He still texts and talks on the phone to his ex but only when i'm not around. If she calls when I'm with him he want even take the call.He says he doesn't want anything to do with her, but when I ask him why he didn't just tell her that he has a girlfriend he just didn't have to much responce.Is he still having something with her and not telling her about me to keep her on the ready?
2007-12-17 00:28:53 · 9 answers · asked by SweetonU 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't care what kind of arguments people try to use to convince me otherwise: you CAN'T "just be friends" with an ex that you've had a legitimate history with (and by legitimate, I mean more than a month or two of being together) because there were too many experiences that defined our lives and looking back at them will inevitably spark some kind of emotion towards that person, whether good or bad. It sounds to me like he still has some sort of feeling toward this girl; otherwise, he wouldn't be so secretive about the conversations he's been having with her. Tell him to try and put himself in your shoes: would HE enjoy it if you talked to your ex's on the phone? I'm assuming not. Tell him it's hurting you, and although you respect his wishes to talk with his friends, it worries you nonetheless. If he's flippant in response, you're probably better off without him.
Tim
2007-12-17 00:40:42 · answer #1 · answered by Tim G 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if he really didn't want anything to do with her then he wouldn't take her texts at all and he would have told her he was with someone else.
Are you sure they are really broken up? If they are, then he may hope to get back with her. Some people are so afraid of being alone that they will bounce from one relationship right into another one as soon as possible before they are really ready to move on.
If you've already talked this into the ground with him and he can't give you a reasonable answer as to why he is still talking with her when he claims that he doesn't want to have anything to do with her and he can't tell you why he hasn't told her he is with someone, then I think that it is fair to tell him to choose either you or his ex. But you need to be prepared for him to choose the ex.
OR
You can decide that you don't want to be in a relationship with someone who isn't over his ex and tell him to give you a call when he is available and IF you are available at that time, MAYBE the two of you can get back together.
Good Luck.
2007-12-17 00:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should be 100% truthful with you. My BF is still friends with his ex, but he will talk to her when I'am around, we all have hung out a couple of times, but it wasn't always like that. I had to bring up the issue of why he doesn't talk to her in front of me. It use to bother me if he did that. That comes off extremely sneaky. So if he has nothing to hide, then there shouldn't be a problem to talk to her when your around. If he has a problem with it, then you know he is hiding something.
2007-12-19 10:10:02 · answer #3 · answered by Kitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe he still has some feelings for his ex! maybe they ended on good terms and are still good friends.
he might be worried that you will take it the wrong way if he tells you and he probably doesnt want to hurt your feelings.
talk to him about it and tell him that you are okay with him still being friends with his ex
good luck with it!!!!!!!
2007-12-17 00:40:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex calls me when his new girlfriend is not around, and we have had close encounters, and he as turned up at my house to spend the night, ask yourself, if there was nothing to hide he would take the calls when you are around
2007-12-17 00:35:28 · answer #5 · answered by Loli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you tell her hes with you? he could be just keeping the peace between the two of them. but he should understand your feelings on the matter to. tell him he makes you feel like theres something going on because you feel like your being hidden.
2007-12-17 00:36:11 · answer #6 · answered by jstagirl1969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yess yess yess you know that he still wants her and i dont even know you but i know that you can do better than that. NOBODY DESERVES TO BE SWEPT UNDER THE RUG LIKE DIRT!!!
2007-12-17 00:33:17 · answer #7 · answered by fujiflm2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to talk to him and explain to him how much it is bothering you.
2007-12-17 00:36:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH MY GOD
i would NOT be dating a loser like this, take a hint!!!
2007-12-17 00:36:06 · answer #9 · answered by Mellissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋