we were together for almost 4 years, he has never been violent with me or my kids. last night, we got into an argument & he went into a rage. he drove my 6 year old son & me around in his truck for over an hour, screaming & tryin to run off the road & into ditches & trees. he wouldnt let us get out & threatened killing all 3 of us over & over. i finally was able to get out the truck when he ran over me, knocking me to the ground. he then threatened if i didnt get back in the truck he would kill my son in front of me. i reluctantly got back in & then he started grabbing at my arm & head yelling & screaming. i was finally able to get free but couldnt get my son out the truck. i called the cops & they made a report so i could file for a protective order. he had taken my son to my parents without harming him. i have packed up all his things & we have not spoken since. i dont want to talk to him or see him ever again. however we live in the same neighborhood. ive never been alone & afraid
2007-12-17 04:05:24 · 30 answers · asked by meallmeallthetime 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I could never be as afraid of being alone as I would be with him around. This man has mental problems and you can't fix them. GET AWAY from him!! Get an order of protection and a security system. Put motion sensor lights around the house. Change the locks. Don't answer any calls from him. Change your number and have it private. I am so proud of you for your decision to never see him again. So many women stay and end up playing the lead roll at a funeral. Focus on making your home and you and your son safe.
2007-12-17 04:19:10 · answer #1 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my...I am terribly sorry. He sounds like a horrible person. Definitely make sure that there is a protective or a restraining order against him for you and your son. Never allow your son to even communicate briefly with this man. How horrible! You did the right thing by calling the cops as soon as you could. I am glad that he took your son to your parents house without harming him, but he still is a horrible freakish guy for even threatening to kill you all.
I wish this was some kind of joke...but I know it isn't.
I know you may live in the same neighborhood, but try not to make any contact with him except if you see him in court. Let the people know everything that was going on. If for some reason he says that he'll "change" or something, never give in. You say that you never want to talk to him or see him ever again. Good job. That is the first way to get completely over this.
I have been with my fiancee for a little over 4 years and I cannot imagine something happening like this.
Once again, I am so sorry!
2007-12-17 12:14:15 · answer #2 · answered by Stacey and Corey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, PLEASE do not go back or take him back! Make sure you get a restraining order and report it asap if he tries to violate the order. Get the locks changed on the house, it may cost a little bit of money but it will be worth your security. If he still tries to come to the house try staying with a friend or family member until things cool down or have someone stay with you just in case the cops need to be called and you can't get to the phone.
Good Luck Hun!
2007-12-17 12:14:26 · answer #3 · answered by Carmela 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by contacting the police. The best thing you can do is get a protective order and never talk to this person again. When he comes to pick up his stuff (if he hasn't already) you can request that a police officer be present. You might think about moving out of that neighborhood if you can. Tell everyone around you about what happened so they can help you out. Don't allow him around your children. Good luck.
2007-12-17 12:10:45 · answer #4 · answered by Pam H 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO everything in your power to expedite the courts to have this man put in psychiatric care AFTER he has served the appropriate punishment for the crime. If he is not the children's biological father, than get and keep a restraining order for you and the kids. In addition, you and your son might benefit from therapy after a traumatic event like that one. Do your best to heal, which basically takes time, but be sure and explore creative realms and take time for yourself to meditate, make art, and/or spend quality time with good friends and family. This will help alleviate fear and lonliness--oh, and please don't be too quick to jump into a new relationship!
2007-12-17 12:11:36 · answer #5 · answered by Chubbybunny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that you and your children had to experience this. It sounds terrible. I think you did the right thing by asking him to leave and getting a protective order. I know that once this happens, it will happen again at some point. I also know how hard it must be on you. This is never easy to deal with or understand.
2007-12-17 12:10:59 · answer #6 · answered by Kimberly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need a protective order, and some time. One day maybe you can become friends. But for goodness sake. don;t ever put your son in harms way again, in other owrds, no matter what promises or pleas he makes DO NOT GO BACK!!
And you're not alone, youhave your son and he is the most important. You can make it. I did raising three by myself.
2007-12-17 12:09:49 · answer #7 · answered by Deborah S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your bf never did this before, there is something very wrong with him. Could be physical; could be emotional; could be drug induced. He needs to see a doctor immediately.
As for you & your son, you need to get a Restraining Order (a/k/a Order of Protection) against this man. You owe it to your son to protect him. Do not bring this man back into your life. You & your son might also need counseling to get over such a traumatic event.
2007-12-17 12:09:42 · answer #8 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know if you own the house or how thepolice deal with things there but all I can say is,for the good of your son dont take this man back.If you do it will teach your son that its acceptable to treat women like that.
Im so sorry for you and I hope you have Domestic Violence Centres who will be able to help(maybe even help you to move away).Good luck xx
2007-12-17 12:10:33 · answer #9 · answered by bella 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for you in your situation. You need to avoid this thug at all cost, because he will probably try to get back with you by begging and pleading, DONT go back. There are plenty more men out there. Some counseling might help you and getting into a good church is helpful for support.
2007-12-17 12:14:06 · answer #10 · answered by toolman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋