Adoption or Abortion?

Question

and why?

PS This is nothing to do with me, I was just wondering what people think. Thanks x

Answer 1

man you really opened up a can of worms with this topic! your going to get very cynical narrow minded views from pro life people. So beware! My choice is either! I believe it's a womans choice to get an abortion but if she can carry the baby to birth and give it away then more power to her!

Answer 2

Both. Not because I believe aborting is right, but because my beliefs for what I would personally do are based on religion, and the law is supposed to cover the religious and the unreligious...so for those who don't mind explaining the abortion to their Maker later on, it's better they do that than leave it in a trash can or the high school prom bathroom and all the other crap that goes on when women are forced to have children they don't want...including abuse.

Adoption is the best option...but i know there are women who take their lives into their hands going through with a pregnancy, and a woman's body is never the same after...there are still many women who die in childbirth or come very close to death...no matter the technology available...and the time required off work as well as the big belly telling the world...if a woman's whole point of view is that she doesn't want it to become a fact of her life, then carrying the baby to term to adopt out defeats her purposes...

but,if the woman decides to keep herself in the BEST of health and find an adoptive family from early that will pay for medical expenses and even some of the living expenses for the time immediately following birth...she can make sure to avoid complications as much as possible and make sure to never see an ultrasound and hand the baby to the adoptive parents as soon as it is born...otherwise attachment usually develops.

What we all need to STOP and REMEMBER here, is that it is not the job of the law to make the right decision for us, excepting cases where we cannot decide on our own between options (such as custody) and need a judge's help. KEEP IN MIND that those for whom abortion is not an option, will adopt out in unplanned cases even if the law allows them to abort!

Therefore, ALSO KEEP IN MIND that those who tend to abort now, will simply try to do back alley abortions if they are truly desperate...I do think many more would keep the child though if unable to get it done through legal means.

But just pointing out that those with a tendency to want the child, will keep it regardless of if the law allows otherwise, or not. So the better question is would YOU PERSONALLY adopt or abort. I feel it's easy to throw an answer out there but in our private lives where no one knows what we do...what would you really do?

Answer 3

I read all of these "pro-life" answers, and I used to feel the same way. Until I was put in a position I never thought that I would be in. It's very easy to answer a question like this when you have not been there. I have three children, and when I first found out I was pregnant with them, the thought of abortion or adoption never even crossed my mind. They were my babies, of course I was keeping them. Then this past March, I found out that I was pregnant with what would have been my fourth child (yes, I was on birth control...the patch). And all of the sudden I found myself considering options I never thought I would...yet grateful for the fact that I HAD options. I thought about adoption...but in my case, that just wasn't the best option for me. I knew in my heart I couldn't carry a baby to term and just give it away. And how would I explain that to my children??? I ended up having an abortion in April, and it was by far the HARDEST decision I have ever had to make. But it was MY decision, and while I won't divulge my whole life story, I had my reasons. I would have been due around now, and I admit there's been more than a few nights where I have cried myself to sleep...but through it all, I have no doubts that I did what was best for my family. We are not cold hearted women that have no feeling, no heart...no guilt!!! I think it is extremely unfair to take such a strong position on an issue most have never had to experience, especially not knowing where the women having the abortions are coming from, their stories, their reasons....I am not saying I am an advocate of abortion....I am an advocate of CHOICE!!!!!

Answer 4

Adoption is not an emotionally appealing option to abortion. In fact adoption is often emotionally crippling. I think that there would be fewer abortions if there was more support for parenting an unplanned child.

Answer 5

There is no connection between the two

Abortion is a decision not to follow through with a pregnancy

Adoption is a decision not to follow through with parenting

So the question would be

"Adoption or Parenting?"

Or

"Abortion or carrying to term?"

Answer 6

Abortion because there are already too many unwanted children in the world. We should work on trying to adopt the children (without parents) that are already here.

Answer 7

It depends on the mother and father.

Some people can handle carrying a fetus to term and then giving it to someone else, others can't.

It depends on the person. Both choices have their place.

Answer 8

Either: depending on the situation in wich the child was conseived and the life it would have being adopted. I do think it would be very hard to carry a child for nine month and then give it up. How ever living with the guilt of killing your child is also hard to deal with! I think the best option is what a young women starts her period she starts to take the Pill contraseptive. This may seem a lil bit exstreme but it will solve the question!

Answer 9

If you are pregnant and don't want to parent...then

Abortion, because I think infant Adoption is Wrong.

Answer 10

If adoption would work for you, then I believe that's the better choice between the two. Adoption has touched my life in so many wonderful ways. My husband & his brothers were all adopted and I can't imagine my life without him. I have nieces & nephews who are adopted. And, I have sisters who gave their babies up for adoption when they were teens & it is awesome seeing the great lives that their children are living.

I also fully support a woman's right to choose abortion, though, if carrying a pregnancy to term is not an option for her.

Both are hard choices to make and I trust that every person has to examine their own conscience & make the choice that is best for their own lives.

Answer 11

Since a fetus meets the biological definition of life, and since it meets the DNA standards for human, I vote for life, hence; adoption. The constitution is supposed to protect us all. It's a pity that DNA evidence is admissible sometimes and not others. Abortion could still be accomplished once someone went to court, petitioned for the right to represent the best interests of the child, showing there was no conflict of interest, and then show that death was in the best interest of the child; or that the child was a physical threat to the mother.