PLEASE don't pass this question....?

Question

I was w/ my now ex-bf for 2 months. I was falling in love w/ him and I know he felt strongly for me too. The relationship got too serious too fast wayyy too soon and he got scared and couldn't handle it and broke up w/ me. (after an amazing w/e together). He also thought I was too needy (which I was acting and I regret it). He said he was falling behind in school b/c he wanted to spend all of his time w/ me. He also kept saying he was feeling so overwhelmed. We broke up a week ago and I want so badly to talk to him and have tried to call and text him more times than I should have w/ no repsonse from him. He has a good heart and is not a player. He was single before me for 2 years and is very guarded towared women.
He has said a few times that I am really good for him and motivate him to be better. Whenever we were apart more than a day he would tell me how much he really misses me. Just a week before we broke up i was sleepign so didn't answer his call and he panicked.....

calling and texting every 5-10 mins. One night when we were drinking he said he feels like he wants to tell me he loves me all the time b/c he feels that he does but is scared b/c he's been burned before (his ex cheated on him). At night when we sleep... even 2 days prior to him ending things, he kisses the back of my head or top of my head whikle he's asleep. I know he really cares for me but is running for the hills right now b/c he is scared. I haven't calling him all w/e and plan on letting him be.

Do you think he will be back???
(maybe w/ some time & space... )

Has this ever happened to you?

Did he come back???

Answer 1

crap, i already gave you advice on this once. Are you just gonna keep asking 'til 1 out of 50 people says, "yeah, he's coming back?" You are WAY too needy in this situation and now i think i know why he dropped you. I told you once that he's a player and probably has another girl. He was probably panicked (you seem to cling to this) cuz he's possesive or insecure. How old are you? Wake up, quit whining, and don't be a friggin stalker. Have enough self-esteem to say f*** him if he doesn't want you. He just gave you an excuse for why he broke up with you so he wouldn't have to tell you the real reason.....get over it.

Answer 2

Well.. Where to begin. Obviously you need to tell him how you feel. That way he knows that their is still an opportunity to be with you, (just letting him be puts the impression that the relationship is over and he won't come back.) However, you don't have to text him 50 times to do so. Call and leave a single message (this is important) that says something along the line so you would just like to talk and hint about what the conversation will be about. Nothing more than that and also don't make the message longer than 10 minutes (shorter the better) because then it just gets creepy. If he contacts you things will be fine and you two will need to sort out your relationship (slow things down for one, and don't be so clingy.) I have seen other relationships in this situation where their is to much cling and usually people can work past this by learning not to be so clingy and giving each other a little space to breath.

Answer 3

this sounds,..pathetic. you come across like a high school kid in a crush but some of the things you said, like the drinking and sleeping make it seem like you are a little older than that, but with high school tendencies. you have only known each other a few months. you were being needy and suffocating. No, this has never happened to me. I would occupy myself in some other way (studying for one) and if he calls you later then fine, if he doesn't, then fine, I mean, really, have some self- respect and dignity. He is just a guy, not your husband or something, you don't even really know him yet after only 2 months. I have socks that I have known longer than that. Good luck.

Answer 4

Let me tell you something. It doesn't matter how afraid a person is during a relationship.. if he or she REALLY loved you and truly wanted to be with you, that person wouldn't run away. I don't care how many people say they leave because they're scared - not true! I think that he simply wanted out of the relationship and wanted to let you down easily. If he really loved you, he wouldn't be able to avoid you or ignore your phone calls. Trust me. When you're in love, you can't stand to do that to the person you love. If he doesn't want to be with you, try to let it go. He may come back to you later, but why would you want him? He will just hurt you later if this issue comes up again.

Answer 5

I think you should write him a letter (not a text or im) and explain all of this - that you love him, but you understand his need for space. Ask him to consider taking a breather and calling you in a couple weeks to talk. This could go either way, honestly. Use the time to reconnect with family and girlfriends. If he calls, then he does. If not, you will have begun your recovery. I've been there, and it hurts, and the only way to get through it is to stay busy. Please take time to be thankful for your health and your family over the holidays.

Answer 6

Just leave him alone for awhile, If he comes back than good but if he doesn't than you know it just wasn't meant to be. I went through something very similar and it's best just to give them their space. If you're texting and calling all the time you're not giving him the chance to miss you. You're just reassuring him that you are needy and clingy. Go out and have fun, if or when he's ready he'll come back around.

Answer 7

first of all i am very very sorry for the break up.but i am sorry he must be mad.because he dumped you without anything.or even if he told you the reasons why he dumped you he shouldent have left you from the first place(he said that you motivait him to be a better person!!!)but listen if you know wher he lives or any of his friends then try to get to him and tell all of what you feel 2wards him and let him tell you why he left you be no reason.if all of this did not happen then it is down to you now to move on with your life besides life is filled with boys and you can find ones that are better than him k.
plz send me msg to let me now how did things go!!xx

Answer 8

Give him space and time to work out his fears and emotions. Be friends, for now, and see where it goes. He obviously has feelings for you, but he needs to learn to trust you and himself. If you love him and want him. be cool. Cut the needy crap and give it time. Find your own interests, outside of him, and live your life. You can't force these things and you shouldn't place your life on hold while he waffles back and forth on what he wants. And, for God's sake, don't sleep with him until he's willing to commit. If he can;'t deal with his commitment fears, then he shouldn't expect sex from you. Good luck!

Answer 9

I'm sure you've heard the saying about letting the bird loose and if it returns to you it's meant to be. Sometimes people need to work things out with themselves before being able to commit to someone else.

It sounds like it has nothing to do with you, but more of an internal issue. I wouldn't worry so much, rather, support his decision and tell him you'll wait until he's ready.

Sometimes we have to sacrifice and feel pain for those we love. An individual's journey is solo until they are able to walk it with someone else. Let him develop himself before including you.

Of course, don't be unrealistic and wait forever. If he starts dating other people the waiting period has ended.

Answer 10

The guy has his own mind and sounds too adolescent. Your ex just concocted an alibi. Look somewhere else, enjoy the fresh air and the scenery.