My Son Was Suspended from School Was It Fair?

Question

My son Who is 14 and in the 9th grade. he is on honorroll. Never been in trouble a day in his life.No trouble with the police. does charitable giving, Has overcome obstacles with aspergers .He is in mainstream class's.Every one who know's him say's he is the most well behaved teenager they know. he has maneruisms like you could Not believe. well A kid kept Calling him a Dago and a ***** and my son told him numerius time's please stop finally my son wooped his ***. the school "only' suspended My Son For 3 day's.We are sicilian and black. Both are racial slurs.The other child yes was white.i dont care if he was green.

I understand my son should take his share of the punishment but the other stundent got NO punishment.

The Question Was Not should My son be Punished .I stated yes my son should be Punished. I said was it fair .the other child recieved nothing for racial name caling.Not even detention.

Answer 1

Well Good for your son, he should stand up for himself, however, he has to understand that there are consequences for his actions. Whenever we engage in violence to resolve a problem we should expect to pay for those actions. He was suspended and rightly so.

Still I would not be too hard on him, he did what I would have done, and my mom would have been proud of the 3 day suspension and you should be too.

Answer 2

Charles Whitman was liked by everybody... who had scored 138 on an IQ test at the age of 6, attended St. Ann's High School in Palm Beach, where he was a pitcher on the school's baseball team. He also took five years of piano lessons, served as an altar boy at Sacred Heart Roman Catholic Church, as a 12-year-old, he was among the youngest ever to achieve Eagle Scout. And in 1966 he shot and killed 14 people at the University of Texas. Schools have to have a zero tolerance policy and they have to enforce it. Something similar happened to my son, but was only in jest with another student who was joking also. both were suspended for a week, because it was over heard by a faculty adviser who wanted to make a point. The best your son can do is learn from the experience.

Answer 3

I agree that your son should have been suspended for beating the other kid. BUT I also feel that the other kid should have been punished too for racial slurs. You need to talk to the principal about it and if that doesn't work the school board.
I am sorry to say that most kids who use racial slurs learn it at home. My dad always said you can jugde a person intellengence by the way they speak. Obviously the kid who mouth off the slurs has an intelligence of an acorn.

Answer 4

i think the other child should have been punished as well.

Though i congrdulate your son for sticking up for himself i dont agree with him using violence.

Though I think the school should take into account you son has aspergers. Does he have an IEP or a 504? they usually wont take anything into account unless he has documentation by the school.

But it is a good thing he stood up for himself. many kids with aspergers unfortunately dont and get pushed around alot ( i am speaking from experience i have asperger's syndrome) also i have experice with being bullied because of racial/discrimanatory remarks. when i was in 8th grade i let this one kid push me around he called me horrible things. Sometimes i look back and wish i slapped that kid so hard that...... u get the drift. i urge you to talk to the school about the punishment of the other student.

It is fair that he got suspended

It is NOT fair that the other kid did not get punished aswell

Answer 5

Yes, your son should have been suspended. Any child who fights on school grounds should be suspended. However, the racist child should be given a lot worse. Your son should not have to put up with that bullsh*t, especially at school. The sad thing is your son will deal with racism all his life. You need to teach him to be stronger. Not physically, but emotionally and mentally. Rather than beating the hell out of every racist that comes along, he needs to rise above the racist people. He can do this by staying in school, going to college, and being a fine, educated man. Then someday he can look at this racist pig that is scrubbing toilets for a living, and see that the little punks words never mattered. Good luck to you and your son.

Answer 6

The other kids an idiot! And your son did the right thing by kicking his ***! i would be proud of my son for sticking up for himself after numerous requests asking the kid to stop.

The school was wrong for only suspending your son. Both should have been suspended. Unfortunately it doesn't matter who verbally started the dispute, once punches are thrown they both should be suspended. This is how it is in most schools.

Personally I would continue to contact the school and get the other kid suspended as well. I would even request a meeting with the kids parents and the principal.

Good luck to you.....and tell your son I'm proud of him. He tried to be mature about the situation, unfortunately the kid wasn't giving a s**t and needed to be put in his place.

Your raising a great son.

Answer 7

Doesn't matter that the student started it. Your son could have easily ignored him and went on his way. I'm speaking from experience from having NLD and some symptoms of Asperger's. Your son let out phsyical force and that's just no ok according to the schools today. If your son actually felt it was a racial comment and he was making fun of him for it then he should have gone to a teacher instead of taking it into his own hands.

Answer 8

Not sure what State you are in but in Oklahoma at least in Oklahoma City they both would have been suspended. My daughter was suspended for fighting a girl who was calling me a B----. I told not to let the words get to her walk away after all most of the time I am. If you son is as good as you say then maybe the school is wanting to really scare him so he will not fight anymore?? And to give him time away from the other kid. Have you talked to the Super about this? Ask them to explain why your son was suspended and not the other child?

Answer 9

The school my have a zero tolerance policy and may have rules in place that they have to follow. Unfortunately, your son was the first one to hit, from what you have described. If these situations happen again, encourage him to walk away, to tell a teacher or the principal, but to not take matters into his own hands. Use this as a learning opportunity for your son to help him learn better ways to handle his frustration and anger. While his anger was understandable, his solution was not the best one. I hope the other child involved was also punished, as I don't think he should get away with this either. Best of luck to both you and your son.

Answer 10

Sometimes the best, most well mannered people lose their temper and break societies rules. Why? Because we are human.
Your son sounds like a son to be proud of. If he can turn the cheek at racial slurs, that shows he has class, stamina and an inner strength.
To finally say, enough is enough and pop the little bigot, as I said just shows he is human.
Don't blame the school for he did fight....but for good reason.
Give him a hug.
Good luck

Answer 11

yes your son should be suspended from school. I don't care how good he normally is. was the school notified of the other child's behavior? If not shame on you and your son. If yes get in there and tell them you want that child punished as well. But remember it may not be as severe because he was only using words not fists. one more thing keep the race card please be above that. Who cares what race either kid is, inappropriate behavior is the issue, by both children.

Edit: after reading some of the responses you got..i would recomend NOT suing the other kid and his family they could get your kid for assault you could be legally charged and sued. You would probably loose. Handle through the school.