got together with my bf ages ago been only been proper together a few months ago..ie spending more time together and i feel like a little...like the chase is over and i am not as enthusiastic about him anymore, i havent really got around and i feel like i want to but i want him later on ahh i dunno wot i want...does anyone?
2007-12-17 02:48:38 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's got me stumped.
2007-12-17 02:51:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called getting bored. When people are apart, they create ideals. When you're together, people hardly ever fit our ideals, so it's easier when there is some distance. You have to accept that you have to give each other space, each should live their life, if you can't do that, you might as well forget about forever and the here after because it won't happen. You have to carefully consider if this is actually you coming to your senses or whether it's just a temporary thing and you like this guy. If it is temporary, then try giving each other some room.
2007-12-17 03:15:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not true. Here we come across the difference in perspective between the bhakta and the philosopher. A bhakta always struggles with the separation pain and you just add the fuel to it. I hardly survived couple of times before and I am very scared if I can resist the temptation to run away from the pain of separation any longer. If you know what I am talking about you would know.
2007-12-17 02:53:19 · answer #3 · answered by radharani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you're thinking right now. the initial thought of getting together with your guy is great - but then when it comes to reality you realise it's not all bright and happy. give yourself a week. hang around with your boyfriend - go out on a couple of dates. now at the end of the week take yourself out of the situation - did you make any effort on the date? did you listen entirely to what your boyfriend was saying? etc.
if the answers to those questions are negative - it must end. let him down gently. tell him that it was genuinely you who lost the feelings that you had for him at the beginning.
i know it's hard - i've been through the same thing. but it's the only way for you to be fair on your boyfriend.
2007-12-17 04:23:56 · answer #4 · answered by sigsall 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety re-read your question...someone once told me when a person says "i dont know" they do, they just dont know how to go about it. you said it your self. you want to be free. and theres nothing wrong with that. if you stay in the relationship you may begin to feel trapped and thats a feeling that wont hel the relationship grow. so before you both end up even more hurt maybe its best to take time off.
but remember nothing is promised to you he may not always be there. and thats okay too. if its meant to be it will be.
2007-12-17 02:58:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone goes through this. If you feel like you need to date more people before settling down, then do it. This feeling won't just go away. You should address your feelings for the guy and decide which you want more.
2007-12-17 02:51:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that the initial biochemical rush of being with him has passed, worn off. If you have not established a good relationship from that time, it may be over for you....until you find another in that biochemical rush.
2007-12-17 02:52:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid he mite not be the one.
what i think is that by thinking you want to leave says it all.
but thinking this way makes you feel bad about doing it to him because you care for him so much which keeps you with him and that's all that's keeping you together
got to go girl
2007-12-17 03:01:50 · answer #8 · answered by barryjones_2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to some time to yourself. Take a weekend away somewhere, have some quality alone-time. When you come back, if you don't want to talk to him then tell him its over.
Better to do it sooner than later.
2007-12-17 03:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by xenobyte72 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't know then no one else does. Only you know what you want, but I would suggest that you leave him alone so he's not caught in the middle. That way his feelings wont be hurt.
2007-12-17 02:52:27 · answer #10 · answered by suitt05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as you keep constant conversations going between you guys then you shouldnt be about to fall apart...then when the time is right and you feel like going back with them, atleast you know that you kept in touch
2007-12-17 02:52:47 · answer #11 · answered by laxitivepo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋