkskinnyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you do "everything" and he doesn't. What more reason do you need to let things go? It is up to you on when to call it quits, but you need to decide how much longer you can tolerate being with a guy who just isn't going to do what you need to be happy.
2007-12-17 13:37:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋