Why do women find it so hard to lose weight? Don't they care about their appearance?

Question

Practically every woman I've ever known has struggled with weight. It mystifies me--I can't keep weight on me, but women just seem to have a hard time when it comes to losing weight. Don't they realize men lose interest when the weight packs on? What gives???


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Answer 1

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Answer 2

There can be a myriad of answers ranging from some just don't care to medical issues to the fact that as women hit their middle age years their metabolism automatically slows down anyways whether they have a medical issue or not. I think when weight won't come off easy many women find it discouraging enough that it then becomes just as much of a psychological issue as perhaps a physical one.

I've never been a toothpick, in fact when I was in Jr. High I was always called the fat girl because I had reached my adult height and weight of 5'3 and 130 lbs. For me that's normal and some guys don't like that and some do and I'm okay with that. The ones that don't like it, that's their preference. I'm healthy - I played three sports a year until the age of 30 when I got married. I also have Hypothyroidism so I have to really be strict about my diet because I know if I put more weight on I will have a very hard time taking it off again.

Answer 3

There are a lot of different factors that contribute to what self worth is and if a woman allows herself to be told what she needs to look like is someone who lacks something within herself.
However, there are some of us tend to take things personal and have eating as an only outlet to "reality." All this is a self struggle. Has nothing to do with men, but however, think about it, how is a woman suppose to feel good about herself when the person who is with her is constantly belittling her for being the size she is. What you can do as a b/f or showing sensitivity is make suggestion on how to eat better and exercise and do it with her don't just hint it. Honestly, you were "blessed" with being thin, however, have you ever had a woman tell you that you are too thin and thinness isn't a good characteristic to begin with in my opinion. I want to feel safe with the man that I am with, and how can I feel that way if I gotta protect you because the wind will take you away? And NOT every man is into thin women or petite women. Some are into being able to see curves of a woman. Also, you have all these fast food places and restaurants and just lazy people. :)

Good Luck in your en devour in finding a woman that isn't self cautious.

Answer 4

The reason women obsess so much over their weight is because they DO care about their appearance...and they care about it way too much.

I'm not sure how much you're joking and how much you're being serious here, but so many women feel such societal pressure to fit the mold of what an "ideal woman" is to our culture that it causes not only eating disorders, but depression, low self-confidence, and so much more.

I think that being physically healthy is important, but this does not include trying to become what you see in fashion magazines and gossip rags, where anyone over a size 4 is portrayed as needing to go on a diet. THIS is so much more unhealthy than being a few pounds overweight.

If a man loses interest because a woman packs on weight then he's probably not worth the time anyway. Besides, who determines what is beautiful? You know art, Jack. Go check out what the ancient Greeks found to be beautiful. Even in later cultures. Stick thin models with sunken in cheeks and eyes as "beautiful" is a creepy invention of the last generation or two. I know I'd rather look like Goya's Maja (who looks normal and healthy to me although I don't want to think about what gossip magazines would say about her) than some bony celebrity.

Answer 5

Sounds to me as though you are a guy with an over active thyroid that keeps you thin. Bless you. Most women would die for such a condition. HOwever, we were created with more body fat and hormones that resist weight loss. And a lot of us aren't interested in attracting a mate who is only interested in the superficial, meaningless, outside of a person. Some "fat" women are actually fun and very intelligent. Society lets us know every day that men prefer women who look like skinny little boys but normally you can't be that way unless you live in Hollywood with drugs and personal trainers.

Answer 6

I am a lot like you, Jack - until I hit 35, I was the same weight - even after kids. Now I'm about 15 pounds heavier, and it doesn't really go up or down.

Spouse still likes me, I'm content, so why bother dieting?

Guys like women who is content and comfortable with themselves - and who put out.

Maybe that's the real issue here.

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Answer 7

I've lost 5 kilos in my first week. It's my 10th day and I have included salad with some protein (eg. egg/ lean chicken) as you suggested. After 4 years of trying, the fat is finally coming off. It truly feels like magic!

Get started today!

Answer 8

You're asking for trouble.

I am skinny, have always been, but I have friends who aren't so skinny and have struggled with weight their whole life. You know what, we're all different. These girls have way better personalities than my skinny friends for the adversity they faced in life.

And...
90% of girls can't stand a skinny guy. So why is so hard for you to gain weight?

OK, perhaps I should not have spoken for millions of women on the skinny guy comment.

I don't like skinny guys and neither do most of my friends. That's not BS. Maybe I should just take a poll as long as we're talking about weight.

Answer 9

I know guys who like em chunky.. I don't happen to be one of them, but hey, I am convinced that most men in the US ( Jack, you are in Australia?) Prefer a woman with a little more cushion for the pushin, otherwise most women would not be overweight. In other words, if there were no market for chubby women, or if that market were too small, there would be far fewer of them.AND JACK, Just for teh record, teh grapevine on you gettin wacked hasn't made any waves through the AM......

Answer 10

Well, Jack, PERSONALLY... I find it hard to lose weight because I have an autoimmune disease which in turn has caused my endocrine system to go completely off kilter which in turn has made it enormously difficult to, well, not be enormous. This ALSO has caused a host of OTHER problems including severe back pain in reaction to an acute intolerance to cold weather and constant, crushing fatigue (which I'm sure also contributes to my weight "problem").

I'm not monsterous big, thankfully. I'm just not rail thin. I don't have folds of fat, but you definitely can't see my ribs, either.

Answer 11

hmmm.. im 5'6 and because i felt unattractive weighing over 130 i was anorexic for 3 or so yrs. i got down to 98 lbs and had soo many health problems i finally got out of it. i did notice the more weight i lost the more guys that liked me. i am now at 130lbs, and i workout and hour and a half 4 times a week. i look hott, but dont get half the attention i used to. i dont eat meat or anything fattening, yet i cant seem to get under 130 without having to starve myself. every woman is different. i am not lazy and am going to get certified to be a personal trainer. but i am not gonna starve myself for mens pleasure. the past two men i had didnt care if i gained weight or not, they liked the curves!