Me and this girl (29 and 25) were togther for 3 months. She recently broke up with e because she lost feelings. She claims it was as if i was always on her tail. But i was just being there for her because she was stressed out with work, school and life. She stated numerous times that her space was important to her. I have been asking her back but she claims she needed time to think and for me to just be cool. I dont know what got into her she todl me she wanted to marry me etc.. Her and my family are shocked they thought we were it. Now she wants to remain friends and still hang out. She told me that she lost emotional and physical attraction to me in a way. But maybe in the future she will get back with me. She knows i love her. Could it have been she is just fed up with all teh attention i gave her or can she be totally done. We never had any issues in our relationship she and i agree we had a good relationship. Any help advice please?
2007-12-17 03:42:19 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She wants her space, give it to her.
Believe me... once you stop always answering her phone calls and being there for her she is going ot miss you.
So back off and be cool... you are smothering her. A woman who is smothered will run like crazy... don matter how much she cares about you or how much you love her. She told you she needed space but you were still too much.
So now show her you understand she needs space and give it to her. Even ignore her a little that will make her contact you more to see what is up and your answer is... you were just busy, whats up?
You have ot live your life as well when you are in a relationship. get your own friends and do your own thing at the same time that you are in a relationship... ok.
2007-12-17 03:48:07 · answer #1 · answered by Faithful_tab 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you will resent me saying this and most likely discard the advice:
get over her.
It is rarely a good idea to get back with an ex, even if the relationship was not long-lasting the first time around. You may feel as though you can patch things up, do things differently this time, but the truth is, you cannot change how she feels and she seems pretty adament. It is hard to change yourself, but impossible to change someone else. If you try, she will resent you in the end.
Marriage after 3 months? That wouldnt last for sure. I dont care how good your relationship seems at the time. 3 months isnt even enough time to get over the excitement of a new person, become bored with the sex, or even begin to hate each others quirks.
My girlfriend and I broke up after 6 months. It has been another 7 months of us together, and every day has been a struggle. It is not worth it. I am leaving her in a week and it is incredibly hard. I wnat to reverse my decision every 10 minutes. But the truth is, our relationship was not good after the first 3-4 months. for me at least. and it only takes ONE PERSON in the relationship to end it. If she's not feeling you, that cannot be changed.
Be glad that she even wants to be friends. Prove yourself to be a good, sometimes distant friend and maybe things will work out like you want.
2007-12-17 03:52:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant force her to get back together with you.
Plus, you were only together for 3 months.
If she has stated several times that her space was important to her, why didn't you stop being so intrusive ? Thats probably oine of the main reasons she broke up with you ! If someone wants their own space, someone else (especially if they are in a relationship with them) getting in that space a lot is going to piss them off. A lot !
I realise that you obviously really liked this girl, but i think you should do as she says, just be friends with her, because yes, i think there is a chance you may get together, but don't pin all your hopes on this relationship.
If you two do get together, try to improve it by not invading her space so much.
Also, don't be too upset if it doesn't work out. :]
Hope that helped
xx
2007-12-17 03:53:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK I may be 16 but she sound like she dosent know how she really feels because you are giving her so much attention it maybe a thing a guy shes go out with has never gave to her just give her time and in a couple of months maybe even a couple of weeks she'll notice that she loves you to...
2007-12-17 03:49:07 · answer #4 · answered by Sadie _Kun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you don't let her have her space...it can get very frustrating. I can understand you wanting to be there for her, but she needs time to think for herself. before you ask for her back, let her decide and let her call you. that will then show her that you are going to give her the space she's been asking for. 3 months is very early to detect if you guys want to get married. you are still trying to impress each other. She may want you back...but even as a friend don't over kill it.
2007-12-17 03:49:51 · answer #5 · answered by Yep...Me! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, 20 circumstances over the final 2 years? 20? From my attitude, this dating isn't meant to be.. you're able to truly think of roughly what you notice coming interior the close to destiny. once you're questioning approximately breaking apart now, do you think of there's a probability you're dating will stand up to 5 extra years? What approximately 10? in case you think of the comparable problems are going to upward thrust up returned.. you're able to truly evaluate saving your self some rigidity and discomfort. although, there is often 2 facets to a narrative.. in line with hazard you adult adult males do ought to talk it out. surely although, i can't see that working after the 20 circumstances you already did wreck up.
2016-12-11 07:38:38 · answer #6 · answered by cootes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go and thank God that you did, obviously you have been giving her everything that you thought she needed and it still wasn't good enough for her. It's better that you saw this side of her now than later. If I were you I wouldn't take her back, it seems like she is the one who is making all the decisions here. You deserve better, don't be second best to anyone, you owe it to yourself to have more respect for you.
2007-12-17 03:46:59 · answer #7 · answered by 9957_*vsts 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant live with the separation! And you are not doing anything not a smallest step to make any of this real. I am not you! I dont have any other skills but my heart. I completely depend on the REALITY of your actions and everything I have is couple of nasty emails, telling me to back off. You are taking all my strenght away from me, making me doubt myself and my spiritual life and that is THE ONLY thing I have, I cant live without it and without my self confidence that I am doing the right thing. Doubts are killing me. They make me doubt my own spiritual skills and they are not the same kind of skills you have. He takes them and gives them when He wants, He is very uncertain with me. It is very difficult to live like that but it gives Him great pleasure to enjoy in my devotion so I let Him.
2007-12-17 03:49:52 · answer #8 · answered by radharani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She asked for space. Give it to her. Find something else to fill your hours. If she really does have feelings for you, then once you give this girl the space she wants and needs, she may come back around.
2007-12-17 03:46:54 · answer #9 · answered by blackjack_cherry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg this is sooo werid i went through the same thing recently but i got a new boyfriend that i love <3.
anyway just be friends with her. girls are complicated i know since i am one but girls think boys are complicated too. but just be friends eventually she will relize that your always there for her and still love her like you use too.
2007-12-17 03:48:52 · answer #10 · answered by lilly_pad69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋