So there’s this boy, D. He likes me, and I like him. We’ve hooked up a couple times (just making out). He’s asked me to keep it from all our friends though. He told me back in November (after the first time we hooked up) that with friends, he will hook up with them a few times to “get to know them more” and then if he likes her, he’ll ask them out. We’ve hooked up three times, but now its Winter Break, so we won’t see each other for an entire month.
Do you think we have the potential to turn into an actual relationship?
2007-12-16 19:11:39 · 14 answers · asked by A Nonny Mouse 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We're only hooking up with eachother, and we're friends with the same friends
2007-12-16 19:16:32 · update #1
You're too gullible. Anytime a guy won't tell his friends he likes you, you don't stand a chance in hell. He's just going to keep 'hooking up' with you until you give up the goods. Then he'll dump you.
2007-12-16 19:16:10 · answer #1 · answered by bill b 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO!
A relationship isn't just based on "hooking up" It is more than than. On what his rules are on finding a relationship, it looks like he is just using you. Sucking all the blood out of you and leaving you with hope but there is actually nothing at the end of the bridge. And he does this over and over to "friends"?? By the time he really commits with somebody in a relationship he would already have slept with a dozen different women, checking them out to see if they are "relationship" material.
I say you quit playing his game coz you are clearly the loser. He will use you, drain you out, and leave you on the streets with an empty heart.
Save yourself while you can. Good luck, girl!
2007-12-17 03:22:16 · answer #2 · answered by ivory_windy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends.. what my older sister told me is that guys generally classify girls they're interested in subconsciously, in two groups. if he gets action from a girl easily.. generally speaking he'll be less interested because the girl didn't make him work for it, there was no chase ...so they'll put them in the fool around buddy side. that side is reversible but its hard to come out of sometimes.. because once the guys loose that image of you being the girl they can introduce to their parents because they're morally strong, respectable etc it's hard to pull back. this isn't to say you're easy.. its just that guys will sometimes simplify things far to much. you might be in his dating agenda.. but it's not certain yet. i say put off on the hanky panky when you guys are in the same city next until he tells you for certain he wants to be in a relationship with you. unless you want just the hook up ordeal.. thats all on you though.
2007-12-17 03:28:44 · answer #3 · answered by luckmess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about this "get to know them more" stuff he's trying to pull with you. I'm going to be brutally honest, he may just be telling you a load of crap because he likes making out with lots of girls without having to worry about being in a relationship with them. If he really wanted to "get to know you more" then he would take the time to get to know your personality and not just your lips. The important thing is that you don't allow him to mess around with you if you *really* like him. Don't get hurt!
2007-12-17 03:17:11 · answer #4 · answered by Sparklemoon14 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a guy asks you to keep it from your friends, it doesn't look too good. Sorry, but it seems like the ball is now entirely in his court; be prepared for disappointment, but hopefully, if you do like this guy and if he does like you, it'll work out. Good Luck!
2007-12-17 03:17:11 · answer #5 · answered by gillianinchains 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have as much potential as the 5 or 6 other girls he's doing the same thing with.
2007-12-17 03:14:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
a hook up like you describe it is a very shallow relationship. that's fine if that's what you want but i think you're asking for a fast track to heart ache.
2007-12-17 03:15:49 · answer #7 · answered by monkey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sounds fishy to me, I don't think I would mess with him. Sounds like you could find someone better for you.
2007-12-17 03:14:57 · answer #8 · answered by xdead_pierced_up_princessx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a user to me, I can't imagine why you would want to have a relationship with someone that is pretty obviously just using you.
2007-12-17 03:15:16 · answer #9 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No because he is hiding you from his friends means that he has a girlfriend and don't want his friends telling her.
2007-12-17 03:14:51 · answer #10 · answered by Nae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋