I have a friend at school who constantly makes nasty remarks, mocks me and others and generally says things that make you feel like crap. She will make fun of peoples names, clothes, anything really. She is very judgmental and whines and makes nasty remarks about other people behind there backs. She also boasts about everything and will say things like "haha you lost" or "haha you messed it up." Me and my friend have both politely told her that she needs to stop doing this because we're sick of it and we would like her to treat us with the same respect we treat her with. Both times i have said something to her she has started crying and saying that i am full of crap and denies ever saying anything mean or nasty about anyone.
She also asks for presents and gifts and invitesherself/assumes she's comeing to birthday partys etc.
What am i supposed to say/do to make this stop?
2007-12-17 05:15:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
The other day i purposely told her that her drawing looked ugly. (to test her) She then proceeded to whack me over the head with her drawing book.
Seems she can sure dish it out but she cant take it back.
2007-12-17 05:16:51 · update #1
I have told her to go away and and that i no longer want to be friends with her. And that was when she pulled the crying act. She still hangs around. No one wants her near them coz of the reasons i have explained. But it's at school and people are allowed to sit and stand wherever they want and if i get up and walk away she follows.
2007-12-17 05:26:22 · update #2
Yeah I don't see how you can change her. After all, you've tried explaining it to her. Perhaps RIGHT when she says a comment like that, if a hush falls over the room and after an awkward silence you say something like "ok moving on", she'll get the hint.
We have an individual like that that hangs out with us. He is horrible and says these chauvinistic and incredibly stupid statements all the time. When we try to inform him of facts, he always says "exactly--that proves my point". But one of my guy friends John likes him. John is the one that always invites him over when the rest of us are there. We don't want to put John in the position of having to chose but usually if he tells us he has this individual over there, we all avoid his house.
Make your get togethers private. You are not the only one who thinks your "friend" is rude; explain to your other friends that you can't let "friend" know about your birthday party on Saturday. It's a secret. They don't want her there either--they should be willing to keep the secret.
If you want her to change, mention something RIGHT when she says it. Immediately after a mean comment, inform her that comments like that is what we talked about the other day. Or just give her an outraged look. But don't expect to change her.
She likes to make nasty comments. She has had no consequences. You still hang with her, she still goes to parties. Why should she change? If it's too much for you, just stop hanging out with her completely.
2007-12-17 05:28:10 · answer #1 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you even friends with this person? Friends are supposed to be people you like and WANT to spend time with; if this girl is so bad, you guys should stop hanging with her and tell her why. She will get to a point where she has pushed everyone away and then see that she needs to change or get used to loneliness; that may be the only way she will see it.
2007-12-17 13:20:56 · answer #2 · answered by bainaashanti 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all friends don't hurt each other. She's not your friend. And always remember that you are known by the company you keep. If she is as mean as you say she is, other people will figure you are just as mean because you hang out with her. It's guilt by association. Cut your ties and find some real friends who are good people.
2007-12-17 13:22:37 · answer #3 · answered by dumbrowski31 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know that this is going to sound ridiculous, but your friend is suffering from self esteem, and may even have been molested at some point in here life...she needs help from counselors, honesty and friendship from you.
2007-12-17 13:46:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your friend has a super low ego. No self esteem whatsoever. My suggestion is that she gets some counseling..
2007-12-17 13:22:59 · answer #5 · answered by Abolir Las Farc 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
she's a classic bully...what goes around comes around..stop being her friend as it only encourages her...it's not your job to protect her..she needs to learn
2007-12-17 13:26:01 · answer #6 · answered by minerva 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You ever see meal girls?!?! Just make sure she gets hit by a bus and it will solve all your problems...Oh and join mathletes!
2007-12-17 13:23:42 · answer #7 · answered by fairlawnvolleyball 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋