I have issues with my sons preschool teacher?

Question

I have a 4 year old son who is very active, His preschool teacher decided it would be a good idea to call his speech therapist and request an evalution for adhd which he already has been tested for and they came to the conclusion that he does not have it..she did not talk to me first she asked for the number and just did it herself shes also rude to him and sweet to the other children...I complained today about it and now I feel like I made a mistake did I?? Help

I should also mention I was very polite when I complained I stated that I did not want to get her in any kind of trouble and maybe this was a misunderstading I dont want to get anyone fired at all!!! I just want better treatment for my son hes been being evalutated since age 2 they find nothing wrong with him, hes 4 thats all!!!

I agree with all your comments...I just want to add this one thing this morning we walked in My son said teachers name look at my new snow boots I was standing right there and instead of speaking to me she said to him in a stern voice if you dont bring sneakers to change into you cannot play in this room the appropriate thing would have been mom hey bring sneakers tomm but she talked to him he was very upset like I was all excited about my new shoes and your mean lol!! it was the straw that broke the camels back

Answer 1

I don't think so. It's never a mistake to voice concerns when your children are involved. I think she was in the wrong for taking on the task without involving you or asking for your permission. Maybe he needs to change classes if possible and get into a class with a teacher who better understands him.

Answer 2

Hello,
Best to get your child out of that situation. It sounds to me she has a problem with you, partly the kid, but mainly you complaining. To bad is what I think. You have a legitimate complaint.
My youngest is autistic and boy do we run into some real winners when it comes to the school system!

If people out there tell you that preschool teachers would not do this, think again. Her over stepping her job description for the evaluation is something that I would have brought to her superiors attention, and I would not have been nice about it.

On another note teachers see and work with many kids. Teachers can generally point out students who have signs of this and that. To dismiss a teachers opinion is to me is rather foolish. Many parents do not want there child to be different or "have anything". This might just be the starting of your school problems with your child.

My oldest son had a teacher in first or second grade who gave my kid candy to behave, then would not let him go have recess. That kid is ADHD, and can not control himself while on a sugar high, at least at that age.

Good luck with this child and the school system. Hope this helps some.

Answer 3

First of all what she did was illegal, no one can request testing for your child except you, the therapist should have never agreed to testing without your authorization. Secondly, sounds like this woman has it in for your son for what ever reason, I would seriously speak with the director of the facility and state that if changes in the teacher's attitude toward your child do not change you will be EXPECTING, not requesting, that he change classrooms to a teacher who is more supportive and encouraging. If all else fails, tell them you will find another preschool facility if the situation does not improve for your child. I'm a former teacher, grade school as well as preschool and there is no need for your child to be treated this way. Stand up for yourself and be an advocate for your child, he deserves teachers who respect him and treat him accordingly.

Answer 4

Complained to her or the school board? Either way if it’s a concern it needed to brought up to the teacher or sometimes if they aren't willing to listen, someone higher.
I know teaching is one of those jobs you take when you’re good with kids (usually), but maybe she's having a tough time with you son and doesn't know how to help him settle down when he's supposed to. I know ours started Kindergarten and her progress reports/report cards she was always getting unacceptable next to her behavior for the same reasons. She's just hyper active, though it doesn't impair her learning, she exceeds most of the class (I wish I could catch on that fast now a day, lol). She likes school, but we've started a daily sheet that the teacher signs off on what she needs to improve. And then we talk with her about it at home, it’s bumped up her behavior to "needs improvement".
Maybe you should sit down with the teacher and talk about what he is doing that makes her feel he needed to be tested again, and ways she could try to calm him down. Express that she needs to talk to you first about his behavior, and that you are open to listen (a problem a lot of parents have when it comes to there angels) Also make sure its not disrupting his learning or other kids (which it seems at there age they pick up on everything no matter what they are doing lol). I have heard that if kids can't show a little self control they might get held back in kindergarten, until they are deemed "mature" enough to go on to 1st grade.
So the point of my story here is you probably didn't make a mistake by complaining just make sure you follow through to solve the problems.

Answer 5

My fiance and father of my children was diagnosed with adhd as a child and he was put through hell growing up with therapist and physciatric wards all because he was very hyperactive. In my opinon you need to tell your sons teacher that you are the parent and if you thought something was wrong with your child then you would take care of it and to butt out!!! He's 4 years old, wait a few years and see if it grows more into it or not, not worry about it for now. A active and hyper 4 year old is normal.

Answer 6

Complaining about this teacher might get her fired. The best thing you should have done is just confront her in person. It seems to me like a misunderstanding. She should have asked you first if he has ADHD before she took it upon herself to find out. Some preschool teachers do not have what it takes to deal with active kids. They are quick to assume that they have ADHD. And sometimes kids just need a little discipline. I remember when I was little, I was sometimes overactive. And I deserved a spanking, after that I was well behaved. I am not trying to tell you how to raise your child, I know parents do not like that. I am just giving you my opinion.

Answer 7

I don't know what state you are in, but here in NY you need to have permission from the parents before you can test a child. I would find out about that, and if that's the case you need to contact the administrators of the school immediately. In the meantime, if you can change teachers that would probably be best for your son.

Answer 8

You didnt make a mistake about talking to her. If you feel bad about it go to her tomorrow and say sorry for acting the way you did but you woud like more control over what happens and you would like permission if she decides to carry out more tests.

If you really disagree with what she's doing and how she's treating him go to management [if there is any] or your local council.
If your still not happy look for other preschools in the area.

Answer 9

Girl...I also have a 4 year old in pre-k, and I am very protective over her, and I think you did the right thing, and I would tell your child to let you know if anyone mis-treats him!!
Thankfully..My little girl has a great pre-k teacher, and she loves her!!
I would definately have a problem with a teacher if she were to treat my child any different than any other child in the class.The best thing you can do is go over her head and complain!I would definately NOT let in be!!

Answer 10

No, I think you should be very active about the type of schooling your child gets. I think you should speak to the principle and tell him/her that the preschool teacher is out of line.