Have you ever been in an abusive relationship?

Question

What were the signs in the begining.......before it became physical abuse

Answer 1

1) overly posesive (where are you, where were you, where are you going)
2) seemingly idle threats (i'll kill you if you cheat on me...... ha-ha)
3) isolation (I don't like this person, they're a bad influence. I don't think you should talk to so and so anymore)
4) guilting you (if you loved me you'd "______",i'll kill myself if you "______", i wouldn't have to "_____" if only you'd just "____")
5) consistenly moody (in my case, he was bi-polar)
6) confidence issues (why are you with me? are you sure you love me? people who weren't that attractive when they were younger)
7) they witnessed abuse in their own home

Answer 2

Most abusers seem to have a natural ability to tell if someone is hooked on them, and the worst abuse starts as soon as the feelings run very deep. Then know how to push a relationship just to the breaking point and do frequently. The most important thing is to remember you should always maintain an absolute rule that any physical abuse will automatically end the relationship, no matter how deeply you feel.

Answer 3

Before physical comes emotional. Undermining you, calling you names, disregarding your input/feelings, are all signs. Other signs involve limiting where you go and when. Remember, this process can be slow! This is deadly because by the time the abuser becomes physical, the victim can have been degraded so badly that they no longer have the will power or strength to leave! If you're in danger, leave now! Leave while you're still smart enough to question your abuser! LEAVE FOR YOUR LIFE!

Answer 4

Miuscuita's answer is so right. I don't know why someone gave it a thumbs down.

It can start off seeming innocent and loving, when in fact it's controlling and manipulative. Little things like wanting to change what you wear, who you hang out with, going places without him, showing up wherever you are because he misses you. All for your own good of course and because he cares.

If you have that little voice inside saying something's wrong and this doesn't feel right...listen to it before it gets worse!

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays.

Answer 5

Yes, I have and am so thankful for the strength god had gave to me to get out of that relationship.
The signs before it got physical was verbal abuse.. they start off so loving and then when they get angry they begin calling you names and saying things to intentionally hurt you. And, after the verbal abuse becomes numbing to you because you're used to being called names by him, he then goes forward with the physical abuse.
Also, many men with anger problems end up getting physical with their loved one.

Answer 6

Manipulative, obsessive, overly jealous and possive, can be verbally abusive. Things normally start out small and when you pick up on it or comment, they apologize profusely, but it doesn't stop. They will go into how much they love you and the thought of losing you is too much to bear. As time goes on, these things will increase in frequency and intensity.

Answer 7

Yes I was 5 years ago and I am glad I put him in jail for the last time he hit me and I filed for divorce that mon. That was the best move I made.

There was signs but I thought he would be better after we married. Stupid me huh? I lived and I learned. Whenever there are signs of abuse of ANY lind get rid of him. It won't get better

Answer 8

before its physical - its a lot.
Name calling / arguments / demanding / jealousy.
With my sons dad, we were together for almost a year when i got pregnant - the violence started when i was 8 months pregnant. But the other abuse started when i told him i was pregnant - called me every name under the sun, got demanding of every little thing i did, always started stupid arguements with me. Got a phone call from my brother and he got jealous over it because it was "another guy". Started using my friends against me. Then the violence began. with all that other crap stacked on top of it - its not worth it.
Trust me on this girl, if your man is starting to do any of the things i mentioned, leave his *** because its just gonna get worse!

Answer 9

Yes. I was in an abusive relationship for 20 years. I wish I had never met her.

She was very manipulative and controlling in the beginning. She always had to have her way and she always accused me (falsely) of being abusive.

I am glad she is gone.

Answer 10

Emotional abuse preludes physical abuse.. being called worthless... made to feel inferior. You will begin to feel trapped, and feel like there's nothing you can do about it.

Basically, if you're asking this question, you already know something isn't right.