Given the amount of time, say...you have been together as a couple.
2007-12-16 19:15:08 · 14 answers · asked by nomore 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It been over 7 years, and marriage is alway talked about..but it's never happened.. no proposal,
2007-12-16 19:31:08 · update #1
Well, I don't think its ever right to push proposals, or to put pressure on men and force them to marry you. You don't want a proposal you have to strongarm someone into. At the same time, if you've been with someone for 5 years, it's time to have a discussion about the future and where you're both heading. So I think it's less about "waiting for a proposal" and more about "talking about commitment." Start a discussion about your future plans and what you'd like for the future - then find out if his goals align with yours. If they don't, then you need to decide if you can wait to give him more time or if your relationship isn't going to progress. But never pressure a man into a proposal - it wont' be fair for either of you and the marriage will suffer because of it. Good luck!
P.S. Remember, it's almost 2008 - women can do the proposing now too, you know. ;-)
2007-12-16 19:20:23 · answer #1 · answered by T 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
For me... at the end of 3 years, a ring or a proposal should be in the works. I would know after 1 or 2 years if this is the person I want to marry. And he still doesnt know after 3 years, then the answer is probably "no" and I would want to move on. Thats just me.
Are you sure your guy is into marriage? Some people just dont like the thought of it, yet are able to make lifelong commitments without the marriage license. Girl its been 7 years!! Get to the bottom of this!
2007-12-16 19:47:41 · answer #2 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, I ask this question, why should he marry you when you have given him all that a wife would give her husband. You live with him, you do his laundry, you sleep with him, you make him dinner, so why should he marry you? Seven years is way too long, and he needs a shakeup, and the time is NOW. I would give him a time frame and sort of an ultimatum, and if he resists, and it will be difficult, I would leave even if it is for a while. Go back home and wait for him to react...If he really loves you, he will come calling with a ring and pleading with you to set a date. If he has just been playing house, and doesn't come after you, then good riddance and go on with your life and never look back. He then doesn't deserve you.
2007-12-18 10:03:46 · answer #3 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no right answer. My guy and I had been together 4 years before he proposed, and it never felt like I was "waiting" on him to come around. It's like we'd always kind of talked about getting married but neither of us felt ready yet, then suddenly it seemed like we just felt ready, he proposed a couple months later...
I think "too long" is not defined by a certain number of months or years, think its better defined by a feeling. If it "feels" like one person has just been waiting and waiting for the other to come around, then you're probably waiting too long.
2007-12-17 05:24:39 · answer #4 · answered by thisisthestoryofagirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the couple and their goals for the future. I think it's wise to wait to get married until any educational goals are finished. But there's really no reason you can't be engaged while waiting to finish. I think it's nice to know someone has promised his/herself to you even if you know you are unable to be married for a few more years. I also think each person knows what is acceptable to them. If you feel you've waited to long (and are being reasonable), then you probably have. Be sure to consider the other person's feelings and reasons behind not wanting to propose though.
2007-12-16 19:41:21 · answer #5 · answered by clowe722 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is different for everyone. I would say when you and your partner are mature enough for marriage then a proposal should come but if your not ready then don't push it. It took my fiancee 2 1/2 yrs before we became engaged but we had to situate ourselves in our relationship first.
2007-12-17 00:33:28 · answer #6 · answered by OFFICIALLY MRS. HOWARD! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him straight. Ask him if he sees marriage in the future for both of you and if so, when. If you aren't happy with the answer or it doesn't look like he's ready to get married then tell him you're concerned this isn't going to happen and you want to get married. If he doesn't share the same hope then get out and find someone who is ready for marriage for real.
2007-12-16 23:51:14 · answer #7 · answered by Rockit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we've been together almost 9...but I'm only 24, so we're not in any rush...but we do have an understanding that it'll happen within the next year or so.
does he know how you feel? you don't want to push, but if you've been together that long, and you are considering marrying him, you should be able to talk about it.
good luck!
2007-12-17 15:36:55 · answer #8 · answered by jennyvee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're fed up with waiting, then you've waited too long. There is no set amount of time.
If I were you, though, I'd leave. For me, seven years is too long unless one or both of you was still in school for some of those years.
2007-12-17 02:52:43 · answer #9 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually within two years of dating seriously, that's enough. Maybe dating for three, but for me, that would be tops. No need to wait any longer, if your goals are different!
2007-12-16 23:22:34 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋