My nephew is in kindergarden, and he misses school about 3-4 times a week. There are weeks when he dosent even go at all......My sister in law keeps saying that he dosent need to go because he is sooooo smart, but i think is stupid for him to miss almost everyday, can somebody please help me as to what i should do in this case?
2007-12-17 03:37:19 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Well, if he is in public school, there should be truancy laws in effect. I know that if my daughter were to miss that much school, I would have to meet with the school to determine a solution unless I could provide evidence that she has a medical condition that keeps her home.
You might want to point out to your sister that going to school regularly isn't just about the academics. He is also learning how to commit to regular attendance and how to get along with other people. You learn as a child that you need to go to things like school or work regularly. How would she feel if when he grows up he can't keep a job because he hasn't learned to show up everyday?
2007-12-17 03:50:50 · answer #1 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
YOur sister is creating a real problem for herself if your nephew is staying home for giggles. The school WILL get involved eventually and authorities will get involved too. If she keeps him from school, social services may even get involved and find her an unfit parent, unless she is doing the schooling herself, which would not be a problem.
What qualifications does your sister have to make the assumption that her child is smarter than anybody else's kid? Is she a teacher or have a background working with many different kids? EVERY parent (myself included) thinks their kid is smart....but it is not until you compare them against their peers that you find out how smart (or not so smart) they are!
If you are OK with your sister getting really angry with you, I would contact the principal, maybe do so annymously. Then leave the ball in their court! The child's needs must be puut first!
2007-12-17 06:46:49 · answer #2 · answered by furfur 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do since it isn't your child, but your sister in law is wrong to allow her son to miss school so often. Doesn't matter is he is so smart (according to her) he is also learning socialization skills and getting used to the school environement by attending Kindergarden. She is now teaching him it is OK to simply not go if he doesn't feel like it. She is in for a problem when he gets to grade one and misses that much school.
2007-12-17 04:44:04 · answer #3 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm surprised the school hasn't been in contact with your sister-in-law by now. Truancy from school continually can get a parent in a whole lot of trouble. Maybe you should just sit back and wait and when you sister-in-law is hauled into court for not getting her son to school, then you will be vindicated in what you are thinking. All children need to get to school, no matter how "smart" they are.
2007-12-17 03:57:56 · answer #4 · answered by Grandma of 2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a bad habbit and sooner or later the school will call home and ask why is absent so much. I think you shpuld it her down and talk to her about this and i know he is only in kindergarden but when he gets to be in high school i pretty sure you have a number or absent you can make or else you fail.
2007-12-17 10:01:21 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's providing a bad example for her son that school isn't important. The answer above is correct, that he will develop a bad habit that could follow him. Worst case would be him not finishing high school. He's also losing out on his social development. How much you should get involved is tricky. Nobody wants to be told how to raise their child. Would you have better luck talking to his father? Good luck though...I hope your nephew gets to school full time.
2007-12-17 04:00:26 · answer #6 · answered by 9/12er 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is not right. The kid is going to get use to not going to school, and in higher grades, your sister in law will have bigger problems. Kindergarten isn't all about being smart, kids learn life skills, and get the chance to interact with kids there age and make friends. He should go back to school asap.
2007-12-17 06:03:25 · answer #7 · answered by AnaV 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not know what state you are in, but in California and others I believe Kindergarten is Mandatory, so it looks as though your nephew will be repeating Kindergarten next year and your sister in law will be watched for not making him go, a sort of parental academic probation if you will.
2007-12-17 03:47:45 · answer #8 · answered by Tobe G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It may be that he isn't ready and it sounds a lot better and is easier on her ego to say he is just sooo smart he doesn't need to go. It may be that she is having issues and taking him is hard for you to do(example she may have an anxiety disorder or depression). Offer to give him a ride.If you have voiced you concerns there is nothing more you can do.
2007-12-17 04:34:09 · answer #9 · answered by billie b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to home school the kid. She'll get in trouble for it in the long run, most school systems still have some form of truancy laws and she'll be the one getting summoned to trial if they choose to take actions on the matter.
2007-12-17 03:50:14 · answer #10 · answered by Orange 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋