I'm depressed and have anxiety disorder and am seeing a psychiatrist. Recently my psychiatrist and I have attributed my conditions to being lonley -- especially at night time. I barley ever have contact with people because of my job, where I can't talk to anyone there either. I am engaged but untill June of 2008 we are in a long distance relationship. I feel especially lonley at night because we used to cuddle every night and now i dont have that. I feel so lonley and insecure that im losing sleep worse than I already was. Is there anything I can do to not feel so lonley? thanks =/
2007-12-16 18:56:25 · 15 answers · asked by Maxwell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You and I both. The best reasoning I've read is that I'm "lonely for myself." I'm not the person I want to be, open, honest, articulate, interesting. Until I free myself of my anger, depression, anxiety, and start doing what I want, start following my interests and developing them into passions, start taking risks by showing my personality, then I'm nothing and no one, and can't help but be lonely.
Another person just allows us to forget our loneliness for a while. Her presence is not a cure, just a band-aid. We still have to get out there and make a difference, however insignificant in the greater scheme of things.
I'm working on making an authentic 100% handmade Iroquois Native American costume for my son for next Halloween. I've learned fingerweaving, and am planning to learn wampum weaving, tooling leather moccasins, beading, sewing, and woodworking. Yes, these are completely useless skills, and kind of feminine, but this is who I am damnit! Maybe I can sell some of it on eBay?
2007-12-16 19:06:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MIght I suggest that you discuss this issue with the person you are engaged to? Also, the idea of getting a pet may be good... even to "borrow" one for a while from someone who is willing (I've heard of businesses who do such things), but you may be able to alleviate the loneliness with more time with a couple of friends (not too many, so you don't spread yourself to thin) , even inviting some to stay over once in a while and watch movies or something or staying over at another person's house or at least finding people to chat with on the web (webcams can help... using skype or something) or even join a group dedicated to a certain hobby or something you like or volunteering to get you good quality time with others, maybe even take your mind off of yourself in a good way :).
2007-12-16 19:07:49 · answer #2 · answered by reasonmusic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well look i understand that you have depression. I also have depression.
I also understand that youre lonely - but not long to go - 6 months and youll be with your love again. That is not much longer to wait even though it feels like that. You still have phone calls.
At least you are engaged. I have depression and i sleep alone every night as im single atm. The only thing i have to cuddle is my hello kitty soft toy and i dont think anyone has given me a hug in at least 3 weeks.
Ask your psychiatrist for some ideas. Are there any family members you can talk to?
Good luck.
2007-12-16 19:27:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you join a charity group or take some classes so that you can meet some new people? You will find that if you put yourself 'out there' more socially, things will get better.
Good luck to you!
2007-12-16 23:38:13 · answer #4 · answered by Rogue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
music is a big help. listen to music that keeps u happy. no sad stuff. dance when ur alone in the car or at home. be a dork with ur self. get a pettt thats a good idea. i have a cat and i cuddle with her when i want lol. umm...just think happy thoughts if you can...people have worst lives be thankful of what u have. and just always think to smileee :-)
2007-12-16 19:08:01 · answer #5 · answered by LBeauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out more with family & friends, enjoy the sun and nature. Read an interesting novel to help you sleep. Try meditating and drinking herbal tea to calm yourself.
2007-12-16 19:01:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have already said the reason of ur loneliness, it is normal state of everyone at certain stages. i think u need to make friends to escape ur loneliness, do not get withdrawn by urself & do not dedicate urself too much to ur work...
2007-12-16 19:09:53 · answer #7 · answered by miraclelight777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy your alone time. do not see it as being lonely. see being alone as a reward. realize that solitude is far better than any relationship. ask anyone in a relationship and they will find something to complain about. being alone brings about peace and quite. do what ever you please any time you want to. in relationships, you almost have wonder what the other person want to do or not want to do.. relationships are like prisons. like going out to dinner. there is nothing nicer than to enjoy a meal with out having to talk or entertain anyone all animals ( humans are animals) want to eat in peace. so enjoy being alone. because you are with someone very nice YOU
2016-03-16 01:33:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make new friends, get out of the house and hang out with friends.
2007-12-17 06:44:52 · answer #9 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is lonely but lonely should not rip you open. you worth more than a job or just cuddling up with a girl. go and find the purpose of your life.
2007-12-16 19:05:14 · answer #10 · answered by hwlwlf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋