My son's dad is from overseas. He left me while I was pregnant, son now 12 year old. Never got support, but he went to court when son was 2, dragged me thru mud, and got extensive visitation. I never asked for support b/c i was advised he would still harass me. they have gone on vacations before and not taken him, the excuse? "He dosent have a passport".
He fights me on everything. He was abusive verbally so I asked him to communicate by email, then he wouldnt respond to any emails (ie school lunch questions, ect). then if I called after that, he would say, email ONLY, CLICK. Recently when he called, I did the same back at him (he had been doing this for months...EMAIL ONLY, CLICK. Now, the night before he leaves, at 11:30 pm (and I could NEVER call HIM at these hours) he wants to drop something off for son, as he is leaving. He dropped off a Christmas card and $80. the Xmas card was like, "Our family wishes you a Merry christmas, son", signed dad and family.
I called him after that
2007-12-16 22:40:19 · 3 answers · asked by me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
and said, you are not taking him YET AGAIN? Could it be that yo dont consider him 'part of your famil'? He again said it was MY fault for not getting passport. I had told him previous that even I would like to get him one (dont have money to travel). then he went in about how selfish I was, how I dont have a family like him to take him to, ect
then he emailed me with the above and what a negligent mother I am, how I try to poison his mind, how he has a wonderful hge family and I have none, how its all my fault and I am really selfish, and how I cant be compassionate during this time that my son's great gandmother died (excuse/reason for travel) Please tell me what is going on here? Do I have a right to feel pissed or am I selfish?
2007-12-16 22:44:07 · update #1
thanks for your two replies, I am really looking for insight on his present behavior with leaving him here for christmas, ect than the child support issue. thanks!!
2007-12-16 23:03:07 · update #2
Take him to court for child support!!!! Don't cheat your son out of anything that the money would provide for him. He is already harassing you, what the difference?
2007-12-16 22:45:09 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be very carefull about getting a passport for your son, as he probably wouldnt bring him back you know, it happens all the time, and get child support as he has already taken you to court, ive been there, and it doesnt get any nastier than at that place
2007-12-17 06:58:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not allow this man to take my son out of the country. You may not get him back. Stick to your guns and dont get the passport!!
2007-12-17 07:44:32 · answer #3 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋