my in law is driving me crazy and she really gets on my nerves and i try to not let it get to me but it does.she makes me look bad in front of all his family and made them believe that i dont care bout my husband.the thing is my husband n me are seperated and he sick in a hosp.in a diff. state and he got himself sick. well i have alot to say about her and her big mouth and she does too.i just cant stand how she can really mess my day up when i talk to her and really get to me i want her out but my husband is a mama's boy.what do i do.
2007-12-17 05:18:47 · 8 answers · asked by Rachel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well I guess it's not just me then!! I have the same issues.
My solution: I moved 3000 miles across the country and now I never have to see her.
2007-12-17 05:22:37 · answer #1 · answered by texas beach girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mother in law is I think a more difficult role than mother. Especially with the sons. You must have had some idea about your husband's relationship with his mother prior to the marriage. Many times women think they can change things. Not so. If he is like you say a Mama's Boy, it will be tough. That bond between mother and son is about as strong as it gets. It may be time for the talk. The two of you can sit in a neutral place (neither) home and talk about what is dividing you. It seem if the son is hospitalized, it is a time for the two of you to bond. Until you are a mother or a mother-in-law, don't judge.
2007-12-17 14:51:15 · answer #2 · answered by shoes_717 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not right for her to say things in front of the rest of the family, she needs to say it to you and then drop it. I myself would stay away from her and let her talk until she was blue in the face. I don't care what anyone says about me. I know what is the truth and no matter what some one will always come up with lies. I choose to stay away from my mother-in-law because no matter what I did, it was never good enough. I was a good wife, and when my husband died and I was there through thick and thin, I finally was told after 31 years that I was a good wife, and they where glad I was there for him.
2007-12-17 13:39:58 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told her how you feel? It took me finally getting pissed off about all the behind my back gossip to tell my FIL off, but once I did, all the behind my back crap stopped, and I can now enjoy talking to all of my in laws without feeling like the outcast. Once you make your concerns known, then it can help break the tension. If that doesn't work, then just stop talking to them. Talk to your hubby, let him know that he is no longer a child, and while you respect the relationship he has with his mother, he needs to intervene on your behalf.
2007-12-17 13:26:08 · answer #4 · answered by ALFimzadi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest talking directly to your monster mother in law first. She might not realize she is being suck a jerk. Or you can play stupid and nice and limit your exposure to her. Or as a last resort you can quit talking to her, quit attending family functions - just make sure you don't put him in the middle or make him choose sides. What does the hubby have to say about her behavior? He should be noticing the tension and should talk to his mom about her behavior.
2007-12-17 13:27:14 · answer #5 · answered by Arin D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mamas boy is mammas boy. You can't chage that. He is the only one who can.
2007-12-17 13:26:46 · answer #6 · answered by gods_beauty1978 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Either try and win her over or else flee.
2007-12-17 13:26:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry.
when you have a child, you can talk crap about his wife.
that's just how it is.. for generations and generations.
you'll get your chance.
2007-12-17 13:22:22 · answer #8 · answered by KJ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋