Hi, my boyfriend really wants to go further (handjob) in the relationship but I don't know if it's a sin, because it's not intercourse, and it is not leading to intercourse, because my boyfriend does not have intentions on having sex with me, and even if he did, I have a firm stand on abstinence.
So the question is, is mutual masterbation a sin?
Thanks
2007-12-17
03:01:32
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So what I'm getting here is: before you're married, and you a have partner, you can't kiss or hug or hold hands or look at each other and be like, "damn you look good." ....
2007-12-17
03:09:27 ·
update #1
The Bible doesn't really specify about handjobs, but does say sexual immorality and I want to know what falls under that, like INTERCOURSE sex or everything sex. The bible also specificaully prohibits orgies.
2007-12-17
03:14:00 ·
update #2
I did ask him if he would break up with me if this doesn't happen, and he said he doesn't want the relationship to get boring and get bored of me resulting in a breakup, and that just because we start it, it's not like he is going to ask for it everyday.
2007-12-17
03:20:06 ·
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I don't know about you, but mutual masturbation certainly leads to sex in my case.
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Yes, according to what I've heard from most Christians, it's a sin and it IS a form of sexual experience. So, if you're a believer - don't do it. If you're not - go for it and have fun!
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2007-12-17 03:05:26
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answer #1
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answered by Anonymous
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Mutual Masterbating
2016-11-07 09:01:43
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answered by ai 4
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I agree with Lion of Judah, among others with like answers. What you're talking about will lead to sexual intercourse, and should therefore be avoided. Why tempt something you don't want? A lot of times emotions get the better of you and one thing leads to another.
EDIT: Handholding, close mouthed kissing, hugging that doesn't lead to fondeling is all fine. The problem arises when the couple allows something innocent and/or appropriate to lead to something that isn't. Get to close to the fire and you're libel to get burned. Use your best judgement. Don't let him pressure you. If he's willing to break up of something like this, then you're better off without him. Your integrity and morality is something that you can strive to regain and regain in part, but once it's gone you can never fully recover it and be like you were before you lost it. If you are looking to split hairs and force a decision that says something like a 5 second hug is fine, but a 6 second hug is not, then you've already made your decision and you might as well go ahead and have intercourse with him. Masterbation is a sin, consenual, mutual or whatever you want to call it.
EDIT: I also agree with lunatic. While the evidence of sin can be percieved by what is done, the sin itself is in what the person thinks, where your mind and heart are.
2007-12-17 03:15:01
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answered by Tonya in TX - Duck 6
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Be very careful with this one. If you ask him straight out, you could be labelled something that you may not appreciate. It could also start rumors which may not leave you for many years to come. My suggestion would be to jokingly bring it up when talking to your friends... "Hey, I read this thing the other day about mutual masterbation and thought it was funny, what do yout think?"
2016-04-09 21:42:18
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answered by April 4
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The situation you've described isn't truly "mutal," since he's not touching you. But I have some words of wisdom for you: DO NOT assume that you'll both be able to control yourselves; assume that you'll end up having sex (if you think you'll be strong enough to resist, I have to tell you that you're being naive). Is this really what you want at this time of your life? If the answer is no, then you shouldn't do it.
I cannot tell you if this is a sin -- only God can do that. But I CAN tell you it's probably not the smartest thing to do, because sexual temptation is a *very* powerful thing.
2007-12-17 03:10:06
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answered by Suzanne: YPA 7
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To answer the question properly, we must first define what it means to be intimate. Since the question mentions marriage and sex, the intimacy is sexual in nature. Any type of sexual union, contact, intimacy is for the marriage only between a husband and wife. If a man and woman who are not married go to bed together naked and do not have sexual intercourse, this is still sinful. If they fondle each other without having sexual intercourse it is sinful. If they go to bed together naked and just hold each other, it is sinful. The whole point is that the nakedness, viewing the nakedness, the touching of the private areas, fondling, etc., are all reserved for the marriage bed between a husband and a wife. God clearly instructs that we remain morally pure.
1 Cor. 6:18, "Flee immorality. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the immoral man sins against his own body."
Eph. 5:3, "But do not let immorality or any impurity or greed even be named among you, as is proper among saints."
Col. 3:5, "Therefore consider the members of your earthly body as dead to immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and greed, which amounts to idolatry."
1 Thess. 4:2, "For you know what commandments we gave you by the authority of the Lord Jesus. 3 For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality; 4 that each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, 5 not in lustful passion, like the Gentiles who do not know God."
Since intimacy before marriage involves the touching and often seeing of the naked body, this is an off limits action. Save this for the proper context of marriage.
2007-12-17 03:06:12
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answered by Anonymous
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An authoritative answer to these questions can come only from our Creator,God. And in his Word he tells us to “flee from fornication.” (1 Corinthians 6:18) Just what does that mean? The Greek word translated “fornication” is not restricted to sexual intercourse but includes a variety of lewd acts. So if two unmarried people engage in oral sex or in fondling each others’ reproductive organs, they are guilty of fornication.
2007-12-17 03:10:34
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answered by papa G 6
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Ask yourself this. Will this sexual act really further your relationship with this guy? Will it make you closer to him? Will it deepen your understanding of him?
Or is it just a cheap thrill?
Before you decide, ask him this. If I refuse, will you break up with me? If he says yes, then he is not the person for you.
---I was with my wife for 9 years before we got married, and I was never bored, even without mutual masterbation. If he will get bored with you now, he will get bored with you after marriage. That is a dangerous line of thinking.
2007-12-17 03:16:20
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answered by Free Thinker A.R.T. ††† 6
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Mutual masturbation used to be called heavy petting and petting almost always leads to copulation. Sinning has very little to do with physiologically what goes where. Sin is about what is going on in your head and heart.
2007-12-17 03:12:45
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answered by lunatic 7
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You have a firm stand on abstinence but a handjob is OK since it is not intercourse. So oral sex would be OK then? And anal sex would be OK then? So a mass orgy of oral and anal sex would be OK?
I think you are missing the point of claiming abstinence.
2007-12-17 03:11:08
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answered by ndmagicman 7
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