could a second try with ur ex be better than the 1st? i am 22 and my ex is 29. he sometimes thinks of getting back together but right now he's stressed with school and all. i met a very handsome latin man in the summer he is 32 he is kind gentle he's not married however he said i was too young for him he wanted to start as friends. i guess there's no point in waiting for him since him and i may not happen. my ex would cancel dates at the last second but he doesn't do it as much anymore.could a second try with an ex boyfriend be better?
2007-12-17 04:31:06 · 23 answers · asked by Melanie P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry, but in my experience it's worse.
best of luck to you!
2007-12-17 04:33:34 · answer #1 · answered by Tira Misu 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no cut-and-dry answer. Relationships are not scientific!! Sometimes a second try is definitely better, other times it would be worse. It completely depends on the couple and the chemistry between them.
However, based on my experience, usually the results will be about the same. The second try will resemble the first. People are people, and unless both parties have the maturity and commitment to make definite, decisive changes and live by them, the second try would likely start off well, but gradually deteriorate to the state of the first relationship.
So in summary -
CAN a second try be better? Yes.
WILL a second try be better? Perhaps, but in most cases, probably not.
2007-12-17 04:41:44 · answer #2 · answered by whabtbob 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if it did not work the first time why would it work the second time huh. Guys never change okay. Or he could change a week a month but he knows he got it like that so he will do the same as before. For get about ur ex and latin boy look for new guys you are so worth it love yourself then the rest ok.
2007-12-17 04:36:37 · answer #3 · answered by janet_23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I currently just started dating my ex again. We have been in love for years. We broke up four years ago and got back together about 2 months ago. things, so far, are going great! We hardly ever argue about anything. I think we have both grown up a lot. I hope it works out for you the way it has for me. I hope you will be happy in whatever decision you make and the answer to your question is, yes, the second go around could be better than the first. Good luck!.........by the way I am 21.
2007-12-17 04:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by Floridagirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never hesitate to try anything to that makes you happy. What you must ask is why did you break up in the first place and has something changed since then>? If so, then I am sure it may be awesome and if not at least you tried it and failed and can move on but that not knowing can be a killer in life. Basically have someone in your life that his goal is to make you happy because you make him happy and you will be successful. Too many people makes things complicated.
2007-12-17 04:35:38 · answer #5 · answered by belbiv1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk away from those two (both are making excuses to you for not wanting to be with you) and find someone new. Learn that once you split from someone you did so for a darned good reason and since you couldn't accept it the first time what on earth makes you think you can accept it the second time. Learn that lesson, never go back once you've split.
2007-12-17 04:35:02 · answer #6 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still so young! Don't go back to that dude. There are so many nice boys out there that want to take you out on dates and won't cancel at the last second. You deserve a nice boy like this!:)
2007-12-17 04:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by redrobot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have tried it several times and it always goes horribly wrong. At the point where you want to be with them still there are too many raw hurt emotions to have a successful relationship. After youve healed, then you have necessarily moved on. Very unlikely to work.
2007-12-17 04:34:56 · answer #8 · answered by Yeppers! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not really a second time around usaully means you break up again because the same thing that you two broke up over will happen again i know i've been there so if you want to give it a try go ahead but don't get your hopes up, ok
2007-12-17 05:48:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better than what? The first time? Who knows? Someone else? Again, who knows. Shake the pattern. Start over. Somewhere else.
2007-12-17 04:34:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes. But don't get your hopes up until you can figure out if things have really changed. It doesn't sound to me like your ex is ready for something immediately anyway. So just give it time.
2007-12-17 04:34:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋