Counseling for depression w/o parent?

Question

I was diagnosed,with depression 3ys ago and I'm suffering from it wrost than ever. it started when my aunt died and then my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer. She cancer free now and ive convinced my mom that im feeling better and i try to hide being depressed from her because im afraid that i am stressing her out and ,i know its ridiculous, but i think that stressing her out will make her cancer come back. is there any way to get counseling without letting her know so that she won't worry or do i need her consent, if not, is there anything i can do on my own to make myself feel better. i keep thinking something bad will happen to me or my mom and its hard to come up with good excuses for why im missing school and i really think that i can help my self because i know that every thing is just in my head i just need some help. Im 16 yrs old. thanks in advance for answers

Answer 1

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Answer 2

Try going to a school counselor and mentioning that you need your session to be confidential (it should be, anyway). I would suggest going to a shrink but I don't know if you can pull that off w/o your mom finding out if you're only 16. Don't let this depression get worse. Remember that our time on this planet is limited, and you should make the most of every day you are allowed to continue your life. You're only 16 now and you probably don't realize how quickly you will turn 30, then 40. I am 34 now and I feel like my life is flying by. Don't go on being depressed, there are very good drugs for this. Plus, if need be, tell your mom about it. If she was strong enough to make it through the cancer, what makes you think she can't handle your depression? It's best to be open about these things. Communication in a family is key. You are too young to be dealing with this, you should be out having fun with your friends and going to the movies. I'm not trying to make light of your situation. I'm sure it's not as easy as all that. But maybe you can take it one step at a time. I really think you should consider the school counselor option, but even better, sit down and have a talk with your mom. She is probably stronger than you are giving her credit for.

Answer 3

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She was very worried but at the same time couldn't understand why I was still sad and thought that I still couldn't let go of my previous relationship. Being the wonderful person that she is, she put aside her feelings and suggested I go for psychiatric evaluation. Many months later and even more anti-depressants, I was not coming close to being better at all.

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Answer 4

Bless your heart.

Do you know for a fact your mom will freak out if you are depressed? If you are sure, then can you try to talk with the school counselor?

I know you're trying to protect your mother, and that's commendable, but by not being honest with her, in the end, it may come back to hurting her, for not trusting in her. In fact, most people that have gone through as much as she has... would just jump at the chance to be helpful to someone. We sometimes deny them that good feeling, by pretending everything is okay. She just may want to help you.

As for the extreme, and your mom has disappointed you in the past, when you've talked about it, then find an adult relative or teacher you can trust. Depression is not an issue that can be handled alone by anybody of any age.

May God give you good insight on this one, girl.
God bless.

Answer 5

I think you should see a doctor and I'm sure your mom would be supportive of that. Even a 16 year old sometimes needs medication. It's not always in your head. I've been on antidepressant medication for several years now and I feel much better. My depression started when my brother-in-law passed away, followed by my best friend, mom and 2 sisters. This all happened in the last 5 years.

Answer 6

I know that you don't need to get a parents permission to get counseling (Not medications) but I am not sure how you would pay for it, since most times it goes through the insurance.

However, suicide hotlines are good even if you are not thinking about suicide as they can provide one on one time and maybe help shed some light on the subject. They also might be able to help you find a free clinic near you.

The websites for these are found here:

http://suicidehotlines.com/national.html
and
http://suicidehotlines.com/
and
http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

I hope this information is helpful to you. Dealing with a sick mother and also handling the death of someone you love, is very difficult and I hope you will take the time to use some of these resources.

EDIT: I too think that you should talk to your mom about your desire to get help with being depressed. I am sure that your mother would want to do everything she can to help you and I don't think it will bring back her cancer. :-) Good luck.

Answer 7

you know it's good that you are recognizing that you need to get this taken care of. there are free clinics you can go to, but you really should let your mom know, it won't make her cancer come back and besides i think she would understand and be glad that you are being honest about everything. either way you need to get help before things get worse you don't want to keep pretending because that just makes things worse in the end. good luck on finding a clinic or telling your mom.

Answer 8

Go and talk to your school counselor, they will help you get the help you need. But don't be afraid to talk to your mom.

If her cancer recurs, it won't be because of anything you did or didn't do. If you are hurting, your mom would want to know so she could make sure you were getting the help you need.

I know that if you were my kid, I'd want to know if you felt like you needed help.

Good Luck.

Answer 9

Talk to a school counselor...you do not need parents permission for that, although they are going to want you to talk to your mom about how you feel I am sure. And don't be silly, your depression and need for treatment is NOT going to bring your mom's cancer back.

Answer 10

Talk to your shcool counselour and your doctor. And talk to your mom about how you feel about her cancer. Talk to your friends, teachers, or anybody!!! JUST KEEP TALKING!!!