My ex boyfriend and I..?

Question

Me and my ex boyfriend are obviously broken up but the thing is that we're still friends and still talk and everything just not as often as we used to or as much as we want to.
But the thing is its been 2 months and we both are still sooo much in love with each other but he doesnt want to be with me again or yet because we're in a long distance of each other, Ohio and Texas.
He is frustrating me and confusing me as to what he really wants: friendship or a couple.
He claims that he wants to move on; but he cant. and thats just how i feel.
The question is should i keep talking to him or stop?
i really dont want to because i think itll just make us both even more upset but i still would like some advice on what i should do.
Thanks so much!!

Answer 1

I broke up with a guy once, thought it wasn't the right thing at the time, I was only 19... but after 4 months of not ever wanting to be without him, we got back together. We've been married for 6 years now and I am so glad he was patient for me and I didn't let my young age stand in the way of a perfect husband. Moral of the story, keep talking. Take a chance of accepting the next invitation to go on a date, even if you aren't really into the guy, then causally mention the date to him. Maybe the competition will help him reevaluate his position.

Answer 2

I've been in this situation with an ex numerous times. We just couldn't let go of eachother. I'd stop calling and he'd call me. He say he didn't want to be together he only wanted to be friends because it was too hard being in a long distance relationship, but he always said he loved me. Eventually, I had to move on or lose my sanity. The whole back and forth thing was driving me crazy and keeping me from the man I was supposed to be with. I'm now currently in a very loving, not confusing relationship, with a man that is willing to be with me and love me. You deserve so much more. He can't have it both ways, this arrangement is causing you to much pain to continue. It's better to cut your loses now, and move on so you can be happy! True happiness is waiting for you around the corner! God bless

Answer 3

Here is some down to earth advice.

Ex's are ex's for a reason.

There was an obvious reason that the two of you went your separate ways, that underlying reason is still there. If the reason was the distance, then that might be something that the two of you can remedy (somebody moves). If it was something more, than that underlying problem is still there.

As long as the two of you stay in close touch, neither of you will move on, if you truly want to move on, then tell him that you two need to sever contact, and stick to it.

Answer 4

Keep talking to him, but less. Don't make it something you do every day, just check in every once in a while to keep the friendship going. You can talk more when the air has cleared a bit. Also, go on a couple dates. This will help you to move on because you will be meeting and getting to know different people. If nothing else, you will make more friends this way. Let them know you are trying to get over someone, but that you want to move on.

Answer 5

You should move on. The two of you can still be friends but try not to get involved with each other. Long distance relationships barely work out so I don't think you should bother going back with him. Move on, find someone else. Make it clear and understood to him that you want to keep in touch but you want to move on. It's not an easy thing to do but you have to do what's right for you.

Answer 6

Well, here's the thing. You two made a bond, one that can exist with other people too. You're attached to what was good between you two, but with the distance there, you're really putting a lot of stress on the relationship with him. If you maintain a friendship that's fine, but you really ought to not treat it anything more than that.

You aren't going out trying to meet others, you don't have much going on. He's the one that's really trying to break out there and meet people, hence his reasoning for not wanting to be together again.

He can move on, let him. Don't try to keep your hands on him, or stress the both of you out, with no future guarantee. You really shouldn't cheat yourself out of the opportunity to meet new people either.

The relationship ended for a reason, and you two have to respect that. Stop talking to him, spend some time working on yourself, and meeting new people. Dating isn't easy, but if you make it fun, you'll have a good time discovering new things about yourself and other people.

Answer 7

well it depends... are you going to be moving back soon so that it won't be a long term relationship anymore?

i can tell you from experience that they're really hard to deal with, and if it were me, and you weren't moving back for a long time then i'd just keep it friends, and not talk to him as much so that you could get over him, but if you'll be moving closer soon, then talk to him about it, and try to talk more, and move closer to have the relationship.

Answer 8

YOu will never know until you are reunited. The worst evil to a relationship you care about is being apart. It can destroy a relationship like nothing else can. Best you can do is enjoy your life and be happy and stay in contact with your friend. If it is meant to be for you to be together then believe me you will be with him again.

Answer 9

Welll long distance relationships are nice but very very harmful... you might think you really do love him but it may be that you hate it that hes gone and you want him back but I mean its not reallly what I recomend.....
I recomend that you just stop it right there talk to him once in a blue moon but dont keep doing that youre just gonna come out hurrt!

Answer 10

I think you should remain friends but also explore other men where you are.. maybe you can't move on because you think there's nobody else but if it's meant to be it will be no matter what.