I am going to be disfellowshipped this Thursday and my problem is I don't know if I even want to try to get reinstated. I don't really believe what I've been taught and only want to get back in because of my family and friends. Has anyone else had to deal with this? What should I do?
2007-12-17 02:08:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Be happy and glad that you are out, This letter is from a Jehovah's witness and this is what she had to say concerning them.
2007-12-17 02:22:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear Friend, I can imagine this is distressing. But I don't know the particulars - why they are disfellowshipping you, how old you are, or anything. It is natural for young adults to question their religious upbringing; it is a growth process. An adult's faith is very different from a child's.
You say you don't really believe what you've been taught. That is a start for the growth of your faith life. Think about what DO you believe in? Why?
The job of parents is to help prepare their children for life as adults. And part of being an adult is to make your own decisions about your relationship with God. Hopefully, your parents have taught you well and you will develop that good relationship. But ultimately it is YOUR decision.
Through it all, be guided by love. Love for yourself, love for your family and friends. After all, as St John wrote, "God is love."
ZenDog
2007-12-17 10:49:37 · answer #2 · answered by ZenDog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My family went through it.
It is tough.
I finally came to the conclusion that people who are willing to disfellowship others, while claiming to be loving, are not really that stable, and shouldn't be relied on for support in the first place.
Disfellowship is a way of stating that God is not powerful enough to help the person being kicked out, and that humans are really in control, not God.
Let them know that they are giving you a gift of disfellowship, by exposing their lack of faith and the true nature of their belief. Tell them you feel sorry for them, and hope that they will one day learn a more moral way of life.
Love your family, despite how they treat you because of religion. Understand that religion is tremendously harmful to families and friendships, and that its not entirely their fault.
Just love them, and show them through your actions that their belief is rediculous.
2007-12-17 10:17:28 · answer #3 · answered by ɹɐǝɟsuɐs Blessed Cheese Maker 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
My advice is to disfellowship them first. If you don't believe, maybe you should move on with your life. Possibly some of your friends/family feel trapped too and are sticking with it out of the same fear. If so, your move may help them break free too.
2007-12-17 10:13:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
God provided a ransom through his beloved Son’s sacrifice of his own perfect life. This same divine interest is what causes God to provide reproof and discipline for humans. Very obviously, perfection is not a characteristic of any of us. We constantly fall short, not reaching the mark in our efforts to do things exactly as we should, and that is the literal meaning of the Hebrew and Greek words for “sin,” namely, “to miss the mark.” So, we all need correction and discipline. We should appreciate this discipline as an evidence of God’s love, designed, not simply as a punishment, but to train us in righteousness in the way a father trains his sons. Also, please remember....
“No discipline seems for the present to be joyous, but grievous; yet afterward to those who have been trained by it it yields peaceable fruit, namely, righteousness.”—HEBREWS 12:11.
The finish line is in view.....don't give up.
2007-12-17 10:28:04 · answer #5 · answered by I_B_WHO_I_IS 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I was raised in the UCC and left when I realized they were not following scripture. I joined the SDA, and left them when I realized they were not following Scripture either. Study to show theyself approved etc.
2007-12-17 10:13:29 · answer #6 · answered by hasse_john 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
My husband was thrown out because he moved in with his girlfriend. That was way back when he still believed. He is now Atheist. This is true. Christan Reform Church.
2007-12-17 10:19:09 · answer #7 · answered by Blame Amy 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
What is that? church is not made to have their own rules. Dont go to a church like that. How did you get there?
2007-12-17 11:26:17 · answer #8 · answered by Michael C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What happened that caused it? What was the issue?
2007-12-17 10:13:25 · answer #9 · answered by peacetimewarror 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't even show up. Tell them you'll see them in hell.
They're just trying to make you feel guilty- it's their specialty!
2007-12-17 10:17:13 · answer #10 · answered by canguroargentino 4 · 5⤊ 2⤋