What would you do?

Question

My son is 22 and his girlfriend just 18. They both moved back home with me rent free until they get on their feet. She said she wanted to move out here to Vegas because she did not have any support from her family when it came to being with or possibly marrying my son. They are pregnant and due at the end of July. They have no money and no jobs... She secretly tells him that I stress her out because she doesn't like when I ask her to do small household chores...(She's pregnant, not disabled)
He has moved across country and put his life on hold twice for her already. He does everything she wants... Except for this time... He finally has a chance to secure a really good job making a very good living but he has to do an apprenticeship for 4 years. Now she wants to move back to GA because her sister is pregnant now too (Her sister and my son can't stand each other) and she wants to be close to her mother now too... What about what he wants for once? Should he put his foot down?

Answer 1

I won't go into a big tirade about how people should be emotionally mature enough to have children (which the gf clearly isn't), but what should be the number one priority for you son is what's in the best interest of his unborn child and how can he the best provider. It's not going to be an easy decision and it sounds like there will be repercussions, but it sounds like you can provide the necessary support network for both your son, his gf, and your soon-to-be grandchild.

Answer 2

Well, if he does everything for her and she complains about it thats stupid. I mean if a guy is willing to do everything and she is only ask to do a couple little things while she is pregnant she should do them. She's 18. Not 2. I would have your son think about what he wants. Its not fair to him for him to do everything and her to do nothing even though she is pregnant. Both your son and his girlfriend should do equal work or your son should do a little bit more but not that much as he is doing now. She needs to understand that she is lucky to have him. She needs to understand that in order to keep him she has to do somethings to contribute.

Answer 3

abso -u----loutly, he needs 2 understand that no matter what he does for her she is not going 2 b happy because she's not HAPPY!! And with a baby commin he needs 2 get a well payin job. he needs 2 hold his ground !!! just from the info u gave the baby will b 4yrs old when he's finished his internship and every penny is gonna come in handy and right in a nick of time the older they get the more $$$$$!!!! U know that LOL

Answer 4

i would stay out of it. i know you want what's best for your son, and i agree wholeheartedly with you that she should help with the housework. i've been pregnant four times and still had to take care of my house....and i didn't have mommy or my MIL there to help. does she think that she won't have to do housework if they move back to GA??? i also agree that they should stay put since your son has this great opportunity. BUT....your son is a grown up now, has a family to consider, and has to make decisions that work for him and his family. you can't make this decision for him. she sounds like a spoiled brat but he chooses to be with her and he chose to make a baby with her.....so now he has to choose whats best for them. i completely understand your frustration with it though.....i hope in the end she grows up and realizes that he's trying to do something that will be best for all three of them if he decides to continue the apprenticeship. what's she going to do when the child makes messes that she has to clean up??? whine and cry until your son cleans it??? or force all of them to live in a pigsty????

Answer 5

Hi There!!
It is very necessary that you son should make his GF realise that some ddecisions of life should be taken by him too. You should guide him (but not pinpointing on his GF). You should make him realise what is important for him in life to support his kid and gf both. If you explain him in such a way he would definitely understand. And remember Kids love their parents but you need to be SMART too if you want him to excel in life

Answer 6

definitely, it sounds like her family is not too supportive and your son should tell her that with this job they can support their child and start a new life together that should get her thinking straight

Answer 7

Yes, he really needs to put his foot down. He needs to be a man and tell her that he wants to be a good provider for his family. She needs to stop being a complete jerk to him.

Answer 8

yes of course! if he misses out on a chance at a decent job (which is crucial since hes starting a family) and it is time to start a career, he should stand up to her because his future is on the line and if they dont work out, hell regret it later

Answer 9

they both mature enough to deal with their problem...So don't be so worry of them. that's better for u. because it's seem to u and u'r son girlfriend relationship not so smooth.
It's normal to a girl to back for her parents.
but she still need to understand and support u'r son, it's a responsibility to be a wife. in my opinion, u'r son should take a chance to change his life. that good for both of them.

Answer 10

like der yah!

let his girl knw that life isnt the way she wants it always goodlord tell your son to put his foot dwn and start actin like a man!