Am I being pathetic or is it him again?

Question

We had a pretty significant snow here and I live 26 mi away from work. I packed my cellular phone, clothes, cosmetics and all the things I thought I might need if I became stranded at work and took off. It was slow travel, but I managed to get to the interstate where I drove 35 mi per hour for 30 miles to my destination.
I called my significant other of 6 yrs to let him know I made it and he did not answer. He didnt answer for over 14 hours. He said he was sleeping.
I cannot believe he shut his ringer off. Why would you shut the ringer off on your phone when your girlfriend is traveling thru a snowstorm to work? Is he just an idiot or just could care less?
I would like to know what you think the issue is here. Me or him being a dump asb again?

ok, just an FYI. I work in a hospital and only 1 RN showed up for work on our floor which means the entire nite shift had to stay over. One nurse was picked up by our ambulance service on a highway about 2 mi from her house. We have had snow mobiles pick us up.
Also the travel from my house to the hospital is 26 miles, but in order to get on an interstate which was the clearest route, I had to go out of my way about 7 miles and into another town thru a safe route to get to an interstate which ended up being way more than 30 mi to work. We live in middle of miles and miles of farmland. The wind blows here and makes big drifts. We do not drive rural areas in snow storms. It could be a long time before anyone found you if you were stuck.

Answer 1

This happened to me.

Here is the man way of thinking...

If the weather is that bad, most women will call in. If you thought you had everything under control then you knew you could get there. So why should he worry or you would have stayed home.

Our way of thinking...
You stupid f*%%king a**hole!

The bottomline is , if you were stupid enough to go out in that bad of a storm, and you had your cell phone, then you better make sure you got the number of AAA or a tow truck , Cus he aint that stupid to go out in that bad weather to rescue you.

Answer 2

Something tells me that this is not the only thing that is bothering you with him. It may be that he dosent anwser his phone alot, or there are other things going on in the relationship. True he could have just been sleeping and some people are deep sleepers (A bomb could drop on my house and I would not wake up). If there is more going on and this insident is just the tip of the iceberg then yes it may be time to let go, or at least have a talk about your feelings, whats been going on, what upsets you about the whole situation. I know men hate these talks but I think if someone is willing to work on a relationship they will be willing to have a talk. By talk I mean a nice chat over coffee or dinner, not a all out yelling match. Try to express your feelings without making it an argument. That will only make things worse because then you are only throwing fuel on the fire. No Yelling, give him a chance to talk also, if things escalate, walk away and continue your talk when you are both calm. I think thats where alot of people mess up on their relationships. They yell they accuse they scream they dont want the other person to have a say or at least try to see trew the other persons eyes and standpoint. On the other hand he may not have cared. Look back are there other times things like this have happened? Is it the same thing over and over? If so he's got to want to change himself, and he may not be what you are looking for. The #1 thing in a relationship is making each other happy. If you are not happy and he is not happy then why stick together?

Answer 3

Well, I think this is you being a woman and him being a man. Of course we would like our men to care about us all the time and think the same way we do, but this is not the case at all. We are totally different species. He turned his ringer off not thinking because he probably was thinking and just assumed like men do that you would get to work safe thru a snow storm. If it was the other way around you would have probably been waiting by the phone to make sure he was okay or calling him every thirty minutes to make sure he was still on the road! lol Sound familiar? Your man is just being a man, sometimes men are stupid and don't think... Let him know how you feel and that you want to know that he cares about you and your saftey when something like this comes up again. Tell him the way it is and next time he might just pick up the phone, or at least not turn the ringer off if he is a hard sleeper.

Answer 4

I had a simlar issue with my ex, and the best thing you can do is ask him if you can discuss the communication "protocol" for your relationship. In other words, how often, or how soon after one calls the other, you or he expects a response. It sounds silly, but trust me - it can save alot of heartache and misunderstanding in the future. Now, if he was really sleeping for 14 hours, that's a whole other issue. Either he's got some type of sleep disorder, has been working 80 hours a week, is coming down off a meth binge, or is just plain lazy. If it's one of the last 2, you may want to consider looking for a new bf.

Answer 5

I think that it is funny that you drove 30 miles to go to a job that is only 26 miles away.

Answer 6

Ouch, that isn't right in my oppinion.
If you've been together you think he'd give a shi* and make the effort in making sure you're okay in a snow storm!
And I doubt he was sleeping for 14 hours.
No one keeps their phone off that long.
Are you sure your not having issues?
Maybe there was a reason he wasn't taking your calls.

Answer 7

that was rude. I'd be mad...
Maybe after 6 years hes taking you for granted, thinking you'll be there no matter what so he thinks he doesn't have to worry about you anymore?...

Answer 8

That was very insensitive of him. I would be worried sick. What is wrong w/him. Everyone has their days but if this crap continues- look into this maybe move on.

Answer 9

I think you're making way too much out of this, based upon what you've said.

Answer 10

dnt call or contact him for a week lets see wt he thinks of that... make him loose his mind .. when u see him do ur best to make him annoyed, turned on, excited.... then dont talk to him again .. make him crazy ..then see how he's gonna treat u