my bf has a good fren (lady) married with a kid of 5yrs old. Her hubby is always busy and that's y she would always meet us for dinner. She was actually our co-worker, which i have left the ex company. Leaving her and my bf in the same company now. Recently i was disappointed with my bf, for he shop a xmas gift (handbag) for her. When i am looking at my own bag, my bf told me. If i like the bag ? If like he can buy it for my xmas gift. I was abit disappointed and leave the bag without buying. Coz i feel that he got no sincerity. My sentiments if he can find time, searching bag for others. Y can't he find time to find present for me ? Humh... Rather then just buy anything i took from the store ??
2007-12-16 18:47:12 · 19 answers · asked by Samantha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There are few occasions that during the shopping spee with my ladies fren. (3 gals / 1 guy) i went disappear with one of the gal. He wasn't at the least of worry for me.. But if the lady fren got missing he would ask me to call her up ? I can't even ask him for opinon of any shopping things. Coz the lady's child will keep pulling him away. I even told him. our outing now seems like week of 7 days. It's about 4 or 5 days they are around. I just feel if he can find time finding present for her, chosing and even put close to him. Asking if this or that design is nicer for her as present. Y can't he buy something when i am not around. I am not staying with him. he should have more privicy. sigh...
2007-12-16 19:04:23 · update #1
this is inevitable
i will say u r jealous
2007-12-16 18:53:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's how people usually are - they tend to do more for others out of politeness. For example, if you are having guests over, you clean the house and make a special meal. If your bf is coming over, you might not clean as thoroughly and not put as much effort into the meal. Same with the gift giving. Don't take it too personally. He doesn't know how that made you feel so you should tell him. Guys can be clueless about these things and are usually not so sensitive to how women feel. I think you are upset for no GOOD reason, but I understand how that could make you hurt. Also a handbag seems like too personal a gift to get for another woman. He might not be aware of this. If a guy gave me a handbag I might think he must really like me a lot, so if it's not too late maybe you can tell him to get her something else like a pen or picture frame or something less personal!
2007-12-17 02:53:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, this guy noticed that you liked a certain item and THEN he offered to buy it for you as a gift? I think that there is sincerity in it especially since he wanted to get you exactly what you wanted. What, would you rather he go out and search for something and possibly get the wrong thing, or buy you the perfect thing in front of you so that he doesn't get it wrong? To me it sounds like you were jealous and very sensitive...you are reading too much into it. He cares about you especially if he was willing to get you what you wanted.
2007-12-17 02:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by Shelley B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the gift to be just from him? Or would it be from the both of you?
Do either or both of you two get gifts from her? Is it from her or her family?
Could be that he wants to get you whatever you like for Christmas but doesn’t know what it is you want. Taking you shopping for other people might be his way of seeing what catches your eye without letting on he is actually shopping for you. My xgf had very particular taste. When something caught her eye I’d go back and get it. Then keep it until her Bday or Christmas knowing that she would like it.
So give the guy a chance and see what he gets you for Christmas.
2007-12-17 03:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by Light Knight 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how much the bag was and how much time he was looking for it. you really cant trust people now a days, i wouldnt put it past him, but I say you cant really speculate without any proof. Dont put yourself out by worrying but dont be suprised if something is going on. He's the one who'd be at a loss.
2007-12-17 02:54:10 · answer #5 · answered by angelsunshyn1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm he puts an awful lot of energy into this friendship with the other lady, doesnt he?? only YOU know what the real score is. Do YOU feel you are being oversensitive, or jealous with good reason???
2007-12-17 02:52:10 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
blowin it outa proportion, hes just doing something nice for her. Maybe think about how shes got it ruff becuz her husband isnt around, and yours is for you. Have compassion for her, and he will love your maturity in this matter. If he isnt giving you any warning signs, like loss of interest or late nites, then dont make this a big deal, you will shoot yerself in the foot.
2007-12-17 02:51:39 · answer #7 · answered by kaiors23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well Samantha ...
i think that you are jealous and also your friend is a Jerk.
I'm sorry to say that but believe me its what i feel about him.
as you said, if he has time to pick an Xmas gift for the lady ... so why cant he take another minutes to pick the finest to you !!!
don't be so sensitive but take care ...
Merry Christmas.
2007-12-17 02:57:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeh,i think u are over sensitive. he bought her a gift as per his likeness. but he care for u,thats why he asked u whether u like the one u r looking. he wants u to gv the thing u like not just anything. u can tell him to buy u the gift, & it doesn't matter whether u like it or not, u will b just happy that he has given u as per his choice. see what happens!
2007-12-17 02:58:27 · answer #9 · answered by mit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need a brake go for holiday for 15 days think about only good things and every thing will be right , remember good thought brings happy tomorrow
2007-12-17 02:52:28 · answer #10 · answered by Sunil Iyer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he try to find you a gift while you are there? Where is the surprise in that?
2007-12-17 02:53:50 · answer #11 · answered by Zero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋