Im having a terrible time trying to potty train!?

Question

My daughter turned 2 in Sept. I ask her all the time if she needs to go potty and she says yes but either refuses the chair or just doesnt go. Thing is, before she turned 2 she would take her diaper off and go potty on it, not every time but enough that I thought shed be pretty easy. Rewards, stickers, praise, big girl underwear dont seem to matter. Any ideas?

Its been probably 3 months since Ive really been asking her if she has to go at all....she stopped all on her own, so i figured i would try asking again...she almost always follows me to the bathroom, when I tell her I have to go potty she says she does too. I dont feel like Im pushing her at all..i felt like maybe i was supposed to be 'pushing' her more....but it seems like from what every says i should just do what i was doing before and let her go when she wants to go and not worry about it

Answer 1

Hey! Potty training is so hard because they will do it when they are ready...

Take your child into the bathroom with you. It's especially helpful if fathers and brothers set the example for boys, and mothers and sisters set the example for girls. Siblings are often pleased to act as role models!

Try to help your child recognize the sensations of "being wet" and "about to be wet." Encourage your child to talk about these sensations -- especially "about to be..." sensations -- without pressing your child to be toilet trained. Comment on signs you notice, such as the child' s pausing in play or walking as if he or she is uncomfortable after elimination.

Use specific terms, though; "going to the bathroom " is too vague. Try not to use words that will make your child think of his or her bodily functions as being dirty or disgusting (for example, "dirty," "stinky," "yucky," etc.).

Good Luck!!

Answer 2

They'll let you know when they're ready. My daughters were potty trained at 2 and 2 1/2, but my son took until he was 5 and was also encouraged with daycare also. Then one day he was potty trained both day and night. Go figure. It would seem when the child is ready, they'll let you know. Keep encouranging it, but don't get stressed over the accidents or the other parents who may ask, why isn't she potty trained, mine was potty trained at 1 1/2. Yeah right. Other parents tend to brag about their own children even if it means stretching the truth sometimes. Just keep trying. You're doing the right thing. Sometimes the musical potty chairs are encouraging or putting her on the toilet every 2 hours, then praising her if she goes. Never discourage her even if she has not gone. Just say, maybe next time. Good luck. I know how challenging my son was. BTW - my kids day care said the best thing was to put them in underwear, that way the know when they are dirty or wet. You can always put rubber pants on the outside of the underwear to prevent damage to her other clothes and other things she may end up wetting.

Answer 3

It sounds like you've made too big a deal for it, so she knows she can take control by refusing - or not going when you want her to. She's feeling hassled and nagged, and doesn't want you asking her about it all the time.

Potty training should come from the child - rewards and bribes make it worse, not better, as they make the child start to 'go' to please the parents, not because they need to - or, for most children, they choose NOT to go because it gives them power. They need to be in full control of their own bodily functions.

I suggest you stop even mentioning it the potty. Remind her (maybe once a month at most) that there is some nice big-girl underwear ready for her when she wants to use it, and say nothing else. She's only two... lots of children aren't fully ready until three or even later.

It does sound as if she was getting the idea before she was two, but then that was her choice. If you had simply let her continue at her own pace, in her own way, she might be dry by now. As it seems she's physically ready, just leave it and sooner or later she'll decide to be more grown-up and abandon her diapers.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Get rid of the potty chair, it doesn't work. Get a potty seat that goes on the the big potty. My daughter would get upset because they wanted go on the big potty like mommy not a silly little chair. So I bought the potty seat and did the reward system and it took a few days but my 3 year old has been potty trained for 3 months now. Good Luck.

Answer 5

Postpone the potty training until after the holidays. With everything going on it may be a cry for attention. Besides, it sounds like you're pushing too hard - let her tell you when she wants to try using the potty.

I have two girls, and my first showed interest early (15 months) so I thought it would be easy. I struggled with her until she was 5 to get completely sleep-through-the-night trained. On the other hand, I simply forgot to do anything about my second (the first one is still a handful at 8!) and a month before she turned 3 she just "got it" on her own, going from pull ups all day long to sleep-through-the-night in one month! So there really is truth in letting them decide. I had the second trained before the first! Oh, and my first is not EC or anything (that's another challenge altogether) - she was just too busy.

Answer 6

My niece is having the same problem... she will be 3 in May and it has been such a problem potty training, sometimes she will tell her mom sometimes she won't...
Sometimes I think she doesnt want to tell us and interupt whatever she is doing or she gets scared or nervous, My sister took her to the doctor to see if everything was alright down there, the doctor said just keep up with it and let her get there in her own time continue to praise her when she asks or makes it dry overnight (so far my niece has never made it overnight) and dont get mad just keep telling her to make sure she tells mommy when she feels like she has to potty... some kids just pick it up slower than others...
Not to take it too seriously and it isnt really a problem until she is 4 or 5...
GOOD LUCK!

Answer 7

My son was 2 1/2 before I got him trained.

I tried all the things you just mentioned. Then I did a search online on potty training.

And I learned that those so called "training pants", actually can keep them from learning, as they do not let the child know they are wet.

Now I guess they came out with ones, that feel "cool" so the child knows when to go.

But here's what I did. I used to take my son for walks (in the stroller). I would ask before we leave to go.."do you need to go potty?" he would always answer "no". i'd be like "okaaaaaaayy".

I stopped using diapers, and training pants, and put him in ordinary underwear.

I would put splash pants over his clothes incase he got wet and soaked the stroller. (he did)

so during our walks, I would occassionally ask, "you ok? or do you need to go potty?" he would answer "NO"

when we got backed home, he would always be soaked.

but on the 3rd day...started out same way..

then all of a sudden in the middle of our walk..

I need to go potty!

(we found a place in the woods for him to have a tinkle:)

and ever since then, he consistently went to the bathroom.

I only used training pants, at nighttime for a short while.


He might not have been ready to be trained at the time, but I was! LOL

Answer 8

The notion that children should be potty trained at one or two is silly to me..... The child will comply when ready... don't push so hard. You are doing all the right things.....just too soon for this child. My daughter potty trained herself about a year old... my grandson was 4...... it all depends on the child's desires. Relax.

Answer 9

quite some the posters above made some sturdy factors. a million. Take him out on a leash, stand nevertheless and don't deliver him in till he is going poop. 2. Use a crate. till you're watching him, do no longer enable him run around the abode till he's totally potty experienced. make specific the crate is the best length. If it quite is too vast, the pup will use one end as a bathing room. 3. do no longer enable your pup loose feed till he's potty experienced. placed the nutrients down, enable the pup eat, then take him out to pass poop 20 minutes later. That way, you be attentive to while he has to pass.... 4. do no longer confuse him with pup pads. they're time-honored with little canine, yet i've got purely discovered them to confuse maximum canine. How does the pup be attentive to the version between the pad interior and your carpet? sturdy success which comprise your pup!

Answer 10

shes too young and not ready try again around march or april


when you do start dont ask her take her. she has no idea what it feels like inside to need to pee. or poo, you have to teach her the best way is trial and error and real underwear

when she is ready she will do it in about a weeks time. she wont want to be wet or dirty give it time. shes just turned 2 most kids dont train til after they are three

my son was 3 and a half when he finally trained