I will as she loved christmas and I go every years and talk to her and put flowers on her grave.
2007-12-17 04:09:28 · 14 answers · asked by Gypsy Gal 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Is this normal?
2007-12-17 04:09:58 · update #1
That'd be hard, since her plane crashed in the Himalayas....
But heck, that would be some extreme adventure...
2007-12-17 04:13:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would, except that my Mom was cremated and her ashes scattered. She loved Christmas and surprises, so in the weeks before Christmas now, I try to do something nice and unexpected for someone each day in her memory. Maybe it's something as simple as paying the toll for the car behind me in line, but it's unexpected and hopefully it brightens that person's day a bit.
I think your memorial to your mom at Christmas is a sweet thing, and it sounds like it helps you deal with the pain of losing her. I'm sure she's watching over you and is very pleased.
Have a blessed Christmas.
2007-12-17 04:15:19 · answer #2 · answered by Wolfeblayde 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's normal,my sisters do.I don't.It's not a respect thing,I just feel very strongly,and this applies to religion or not,that my mother/loved one is not there,just some decaying body.I find the idea of a "shrine"to basically a bag of bones a little weird.I have them in my memories,but I never visit cemeteries.I don't think anything is wrong in it.It brings my sisters comfort.Just me,that brings me no comfort at all,just a piece of dirt.What WAS my mother isn't there,only the vessel,religious or non.My opinion only
2007-12-17 04:20:25 · answer #3 · answered by reporters should die 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It varies with the culture. We cremate our dead in the same place where many others were. When we go, we go and leave no trace.
That entity that walked the earth is no more. That association was only for the duration. It is the living that go on remembering. The dead are gone.
2007-12-17 04:29:55 · answer #4 · answered by A.V.R. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely normal.
You have memories, and your mothers life had meaning and value. Showing that tangibly with flowers is a great thing to do.
2007-12-17 04:13:26 · answer #5 · answered by ɹɐǝɟsuɐs Blessed Cheese Maker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very, I still go drink wine at her grave on her birthday & give her a little
2007-12-17 04:13:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
seeing as my mom is not dead... i wont.
im quite sure its normal to do so though. the cemetary here always has flowers on the graves.
2007-12-17 04:12:39 · answer #7 · answered by Chippy v1.0.0.3b 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She hasn't got one, and I wouldn't anyway, but others in my family do this and I don't think it's all that odd (apart from the talking bit). It's how they like to remember them.
2007-12-17 04:12:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that's a positive and normal thing for you to do.
2007-12-17 04:55:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course.
2007-12-17 04:17:51 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋