Why do lots of people have relatioship problems?

Question

Are our morals badly degraded that we find it hard to relate properly?

Like
why are there more infidels than faithful partners?
why are some friends turn out to be traitors?
why do we leave the people we love?
why do some people love those they should not love?

Answer 1

Because basic communications skills aren't taught anywhere in our culture.

because so many people have emotional needs that aren't met, that they look to the wrong people or have unrealistic expectations, to get their needs met

because so many people are emotionally damaged, and are trying to ease their pain on the wrong way

because so many people aren't taught basic spiritual principles such as, what you give out comes back to you, turn the other cheek, it is more joyful to give than receive, etc

because so few people ever see adult behavior modeled, and so they behave like children all their lives.

Answer 2

People are always wanting something different, well most people, I am perfectly happy, but like the saying goes the grass is always greener on the other side until you get there.
And when it comes to friend people get jealous OR wanting to be better than the other, so yeah they try to always top the other.
We leave a person we love the most sometimes we get scared of being so close to someone, we just think we have to run. And plus sometimes the love you have for someone is so powerful it smothers us..
And love is a very tricky thing which leads me to the last one we love someone we think we love because of all the wrong reasons, We feel lonely, we are physically attached. etc....
And sometimes WE ARE JUST PLAIN DUMB lol

Answer 3

Yes wy do we love some people that we should not love...that has happened to me a few times in life I could not help my heart but once I found out their true characters and the masks flew off I did not have the same degree of love for them...At first I always thought it was a physical attraction but then when I looked closely at the entire package of the man I was interested in I was far above them and they were not worthy of me ..........

You must be selective and rational because in the end you will have relationship problems if you marry the wrong person and have kids to then your life is hell .................

As far as friend being traitors I got rid of many friends I knew for years ...........its not the quantity it is the quality..............

and the actions of friends tell all not so much the word and that is who I decide to keep in my life and be selective..............

Answer 4

Unfortunately we are not born with competency nor are we impervious to the infection of incompetency.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erick_Erickson

Erikson's psychosocial crisis stages:

(syntonic v dystonic)


1. *Trust v Mistrust - Oral + Infant / mother / feeding and being comforted, teething, sleeping ~ Hope and Drive > Sensory Distortion / Withdrawal

2. *Autonomy v Shame & Doubt - Anal + Toddler / parents / bodily functions, toilet training, muscular control, walking ~ Willpower and Self-Control > Impulsivity / Compulsion

3. *Initiative v Guilt - Phallic + Preschool / family / exploration and discovery, adventure and play ~ Purpose and Direction > Ruthlessness / Inhibition

4. *Competency v Inferiority - Latency + Schoolchild / school, teachers, friends, neighborhood / achievement and accomplishment ~ Competence and Method > Narrow Virtuosity / Inertia

5. *Identity v Role Confusion - Puberty and Genitality + Adolescent / peers, groups, influences / resolving identity and direction, becoming a grown-up ~ Fidelity and Devotion > Fanaticism / Repudiation

6. *Intimacy v Isolation - (Genitality) + Young adult / lovers, friends, work connections / intimate relationships, work and social life ~ Love and Affiliation > Promiscuity / Exclusivity

7. *Generativity v Stagnation + Mid-adult / children, community / 'giving back', helping, contributing ~ Care and Production > Overextension / Rejectivity

8. *Integrity v Despair + Late adult / society, the world, life / meaning and purpose, life achievements ~ Wisdom and Renunciation > Presumption / Disdain

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erick_Erickson

Answer 5

Because they don't really have relationships to begin with... Most people fall in love with the idea of being in love rather than with an actual person. Until that cycle is broken, these illusions of love will always cause relationship problems.

Answer 6

People are wired to be interdependent. Another thing is we don't really know what we really need. We tend to need what we want, instead of wanting what we need. Besides, we are really messed up in a messed up world.

I try to go into relationships with the idea of NOT what I can get out of it but, on the contrary, what do I have to offer. Nobody owes me anything, and to think less about myself is the key to good lasting relationships.

Answer 7

Because relationships mean giving up some things we naturally want like, say, other partners, and some people are too selfish.... and sometimes things naturally work out so that being together doesn't suit both people.

Answer 8

you ask all good questions.
1.) because some people have a hard time sticking to just one person.
2.) because they got there own lives going on and they want whats best for them. and when they hang out with other people she thinks there cooler then you. backstabbers
3.) you shouldnt leave the person you love for the person you like because the person you like is going to leave you for the person they love. technically in simpler words.. that person is no longer 'hot"
4.) because they need a shoulder to lean on and they think they cant find anybody else out there. so that person sticks with that one and says they love them

Answer 9

I believe it is because the human being is a creature of wonder and curiosity. We are advanced, but not to each other. We are aware of us, and only slightly to others. We are always trying to find the bigger better deal. We're selfish at times, and we easily look past others. That, and humans don't look before they leap..it's just our nature I suppose.

Answer 10

because thats the way love is. sometimes its bad sometimes its good. love isnt suppose to be easy its suppose to be worth it. i will admit there has been a moral decline but the ones that are worth keeping in your life will not betray you or be unfaithful. everyone deserves love and everyone is capable of being loved maybe they see something in that person that we dont.