I think he does, all the time. "If you do this you might be hired for job x...", "can you hook me up with person x, whom you know, and we can talk about future careers for you..."
It sounds so obviously blackmail- mild maybe- but still I will do x if you do y. Sometimes more subtle, but still obvious. He is so pushy, so ambitious, that I am nothing but a pawn to him. I have to tell him constantly about my business contacts to keep in the game and he is "nice" because he thinks I can help him, that I can delve into my list of contacts somehow. I don't know if I would last if I didn't have a good network. It really upsets me. This is the same boss who dumped on my at the Xmas party. Same aggressive guy. I am 32 in April and he is only 34. He is some whiz kid I guess who fast-tracked his way to where he is now. He was a whiz with figures you see. Great with finance and accounting and it was his ticket.
2007-12-17 03:42:22 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
When I say "hook up" I don't mean in a romantic sense. I mean he wants to add them to his list of business contacts. He is hungry for anyway to the top and it is so obvious. I know it is business and it is supposed to be cut-throat, but I think this guy lacks class and is way too obvious about "you scratch my back, I'll scratch yours"...
You get the idea. He is so ambitious, he'd sell anyone out to get ahead. I feel cheap and nasty whenever I talk to him, but I am charming and I think this is the only way to deal with him. Don't be nasty in return, be classy, to-the-point and yes, I am sending out my resume. So far, not much response. I will keep at it. It's not easy. My qualifications don't really fit my job experience. I was hired here by someone who had an open mind. This guy doesn't. A lot of prospective employers don't either. They want someone with a cookie-cutter resume with the right qualifications and right experience. See why I am feeling so worried?
2007-12-17 03:54:46 · update #1
Don't give in to this sleazeball. Try to find another job.
2007-12-17 12:04:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything you don't wanna do. First of all, if you dont mind giving him information make sure he is paying you in return. It might not be financially but make sure your needs are met as well. If you're not that type of person, then you need to put him in his place and explain to him that you dont feel comfortable. If it continues, document everything (forward the emails or messages to your personal email and print them) and contact your HR department once you have a good case for harrassment.
2007-12-17 03:47:43 · answer #2 · answered by Kay-Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have caused this yourself by letting him know you have contacts. I suppose you have done this to make your job more secure. He is using you but that is what bosses do they employ (use) their workers to help benefit themselves and their companies. If you keep talking about your contacts and never come through you will end up looking foolish eventually. He sounds very agressive and so do you, not a bad thing really
2007-12-17 03:51:25 · answer #3 · answered by oopiedoopiegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not blackmail, but he is trying to talk you into doing things for him. If he is your boss, you have to do what he wants as long as it is legal and in accordance with company policy. Period. So far you have not described anything illegal or unethical. Sounds like you just are resisting his lead. He is your boss, if you don't like him that much, look for a new job. But this is NOT blackmail the way you described it. You will only make trouble for yourself if you continue with your attitude and continue resisting him..
2007-12-17 03:48:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her boss. Going over your boss' head is the best way to be heard. It doesn't sound like the establishment would condone her activites so it's best to report the issue to them. Good luck :)
2016-04-09 21:46:17 · answer #5 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can use his manipulating to your advantage.
If he asks for X in exchange for Y, ask him for more details immediately. Using your example you could say; When will we sit down and discuss my career? When will I be hired for that job? Make his comments more tangible and definitive.
He will either back down on the spot, stop manipulating you or do what he has offered.
2007-12-17 03:59:22 · answer #6 · answered by G M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure your boss isn't my husband's boss? E-mail your boss' boss to set up a time to speak with him or her in private. Make sure that it's confidential so if your boss' boss speaks with him he won't know who reported him. If your boss' attitude doesn't change, I'd start putting your resume' out there for other jobs. He sounds like a jerk who doesn't respect you. I wouldn't want to work for someone like that.
2007-12-17 03:51:56 · answer #7 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a pratt. Better off finding another job. Not really blackmail though as he doesn't seem to have any dirty little secret to blackmail you with.
2007-12-17 03:48:27 · answer #8 · answered by Jeepster 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SEND A LETTER AND SAY THAT YOU WILL REPORT HIM
Tell all the Staff and ask them to back you up, good luck
2007-12-17 03:47:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look for another job
2007-12-17 03:46:50 · answer #10 · answered by glamour04111 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋