How can I tell my mom I'm going to have a baby?

Question

I just don't know how to tell her.
Please, nothing negative.

Answer 1

"Mom, something's happened and I need your help . . . I'm pregnant."

There's really no other way, dear. No matter what you say, she's going to be upset, disappointed, concerned and perhaps, initially, angry. Just remember that those emotions aren't directed at you, personally, as hard as that might be to believe. Most of it will be dismay at the the abrupt loss of her dreams and goals for you. As parents, we all have dreams of how our children's lives will go, and perhaps be better than their parent's lives -- and I can guarantee you, not one single mother dreams of her teenager daughter coming home and telling her that she's pregnant.

If you're old enough to have sex, you're old enough to face the consequences. 'Fess up, and start making some decisions on how you are going to handle it. Get it over with -- waiting isn't going to make it easier, and may limit your options.

Answer 2

How old are you? Are you in a long term relationship, or did this happen after a one-night stand? Are you close to your mother? All that will have a bearing on my suggestion.

Since you said nothing negative, I'm guessing that maybe you're either a teenager or single.

I was 19, a college graduate, with a boyfriend of 3 years, and a full-tim job when I got pregnant, and I waited for several months before I could work up the courage to tell my mom. Finally, one night, I just came out with it before she went to bed. She just turned around and walked away from me, and I can guarantee you that she cried herself to sleep that night.

She didn't speak to me at all for a few days, and when she finally did, she told me to have an abortion. I am 100% against them, and I had always thought that she was, too. That really hurt my feelings, and then I didn't want to talk to her anymore, either. Within a few weeks, my boyfriend and I moved into a duplex that we shared with his pregnant sister and her husband.

My mom was really dissapointed in me, as well as angry and upset. Mostly, she was dissapointed because she had all these hopes and dreams for all of her kids, about how successful and happy they'd be, and in that moment, she saw all of those dreams being washed away.

It took her a whole month to stop talking about abortion, and another month after that for her to accept it and get used to the idea. By that point, I was 5 months along, and already knew that it was a boy. By 7 months, she was planning a baby shower.

Now, my son will be 2 in February, and she's completely in love with him. If I were ever to remind her that she thought I should abort him, it would break her heart.

So, no matter what you say, you won't get a positive response at first, and it will take her time to get used to it.

But later on, the first time she sees that red, wrinkly, squalling newborn, she will cry and love him or her, and be the happiest person in the room (besides you, of course!).

Answer 3

don't know how old you are, so that always make a difference in your feelings and your relationship with your mom. But seriously, just pull her aside (in your room, hers etc) so that you two are alone, and just tell her. She might or might not be upset by it, but at least you are coming out and telling her the truth now instead of hiding it. Good luck!

Answer 4

My mom always told me and my sister NOT to have kids, EVER so I thought I was going to die when I told her I'm pregnant. She was really mad and kept telling me how I'm going to end up alone with my kid and have no money and blah blah blah (the way she ended up) but it just took some time and now she is so excited about it! Good luck

Answer 5

Girl there is no easy way about doing this, your just going tohave to bit the bullet and tell her let her deal with it the best way she knows how,then talk about it.

Answer 6

Just come out and tell her.. sit her down and talk to her... when i found out that i was pregnant i was so scared to tell my mom. i had just moved out of home and was only 18. now im almost 36 weeks pregnant and my mom is so excited she cant wait. she keeps trying to make me walk and things so that i will go into labor and have to baby so that he will be here soon....

Answer 7

if you are afraid to tell someone you are pregnant, besides strangers, then you are not even mature enough for a baby.
i hope your mom understands, i know i would be extremely Piss ed!

Answer 8

just tell her and walk out of the room. also she may take it hard if your a still a teenager, but if your all grown and out of the house than it's none of her bussness syaing that this is wrong. you moved out, your life. she can't boss you around if your out of your house. but if your a teenager.... diffrent story...