In trying to resurrect a friendship. My girlfriend slept with another man . She said it was a one off, and she was very drunk. I dumped her because I did not believe her. That was 3 months ago. Her friends say she is very depressed and wants to get back with me. She has sent dozens of texts, which I ignore. Dont really know what to do.
2007-12-17 04:51:17 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would have thought you would have moved on by now. There is still anger in your system that this girl cheated on you. If YOU really feel you can take a chance with being friends with her again, then give it a try, if on the other hand the incident with the other bloke is a major issue with you, then it will keep coming back to haunt you. In this case you have to be fair to yourself, and your ex, and only you can decide. As for my advice, if I felt any spark was still left, I would begin by at least replying to her texts, and taking things from there.
2007-12-17 05:04:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
You can try to be a bit more understanding and forgiving. Yeah, she made a huge mistake. But that's not unusual, and a good many people who make such mistakes never repeat them. Was what you had before you dumped her good? Was it worth trying to hold onto? Then it deserves another chance. It would be entirely understandable were you to take it slow at first - but give the girl the benefit of the doubt and have lunch with her at least, and give her a chance to apologize and explain.
If you're the kind of guy who can't stand the thought of your girlfriend ever having had sex with another man - in other words, if you insist she has to have been a virgin when you got together and ever has only you - then keep away from her; she's WAY better off without you.
2007-12-17 13:06:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no point of getting back together with an ex. She broke your absolute trust and you have the right to protect emotionally from getting hurt again.
Women are tend to be more complicated when dealing with emotions.... She may be feeling sad about it now BUT she might change her mind again if she sees a better guy and dump you instead. So, there's no guarantee with that. Cheating is cheating. Life is too short to complicated yourself dealing with negative people in your life. Move on and find some other girl who will appreciate you more.
2007-12-17 12:58:32 · answer #3 · answered by mitchchan 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are the one to decide. If you are truly in love with someone you would forgive them and move on with your relationship. If you can both survive this then all the other problems you will have in the future will be minor ones and easy to resolve.
You must still care about the girl otherwise you would be not be asking the Question.
Give it another go - you have nothing to Lose and if its not right then you will know ?
Good luck.
2007-12-17 12:58:33 · answer #4 · answered by scottie322 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has already betrayed your trust once already, and even though she regrets it, you have to really consider whether you will be able to trust her again.
If you still feel that you could be friends, listen to what she has to say for herself, but make sure you tell her what you want, which presumably is just a friendship and be sure that she knows it.
If you, one day, want to get back together with her, that is your desicion, and perhaps she will have learned her lesson then and realize that she only has one more chance to get things right.
2007-12-17 13:02:14 · answer #5 · answered by makebelieve_believer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do you know she will not do it again , so what if she was drunk , put your self in her shoes, what if you were drunk and you did that . her friends might be lying , you are a grown men you should know what to do , if she can sleep with somebody than that was her choice ,
What if she is pregnant , or caught some diseases or can be infected with something and you get back with her than you get it . so you have to think about all this i know its not nice things to say but one has to say it .
good luck in what you do , do the right thing for your self,
2007-12-17 12:59:06 · answer #6 · answered by Bharat P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you think is right. I think most would say you were right to dump her. I say she is human, and not necessarily a bad person, just because she made this one misake. It may be a whopper, as mistakes go, but a very common one. Maybe one more chance. Forgiveness is sometimes better than bitterness.
2007-12-17 12:55:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, whats the point? I'm sure she wasn't that drunk and she's using the drunk thing for an excuse. Dump the cheating back stabber.
2007-12-17 12:56:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe she was very drunk. she's obviously depressed over it, so she didn't do it on purpose, but she still did sleep with another man. you could talk to her about being friends and building up trust again, but she seems still too dependent on you for even that. but you need to know the truth, so maybe you should talk to the other man, if you know who he is. if you love her enough, you should accept her mistake and tell her never to let it happen again. maybe she has a drinking problem. i don't know.
but if you think she's worth a friendship again, then she's obviously worth a relationship again, if it truly was a mistake.
2007-12-17 12:54:50 · answer #9 · answered by andrea 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
stand by your resolve...she's feeling guilty and so she should..if you back down now you'll never be able to stand up for yourself...thank god..you don't need a cheating drunk..her depression is her problem and her friends are trying to dump her on you cos they are fed up too...move on and get a decent woman before you get jaded and stop contact with her friends.
2007-12-17 13:55:51 · answer #10 · answered by minerva 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋