I (asian) and him (american) began chatting online as friends for 8 months. At that time, we both did not expect about loving someone on net and we thought it was a stupid idea to do so but as the time passed by, we found we fell in love each other because our point of view toward many things are almost similar. Then we decided to be bf and gf and since then we have talked at least 3 hrs per day. Most of the time that we talk, we are really sweet to each other and ofcourse, we fight sometimes either but it is solved subsequently. Up to know, its about 7 months already that we decided to be bf and gf. We have talked about many plans and to be honest, i also help him to release on cam. He was offered a job in my country and he will start his work in feb but he will come here one month earlier in order to see me.
2007-12-17 02:20:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I want to know that when i meet him, what should i do? start from the scratch? its my first time that i dated with american, so i dont know what exactly american want from asian girls? he often tells me sex is only a part, he can wait till i feel comfortable. How about other stuffs like expenditure, are amercan stingy?
2007-12-17 02:22:07 · update #1
if i dont give him sex, what will happen? will he give me up? because i used to tell him i want to wait till i get married and at first he said he could wait. However, since sometimes we talked more sexy that turned him on. that's why i helped him bec i wanted to please him but in reality i dont know i can do or not since im still virgin.
2007-12-17 02:26:31 · update #2
His job in my country is true since he used to work in my country before and this part he does not lie, i have evidence.
2007-12-17 02:28:16 · update #3
Yes, love just happens. I believe there are many people meet their partners on net. Not all net chatters are bad and crook, now you found you fall in love with him and he does too. Several months of chatting even you are not intimate yet but i believe your mental part was already intimate. Only you who know him more than us, so you will know what you will do next once you meet him at the first day. If he is a cheater, you'll see but just take times so during the initial stage of meeting him in person pls just be careful and try to value your dignity. Men like girls who are not easy. If you suddenly show off you like them, they get to dump you abruptly, but if you treat them cold at first and make things hard for them, they'll be attached and never knew they're already into you.
So, i hope you will come up with a good decision for your life. good lucks
2007-12-18 01:01:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy, but I can give advice about meeting online friends in person.
You have only known him from his emails and phone calls, so now you will have the chance to get to know him in person and see how he really is instead of how he tells you he is.
Some guys are stingy. This is something to watch out for and if you don't like it, then he isn't the one for you.
In America, in general whoever does the inviting is the one who pays, but some people also have something worked out with where the man pays one time, the woman pays the next.
Beware of any man who pushes you too fast for more than you are willling to give. Watch how he treats people who serve him (waiters, waitresses, sales clerks, etc) If he is rude and nasty to them, he will be rude and nasty to you later.
Just take your time, getting to know him in person and be yourself.
Good Luck!
edit: good rule of thumb--if he stops seeing you because you won't have sex with him, then he was only interested in the sex and not you.
2007-12-17 10:32:21 · answer #2 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can love happen on the internet yes. and your just taking the next step offline. Just take it slow like you would with normal relationships. You are just meeting him for the first time in person and not on the internet, its just more you know more about him then you would someone else. And no you do not have to have sex, I'm a american and my bf who I met online and we meet once a month in person said he was actually attracted to the fact I was willing to wait till marriage and totally respected me in that. Sure I can get him aroused and talk dirty, etc. but we've talked before when we first met about this. Where I basically asked if he could control himself -I was honestly asking. He told me that if I felt he was going too far to tell him, and there was one time where he stopped himself cause I wanted to make sure I still had him.. you know, that he was still thinking. I only asked if I still had him up(pointed to his head) there because thats who I fell in love with. I didn't mean for it to stop, I just didn't know his limits and wanted to make sure he was still in control and he stopped so fast that I got a little worry and he told me that he did it cause he didn't want to hurt me. Fact is a lot of it has to do with communication and to be honest and to ask questions or to say how you feel. And to be honest with him right now, I feel that he is probably the one for me.. I mean beside me feeling that way, my parents feel that way, and I know he's though about proposing -but we're playing it smart cause we're both still in college. And yeah ours started out as just friends on the internet with no intent on finding love on the internet, it just happened.
2007-12-17 10:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We Americans ARE spoiled but it really really depends on the individual. You can't really say if he just wants sex with an Asian or if he is reallly in love with you. That's something you should know after 8 months.
2007-12-17 10:24:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
best to start fresh. although you have been chatting online and doing ok. being with someone is totally different. I have this saying. you see what people want you to see in public but its what goes on behind doors that reveals the real person. take time and see. if he does visit.
2007-12-17 11:02:25 · answer #5 · answered by floor.refinisher 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well baby girl, your relationship is already pretty mature.
So I wouldn't start from scratch, but I wouldn't be that forward either, who knows what kind of guy he truly is.
And as you even help him "relief", be careful, but don't be to careful either.
Use your common sense, and do only what you really feel like doing it.
peace.
2007-12-17 10:35:27 · answer #6 · answered by Elias Bezerra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should never trust a person and irst of all when u r chatting online. first u should see him and see how he is. i think he only want to have sex with u and after that *** to america. u shuld make a good choice and judge that person very well.
2007-12-17 19:16:08 · answer #7 · answered by AVNEEL D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you love someone on line. Meet the guy and then draw conclusions.There are a lot of freaks out there.
2007-12-17 10:24:32 · answer #8 · answered by oscalope 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not moving....it's a bunch of bullsh*t. He's lying to you about the job offer. It will NEVER HAPPEN.
2007-12-17 10:25:03 · answer #9 · answered by Smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋