Is it ok to get engaged without setting a date for a wedding right away?

Question

I do not know what the etiquette is for engagements. How long should we know each other before getting engaged for society to accept our engagement without freaking out? Is six months long enough?

Answer 1

I don't think you should worry about any of this! You get engaged when you feel it is the time for you and whenever you decide to set the date. My fiance and I have been together for over a year and we were engaged two months after we got together. Our big day is in two months!
I don't bother myself with the hang ups that other people may or may not have about how I live my life. They have a problem with it...that's exactly what it is....their problem.
It's all about you. Good luck sweetie!!!

Answer 2

Then you'd have to think what the purpose of getting engaged is - it's supposed to be the time prepatory for marriage, to get a wedding planned. So usually a date is set, average would be a year, for the wedding pretty soon after the engagement.
You really need to be dating seriously for a year and a half to two years to be able to make a mature decision about getting engaged and married. You don't know one another well enough after six months.

Answer 3

Some people get engaged and their engagement lasts for years, you do not have to set a date until both of you are ready to, whether that takes 6 days, 6 months or 6 years.

Answer 4

Six months is fine - and getting engaged without setting a date is perfectly acceptable, you both need to decide on when the wedding should be held.

Answer 5

well...don't forget that "engaged" is short for "engaged to be married". if you are not ready to get married, why get engaged?

i think it's best to be with a person for at least 2 years before getting engaged, though. some can be ready sooner, of course, but it seems that waiting is better than rushing. of course, age does factor in somewhat. If you are in your 20s (or younger) 6 months is definitely not enough. If you are in your 30s or older, you might be able to get away with it.

good luck, and congrats on finding the one!

Answer 6

6 months is definitely not a long time.
but if you're happy and in love then it's fine!
***** what society says.
if they don't like it too bad, your happiness is the only thing it boils down to right?
just make sure you're ready to spend the rest of your life with that girl, that you know everything about her, all her little quirks, etc.
you don't want to be surprised with all that crap AFTER you're married.
as for a date, it can be whenever you want it to be.
don't just get engaged to try and keep her around though.
only do it out of love and meaningfulness.
you don't need a date though.
a rough idea of time is good but you don't NEED a date.
who knows what the future, and life will bring us?
good luck though, i wish you all the best.

Answer 7

I think getting engaged without a date is fine... just be sure to make one as soon as you can, it's easy to say you'll do that later.
I think the "acceptable" length of time to know each other, etc. is highly dependent upon your age and the people you are trying to be "acceptable" to. The society in general varies greatly...
Congrats!

Answer 8

Of course its fine.

You don't need a wedding date to be engaged. All you need is him to ask you to marry him and you to say yes!

No ring, or date, is needed.

IMO you should be dating for no less than a year before getting engaged, but that's just me.

Answer 9

There really is no ettiquette when it comes to this sort of thing, people will either accept or not accept and those who don't accept will just have to build a bridge and get over it! LOL

My fiance proposed to me a year ago today (OMG :) )
and we're not getting married until this april!

Good Luck!

Answer 10

Go for it. Who cares what society says. My wife and I met in October, were engaged in April and married in December. Later this month we celebrate our 36th anniversary. Hope this helps.