This guy who I've liked for almost 4 months now is ignoring me. I didn't do anything but I'm afraid that someone could have made stuff up about me and told him something. We have a non-verbal relationship, meaning we only "communicate" through body language, I just read his body language and facial expressions. I love him so much and my entire day revolves around him and I only run into him once in a while. I tried to let go and forget about him despite the harsh things I heard him say about me but I can't. I'm so deeply in love with this guy I dont even know and the hard part is, I can't let him go because I don't know anything about him and I feel like I'm losing a really great guy. Please please, help me, I don't know what to do or how to read him anymore, I need some comfort.
2007-12-16 17:47:39 · 21 answers · asked by Behave 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've felt the same way about a girl for awhile....
I no it's hard, but sometimes we just have to accept that even though we really want to be with someone, we can't force the other person to reciprocate that...
all we can do is hope that we can find another person just as great that feels the same way about us....
you sound like a really awesome girl, and I know without a doubt that you will find what you are looking for...just keep ur eyes open...
2007-12-16 17:52:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are a few things you could consider before making a decision:
Like you mentioned, you don't even know this guy, so what makes you think that you might be right about his character, when (pardon me) he could be someone who is not so great after all?
Perhaps he has found out from someone that you're interested in him and he's not interested, and that he doesn't want things to be awkward that's why he's avoiding you?
The harsh things he has said about you probably means that he's not interested in you at all, no?
I understand that love is blind; sometimes letting go may be a better choice, since you guys haven't started anything. It might be easier to let go now, when in the future feelings will be deeper, and by then, it would be even harder for you to let go. By then, he would have become an obsession instead of someone you love, since you find it hard to 'survive' without him.
Nevertheless, the choice is yours. What we can do is to give opinions. =)
2007-12-17 02:09:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not easy to forget some one but self respect is also another thing that you should not ignore. If you want some one to love you then I think you should hold you self respect before everything and the other person will be attractive towards you. But if a guy sayd bad things about you try to ignore him the way he does not even notice that you are giving him any importance by even ignoring him. Be normal and he will hopefully come towards you cuz if u care so much about a person and suddenly a person does not notice they feel bugged and will want to know the reasons. Sweety its hard but try it. Do not loose dignity
2007-12-17 01:54:32 · answer #3 · answered by bunny_thunny 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so scared to talk to him? Thats great you have a relationship where you can read his body language and whatnot, so many people would kill for that kind of connection. But that doesnt mean you can't talk to him. Does he have the same feeling towards you? If he's ignoring you, it's likely he thinks about you in a deep way, so he'd probably be glad if you faced him and asked him what was up.
And it can't do any harm.
2007-12-17 01:51:33 · answer #4 · answered by cactustree 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how that feels. It sucks. Just remember that you are beautiful and special and if hes stupid enough to ignore you and say mean things about you, then he doesn't deserve you. Just keep your'e head high and remember that if things don't work out with this guy it's just not meant to be and you'll find someone else who doesn't ignore you and treats you way better than this jerk. And remember that he's not the only guy in the world. You have plenty of time to find someone that you truly love and that truly loves you back : )
2007-12-17 01:56:57 · answer #5 · answered by m.i.m.h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look girl if he is not responsing you so do forget him and if there is some heartly relationship in you two guys then you two also should think about that relationship the whether is that the lifetime relation ship or not if yes then you know the answer what will be happen and if there is not any future of this relationship then you should let that problem on god and think if there is really feelings he have for you then he will call you and ha if you are studying then concentrate on that also
2007-12-17 01:57:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and let him know bluntly of how you are feeling because most guys do not get hints. Let him know your true feelings and he will either feel the same way as you do or not. The worst thing that can happen is that he doesn't like you and at least you can move on.
2007-12-17 01:50:43 · answer #7 · answered by Go For Broke 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are very young and vulnerable to your own wild emotions. As you say, you do not even know this boy, and in fact you do not have a relationship with him at all, only with your own fantasy.
You must understand that your behaviour probably appears really odd to him and his friends, and that he may even feel that you are stalking him!
Unfortunately if the object of our adoration does not want to be adored, we have to humbly accept this, painful as it is. In time you will find another boy and this time he will return your interest and actually want to talk to you with words!
2007-12-17 01:54:05 · answer #8 · answered by zucchinisisback 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to be rude. You cannot be truly in love with a guy if your relationship is non-verbal. It sounds like puppy love because you day dream about him constantly.
If he says bad things about you. I would avoid him. Look for someone who talks to you and asks you out for lunch or a date.
2007-12-17 01:51:34 · answer #9 · answered by Born Valentine's Day 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Um... I find it hard to believe that you are deeply in love with him based soley on "body language". You dont even know him. and how can he ignore you if you never talk? I would suggest talking to him and getting to know him. How can you love him so much if you dont even know him? You're not losing what you dont have. Just talk to him and get to know him.
2007-12-17 01:52:19 · answer #10 · answered by Melonball 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋