My boyfriend and I are both christians.We are not sexually active with each other.Last week he cheated on me ansd had sex with another girl.He confessed to me and asked for another chance.I am having a hard time when I see him stand before the congregation to preach.I know he ha repented but I am still hurting and I can't stand seeing him with the mike.Should I give hima another chance and how can I get over what he did.
2007-12-17 02:38:44 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
when your b/f confessed to you, it was because he was feeling guilty. now that he's confessed, it's become your burden. thats not fair.
i'd have a hard time trusting him again.
if he were sincere, he'd have kept it to himself and learned from his own mistakes(and live with them).
he has accomplished NOTHING by telling you, (unless you call heartbreak and anguish for you accomplishing something)
2007-12-17 02:50:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheaters are more likely to cheat again - than not.
A person , even if they are sorry for what they have done are NOT immune to the consequences of their actions.
Moses , one of Jehovah Gods servants committed a bad mistake ., he however was repentant , but that didn't stop him from receiving the consequence from what he had done.
Moses was NOT allowed to enter the promised land.
Deuteronomy 32:52 ". . . For from a distance you will see the land, but you will not go there into the land that I am giving to the sons of Israel."
A person may be sorry , but that doesn't need mean that you have to take them back.
If you chose not to , that is your right ,,and it is caused from THEIR doing.
Be happy with your decision.
2007-12-17 03:18:18 · answer #2 · answered by I♥U 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been cheated on, and I have had friends who have been cheated on, and we have all tried to salvage our respective relationships. None of us were able to. I stayed with my ex-boyfriend for more than a year after learning he cheated on me, but it was just something I could never get over, even though I knew he loved me, he had made a mistake, and was genuinely sorry for it. I forgave him a long time ago, but I have also struggled with trust issues ever since. The majority of my friends who have been cheated on have had the exact same trust issues. Fortunately, we were not married to these people, and you are not married to him. Forgive him, but end the relationship. You have no obligation to stay with someone to whom you are not married who has violated your trust in such a major way.
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2007-12-17 02:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by wyvern1313 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I wouldn't give him another chance. If your relationship means so little to him that he would cheat then you need to move on and find you someone who loves you and respects you. Apologizes may become a habit for him. By that I mean cheating again (and again) and then coming and asking to be forgiven.
2007-12-17 02:45:14 · answer #4 · answered by Janet L 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well that is totally up to you. But if you can't really get over it, do yourself (and him) a favor and just move on.
Cheating is always a symptom of other problems. If you haven't fixed the real problem it will be back.
2007-12-17 02:47:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might want to ask this in the dating or relationships topics instead, it seems like one of those would be a better fit for your question.
2007-12-17 02:45:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you understand the meaning of forgiveness?
It has nothing to do with condoning or accepting your boyfriend's actions or apology. It is all about freeing yourself of internal anger and disgust.
2007-12-17 02:42:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
That's tough. I'm sorry. I don't know what to do. Pray and ask God to forgive him through you because you do not and will not have the power in yourself to do it. Ask God to guide you.
2007-12-17 02:46:04 · answer #8 · answered by SFECU12 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough question to answer. I would give him one more chance, but if he screws that one up, leave him.
2007-12-17 02:47:22 · answer #9 · answered by Defender of Freedom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me if he were truly repentant before God, he wouldn't just casually be back in the pulpit.
Run for your life!
2007-12-17 02:44:20 · answer #10 · answered by fanofchan 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋