1- how many naps for 1 year old? 2- how do I get baby to accept nanny?

Question

1- my boys are 13 months old. How many naps a day should they be having now? And how long? what is the latest They should get up from their nap if I want them in bed by 8:30?

2- We use to have a nanny that was with us since they were 2 months old. Now we have a new one who has only been with us for 2 days. I know this must be very hard on my little boys, so far they scream if she even takes a step close to them. They are ok if I am in the room but if I even go to the bathroom and they're alone with her they cry. They wont let her hold them, change clothes or diaper, wash their hands..nothing. Is there anything I can do to help my boys adjust to this big change easier on them? things are very hard on them, AND ME, right now.
( I know for a fact she isnt hurting them or anything like that...they just dont know her and miss the last one. )

I left them alone together at a play place in the mall (supervised) yesterday. one of the boys was fine, the other one just screamed and screamed until the play place manager actually called me and told me to come get him. This is why I ask...I need to start work soon, how can I get them to adjust and not worry about them crying with her all day?

Answer 1

Your best bet is to leave them with her alone more often. The boys see that when they cry mommy comes running eventually they will get used to her. It is a big change for them but the new nanny will do better if you aren't there. I know it will be hard but it will get better

Answer 2

About naps - every child is different. Many children by this age only need one nap, either late morning or early afternoon. Some still need two naps, and some are ready to give them up completely. You have to figure it out by when they get cranky, and when they naturally fall asleep if you don't put them to bed.

The problem with the nanny is that your sons are now at the age of separation anxiety. You are the most important person in the world to them, and they get very upset when you are not with them. Leaving them with a stranger is going to be traumatic for you all. When they were two months old, they didn't really care who picked them up or looked after them, so long as their needs were met. But now, you shouldn't leave them with anyone they don't know until they grow out of this stage.

To help them get used to the nanny,, the best thing is for her to spend as much time as possible with you as a family, and gradually (after a few weeks) take over some of the boys' needs - like helping them eat, or changing them - while you're still there. Then you can try just leaving the room for a minute or two and returning, until they're used to that, and then for longer periods.

Answer 3

1) My son is 13 months old and this is his sleeping pattern:
5:30 - Wake Up
6:30 - Back to bed (if I don't wake him at 5:30 he'll sleep straight till 7, we just do this because I have to take him to his grandma's early so I can get to work)
10:30 - Nap
2:30 - Nap
6:30 - Bedtime
*Each nap can range, they are usually an hour but if we skip one or have a long/busy day it can be two hours.
2) I think you should attack this two ways. First of all, try not to force it. Just let the Nanny hang out with you guys as much as possible when you are home. Don't have her actually take care of the boys, just always have her there when you are changing them or just sitting on the couch. That way she becomes part of the home. She won't be a stranger to them. This is a big age for stranger-fears (my little guy panics now too!) Then, since there are times when you need to leave her alone with them make sure they are in a safe and comfy place (like your home) and just slip out (maybe while they are napping). Try it out in small incriments of time 30 min, than an hour...
That may help! Good luck. :)

Answer 4

At one year old they either need 2 short naps morning and afternoon (about 1 to 1 1/2 hours each) or one longer nap (about 2-3 hours) in the middle of the day.

I have a 14 month old and 2 year old, they both sleep from 12:30-2:30 or 3pm. Bedtime at night is always by 7pm (then they sleep right through to around 6am - could go longer but husband wakes them when he gets up for work). I would say that 8:30 is a little late, you could be missing the "sleep window" and they could become over-tired. Aim for bedtime a little earlier and their nap should go no longer than 3pm so that they are tired enough for night time sleep.

That must be hard for your little boys to get used to someone completely new. Babies get so attached to their primary caregivers that it would he hard to adjust to a big change at their age but they definitely will in time. Their rejection of her so far is perfectly understandable but gradually they will come to accept her. As long as she is loving, warm and bright and cheerful, they will be fine. Give them time.

All the best.

Answer 5

With you there and the nanny you're making it awkward for everyone. Leave the boys they'll cry and then forget about you in just a minute and the nanny won't feel so weird as she does with you there judging her either, which will make her more comfortable and the boys will notice that change. One nap is sufficient.