I invited my sister to move with me on August, because I was living with my 12 yrs old daughter and I had one extra bedroom. We decided that we were going to share the bills. In October her husband moved too, which makes a family of five, plus me and my daughter seven. The problem is that her three kids, (18, 12, 5) do not want to share the tvs, (which are mine), so all day we have 3 tvs on. This has caused that my electric bill went up twice and my sister do not accept that she has responsibility with it. She also bought an extra tv for her room. My electricity will be disconnected tommorrow, so I'm thinking of selling the TVs to pay the bill because she used her money to buy expensive xmas presents for her children and her husband for his other son. I can not afford to get my daughter what she wants for xmas and I am really upset. The lights are always on and I told them to turn them off when they're not using them, the same with the tvs, but looks like they don't care.
2007-12-17 03:23:38 · 17 answers · asked by /\/\ /\ /\/ U? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you should have a heart-to-heart talk with her....and tell her she has three months to find a new place.
2007-12-17 03:27:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
Doesn't matter if she feels her family is responsible or not. The bills should be split equally. You have two family members, she has five. Divide all the bills by seven. She gets five portions and you get two. If she doesn't like it, then she can move out.
Selling the tvs is a great idea. Not only will you get your point across, you will be able to pay your bill, and your child won't be affected by the rotting of the brain that tv causes.
2007-12-17 03:29:27 · answer #2 · answered by Bubbles 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kick their ungrateful asses out and take care of your daughter. Try setting up a deferred payment arrangement with you electric company. Where do you live? Sometimes if its a cold climate, they cant shut off the power if its below 32. Also - put the tvs on craigslist...things sell fast there. Get yourself some money and take care of your bills. Then get your daughter a nice gift. If the tvs were yours to begin with then there would be no problem selling them. Good luck
2007-12-17 03:29:14 · answer #3 · answered by Carol P 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is time for them to go away! Instead of sharing the bills and and using one bedroom, as agreed, more people have moved in and they are not paying their own way! Sell the TVs, you own them. Pay the electric bill and buy your daughter's gifts! Tell your sister that unless she wants to change the deal you made, and greatly increase her payments to you, she needs to fine a new place to live! They are taking advantage of you. It is your home. Take control of your life and get them out!!
2007-12-17 03:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by fire4511 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like things aren't working out for you.If telling them to pay you more for the electric bill doesn't help then you should give them a notice to move out.Also the 18 year old should find a place of his/her own too(hopefully he/she has a job and can contribute too)Usually these situations don't work out with people living together.Good luck and Merry Christmas:)
2007-12-17 03:32:32 · answer #5 · answered by superstar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all. What I don't get is why you would invite your sister and her family of five to live with you? But, it doesn't matter, it's past that point. Sit down with your sister and talk to her about it. Get the bills and go over them with her. Show her past bills and how they have gone through the roof since the tv's have been on constantly and everything. Ask her to change or move out. It's all you can do. You're kids happiness are on the line. Think about what this must do to them. you have to do what's best for your kids.
2007-12-17 03:29:44 · answer #6 · answered by Juice 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would tell them that since they are guests in your house they will have to accept and abide by your rules, either that or pay the electric bills. Don't give them a choice, or maybe they should move out.
2007-12-17 03:27:52 · answer #7 · answered by Maria b 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
No it sure doesn't sound as if they care. There name is not on the bill so why should they, I guess.
Are you better off having them live with you, if not get rid of them. More then likely they are telling everyone they are helping you out and you should be lucky for that help.
Tell them it is not working out.
Best wishes.
2007-12-17 03:30:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell her to MOVE OUT. i wouldnt sell the tvs because you're gonna end up losing money. just hide them away in storage and act like you sold them. disconnect the power after a certain time, that'd be interesting. and def kick them out. theres not enough room for all those ingrates
2007-12-17 03:29:49 · answer #9 · answered by Incredible 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is a point where charity becomes burden. I would seriously sit down with your sister and explain your situation and ask her to either start contributing or get out. Give her a time frame of when you need to start seeing changes or she will need to leave. I understand it can be hard to do this, but you need to look out for yourself and your kids. Good luck.
2007-12-17 03:28:25 · answer #10 · answered by venusazaboy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to have a serious talk with her sister and explain your position. If they are living with you, then your rules are what come first. You can't go broke supporting her and her family. You need to take care of you and your daughter. Explain you position and if they can't conform, then maybe they need to move out.
2007-12-17 03:29:53 · answer #11 · answered by cutenclever6 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋