I know that I am supposed to send out the invitations 6-8 before the wedding. What is the time frame to put as a date for the RSVP return date? My wedding is Sunday, May 25, 2008.
2007-12-17 03:09:14 · 13 answers · asked by OFFICIALLY MRS. HOWARD! 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We don't have to have a final count for caterers because my family is catering it for us, they are the caterers.
2007-12-17 03:12:34 · update #1
I would say 2-3 weeks before the wedding then if you do not need an official catering count.
2007-12-17 03:14:10 · answer #1 · answered by vaya 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You should make the RSVP date no later than the end of April. Even with this date listed on the invitation, there will still be people who have no responded by this time and if you put a later date, it will be the same case. I don't know why its so hard for people to just checka box and stick the RSVP in the mail but it is. I got married almost 6 months ago and I had so many people to call to see if they were coming and sometimes people are hard to reach, etc. Its better to have a headcount earlier rather than later so all your vendors know. I couldn't believe how complicated all the little details became but if you make the rsvp date by the end of april, it should help you control the stress a bit. Send out your invitations 8 weeks before the wedding though so everyone has a sufficient amount of time to figure out if theyre coming and if theyre bringing a guest or whatever little details they need to work out for themselves. This was all suggested to me by the woman who did my invitations and she has a lot of experience and I know her well and she knows what she is talking about! It all worked well for me. Good luck and congrats! :)
2007-12-17 03:52:19 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes but even if your family is catering, they still would want to know. I would sat RSVP by May 15 at the latest. You will find that then you have to call many people who have failed to rsvp so give yourself time to do that. Maybe even May 10? Call and ask them if they received the invitation. ( even though they surely did) Then ask if they will be in attendance that day. They will say yes or no but most will say ' Well I dont know for sure' That is when you say ' Oh I will take that as a NO' then since we need to know. It is rude not to rsvp and wait and see what better is happening on that day so dont feel guilty calling and asking. I hope you dont have to do it but most people do.
2007-12-17 03:15:33 · answer #3 · answered by barthebear 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want to go out and buy something, fine, but it isn't neccesary, or expected. A thank you card isn't necesarily appropriate. Hallmark makes cards with no writing inside, you could do that. . Or if you have some nice note cards, or stationary, use that. Just write Mr. and Mrs. John Smith will be pleased to accept the invitation, two adults will be attending. Write out the full names of the people who will be attending, and indicate the total number. Often, someone in the wedding helps out with RSVPs, and may not know who Jim and Sue are, so put your last name[s] on the inside, too. Have fun at the wedding!
2016-04-09 21:42:51 · answer #4 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That typically depends on the caterer. If they said they required the final count by May 18, I'd have the RSVP deadline a week befor then. This would give time for late replies or give you time to call those who haven't replied.
2007-12-17 03:13:27 · answer #5 · answered by melouofs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Even if your family is making the food, you still need to set a date so they'll know the precise numbers they are making food for. So I'd set that at least a week before the wedding date. Then set your rsvp date back a week before that (2 weeks before your wedding) at least, because some people won't respond, and you end up needing time to phone them.
2007-12-17 23:30:45 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my husband and I were getting married we wanted all the RSVPs in at least a week and a half before the wedding.so that we could go over details of how many people would attend..but also look at it this way..When The actual day showed up More people were able to make it to Reception than the Wedding itself..Some had to work..So maybe I suggest you get your RSVPs in at least two weeks before the Wedding then you can have an estimate of those who are really showing..Id also have in mind alittle xtra food, or whatever you require a headcount to be..and go alittle over that just to be sure..People Do Change Their Minds At The Last Minute...Some of ours did...LOL..The best Man Was late getting Off work.and He thought That it was an hour later than it was...But thats K cuz I had a Friend that was there that could fill in...Hes the Husband of My Matron Of Honor and It worked out Awesome!! He was able to stand up Front W/ his Wife!!! ;) You can never Plan a Wedding that Will be Perfect but Only Perfect for You...Ive been Married Twice...so both weddings were quite the Opposite of Eachother..Then there were my two best friends that got married that have known eachother since preschool four years old sittin in a sandbox together..LOL..They just got married OCT 27 th of this year..and My husband Printed out theyre RSVPs for them and they asked for them back w/in two weeks...so It all depends on What you feel comfortable with..I wish you so much Happiness and Bliss...God Bless..I Pray all goes well in planning of your wedding..I know I was and My friend was CRAZED....On the and before the whole Wedding Itself...Just Breathe and take your time...Think things through as youre taking Deep breaths..Because before ya know it Youll Be Standing on that Alter...in Front Exchangin Vows With the One You Love..and An Eternity..Is All Yours And Your Loves...Congrats!~!! To You..;)
2007-12-17 14:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by Sydney 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send out March 15th
RSVP April 15th
Anyone who doesn't RSVP gets called up between April 16th and May 1st.
2007-12-17 04:33:46 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I set mine for a month before the wedding. This way we had a few weeks to call people that didn't RSVP.
2007-12-17 04:28:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
April 25 or May 1st. would probably be a good date. That way you have some time for the stragglers to come in.
2007-12-17 04:09:31 · answer #10 · answered by JM 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋